Zhao Benshan's ex-wife: From a dishwasher to a millionaire, she was abandoned by Zhao Benshan 33 years ago, and now it is impressive

Franklin Book Club

2024-05-30 09:44Posted in Jiangxi Emotional Field Creator

Author: Lin Meimei (rich book author)

In 2020, in a live broadcast, some netizens asked Zhao Benshan's wife Ma Lijuan about the criteria for finding a daughter-in-law.

She said slowly to the camera: "People must be decent, sensible, good to my son, and born in a complete family." ”

At this point, she may have realized that she was expressing herself inappropriately, and paused, and added:

"But it's not that a single-parent family can't do it, the main thing is to be harmonious, and family integrity is very important." 

As soon as this statement came out, it immediately sparked controversy.

Some netizens said that this sentence is an insinuation that Ge Shuzhen's child is too narrow-minded.

In fact, as a mother, it is understandable to consider the happiness of her children, but Zhao Benshan is a public figure, and as his wife, it is inevitable that saying such words will attract tongues.

Ge Shuzhen is Zhao Benshan's ex-wife, she married Zhao Benshan when he was the poorest, and after silently accompanying Zhao Benshan for 12 years, she ended the marriage when he became famous.

What kind of emotional entanglement does she have with Zhao Benshan? Now that 33 years have passed, how is she doing? 

Let's take a look at the story that happened to Ge Shuzhen.

Start a family when "the house has no half a tile",

Moved into a 3-bedroom apartment but the marriage broke down

In 1977, Zhao Benshan was 19 years old and had just retired from the community literary and artistic propaganda team.

In the countryside at that time, they were already considered to be older unmarried young men.

But it's not that he has a high vision, it's that no girl can look down on him.

Relatives introduced him to several objects, but they didn't succeed, and the other party either disliked his poor family, or disliked him for being from the village propaganda team, because in the eyes of the villagers at that time, the propaganda team couldn't do farm work, and he looked idle.

How poor is Zhao Benshan's family?

It is said that the old house left by his father to his brothers was demolished by his second brother to rebuild a new house when he was performing with the propaganda team.

It wasn't until Ge Shuzhen's appearance that his singleton life came to an end.

The old Ge family in Shilong Village, Kaiyuan County, Tieling City is a serious family, the old Ge couple passed away early, leaving the girl Ge Shuzhen and her brother to depend on each other, Ge Shuzhen, who was pulled by her brother since she was a child, is sensible, capable, and honest.

That year, Ge Shuzhen had just turned 18 years old, and under the introduction of Zhao Benshan's uncle and aunt, she met with Zhao Benshan.

Perhaps because of Zhao Benshan's feeling of sympathy, Ge Shuzhen didn't say much, so she nodded and agreed to this family business.

However, Zhao Benshan was not very satisfied with her, because she was dark, a little strong, very silent, and did not look very beautiful.

But Zhao Benshan didn't have the capital to refuse, because at that time, there were already a lot of singles in the village who couldn't marry a daughter-in-law, although Ge Shuzhen was not good-looking, but he didn't want a bride price, the key was not to dislike him for being poor, which was already very rare for him.

So, on the day the two met, according to the customs of the village, as long as the two parties had no opinion on the blind date, they could set a wedding date.

About half a month later, Ge Shuzhen came to Zhao Benshan's house with all her belongings.

Said to be a home, in fact, it is half a kang rented from others, in the north, only 3 square meters, and another family is rented in the south, sleeping at night in the middle of a curtain, it has become a world of two.

The day after getting married, Zhao Benshan went to work in the field with other members.

Ge Shuzhen didn't complain, packed up all her belongings, and began to live a down-to-earth life with Zhao Benshan with peace of mind.

She is very neat in farm work, and in the countryside, it can be said that she is very good, but it is Zhao Benshan, and sometimes she can't even distinguish between seedlings and grass.

But Ge Shuzhen was not at all dissatisfied, she was still very good to Zhao Benshan and did her duty as a wife.

Even if her husband is not good at farm work, Ge Shuzhen never forced him, but encouraged Zhao Benshan to pull the erhu.

The only bad thing is that on weekdays, she and Zhao Benshan, who are few words, rarely have topics to talk about.

Ge Shuzhen only understands farm work in the field and takes care of Zhao Benshan's three meals a day, but Zhao Benshan is different, after all, he has been in the propaganda team, and he has some literary accents in his mind.

Sometimes, Zhao Benshan would tell some jokes to tease Ge Shuzhen, but she didn't understand much and didn't answer.

In her opinion, this is how the two of them live, three meals a day, and each other has a companion.

But she didn't know that in Zhao Benshan's heart, she began to feel that the two had no common topic.

After living peacefully like this for two years, Ge Shuzhen and Zhao Benshan welcomed their eldest daughter Zhao Yufang.

Coincidentally, at this time, the commune's literary and artistic propaganda team was re-established, which was a rare opportunity for Zhao Benshan, who could only play and sing.

So, without hesitation, he returned to the commune.

Although Ge Shuzhen in confinement needs her husband's companionship and care very much, she knows Zhao Benshan's love for acting, so she chooses to understand and support his dream in silence.

Two years later, their son, Zhao Tiedan, was born, who was unfortunately not only deaf and mute, but also suffered from hypochondriasis, emphysema and heart disease.

Fortunately, this time Zhao Benshan began to earn money, so that his son could be treated.

Relying on his ability to play and sing in his early years, Zhao Benshan became more and more famous. He first participated in rural performances, was favored by the county troupe, and began to become famous in Shenyang because of a song "Breaking the Three Strings".

Later, he was transferred to work in the Tieling Civil Art Troupe, and Ge Shuzhen moved to Tieling City with a pair of children and lived in a new three-bedroom house.

After entering the city, Ge Shuzhen began to be a housewife, taking care of the two children with one mind, and never interfering in Zhao Benshan's affairs, so that he had no worries and concentrated on developing his career.

However, as Zhao Benshan became more and more famous, the gap between the two was also increasing, and on the spiritual and emotional level, she and Zhao Benshan could not communicate and communicate at all.

In her spare time, she had to learn from the women in the city, smear powder, paint thrushes, try to dress herself up better, and show her gentle side to her husband.

However, because Zhao Benshan performs outside all year round, the two get together less and leave more, and sometimes they don't see each other once a year.

What's even more exaggerated is that in the two years from 1988 to 1990, Zhao Benshan only stayed at home for 28 days, which made the couple's already lack of communication more and more alienated.

Ge Shuzhen's brother knew that the distance between his sister and Zhao Benshan was getting bigger and bigger, and seeing her living like a "living widow", he couldn't bear it, so he persuaded Ge Shuzhen to divorce.

However, Ge Shuzhen was unwilling, and said that Zhao Benshan did not mention the divorce.

On the other hand, Zhao Benshan, who had long had the idea of divorce, sought the consent of his daughter Zhao Yufang in advance, and then found Ge Shuzhen and opened his mouth to file for divorce.

Ge Shuzhen seemed to have been prepared for a long time, and after hearing it, she seemed very calm, and just said:

"If you can't get together, you can leave, just give me 100,000 yuan so that I can live."

Zhao Benshan immediately agreed, and said that a total of 250,000 yuan in living expenses and child support would be paid in a lump sum, and the other three-bedroom house and car would be left to her, and she would leave the house by herself.

In May 1991, the two calmly went through the divorce procedures.

became a rich woman but insisted on going out to work,

The son died of illness and the daughter was successfully admitted to university

After the divorce, Ge Shuzhen, who had a deposit of 250,000 yuan, became one of the few "rich women" in Tieling City, and her monthly interest in the bank was higher than the mayor's salary.

But unexpectedly, after her son's condition improved, she decided to go out to work.

Daughter Zhao Yufang resolutely objected, but Ge Shuzhen said: "There will always be a day when this money is empty, rather than this, it is better to go out early to earn money, so that you can subsidize the family." ” 

The daughter saw that she was very resolute, so she had to give up.

Ge Shuzhen is introverted and has no skills, so it is difficult to find a job.

After hitting a wall many times, he finally found a job as a dishwasher at a newly opened hot pot restaurant.

Although she only has an income of 150 yuan per month, she is very content, first, she can pay for her son's medical expenses, and second, she has something to do.

In this way, Ge Shuzhen began a part-time life of going out early and returning late every day.

One night, after the hot pot restaurant closed, Ge Shuzhen came home, but she was dizzy and hit the wall, and immediately fell to the ground with a "bang" sound.

Zhao Yufang, who was doing homework in the house, heard it, and immediately came out to help Ge Shuzhen, she touched the swollen bag on Ge Shuzhen's forehead, and her hands that were deformed by the dishwashing water, and couldn't help crying bitterly.

Ge Shuzhen forced a smile and told her daughter not to be sad, and said: "Mom doesn't do things at home, her body will be idle, and she can't always rely on your father to support her." ” 

And just when Ge Shuzhen gradually integrated into society by washing dishes, Zhao Benshan also entered marriage again.

In 1992, Zhao Benshan and Ma Lijuan, a teacher at the opera school, restarted their family.

When the news reached Ge Shuzhen's ears, her reaction was unusually calm.

Daughter Zhao Yufang and surrounding relatives persuaded her that it was time to find a companion.

But in her heart, young couples and old companions, as long as she doesn't get married, she is still Zhao Benshan's original partner, and Zhao Benshan may return to her one day.

In addition, in order to raise her children to adulthood, Ge Shuzhen insisted on not remarrying.

Two years have passed in a blink of an eye, and Ge Shuzhen thought that she could live so peacefully, but unexpectedly, life ruthlessly gave her a punch.

In the winter of 1994, his 10-year-old son Zhao Tiedan suffered a heart attack and died suddenly.

Ge Shuzhen was heartbroken, and because of excessive sadness, her health became worse and worse, so she had to quit her job as a dishwasher and recuperate at home.

After recovering physically, she ignored her daughter's obstruction and embarked on the road of part-time work again.

She first worked as a salesperson in a self-employed store, and after the self-employed store closed, she set up a stall to sell socks, hats and other small items, and finally started to make money, but was expelled by law enforcement officers.

In desperation, she had to work as a handyman in a dumpling shop, working more than 10 hours a day.

One day, Zhao Benshan's sketch was playing on the TV, and several guests were talking loudly:

"There is a celebrity Zhao Benshan in Tieling, and now he can be regarded as a salted fish turning over and getting rich";

Someone else is asking: "Pity Ge Shuzhen, after she divorced Zhao Benshan, she didn't know if she was married?" ”    

Hearing this, Ge Shuzhen was in a trance and broke a pair of dishes, in order to avoid people seeing the abnormality, she lied to the boss that she liked Zhao Benshan's sketches, and she was too fascinated by it.

The boss was also very generous, did not let her compensate, and said that Zhao Benshan was a comedy star who walked out of Tieling, and there was nothing wrong with liking him.

Hearing this, Ge Shuzhen's heart became even more uncomfortable.

After struggling to get through to close, on the way back, Ge Shuzhen secretly cried.

She asked herself over and over again, Zhao Benshan can go all the way to dawn, why can't she?

Since then, Ge Shuzhen has completely given up the idea that Zhao Benshan will return to her, and instead devoted herself to work.

It is gratifying that in 1999, her daughter Zhao Yufang was admitted to Dalian University of Foreign Chinese, and Ge Shuzhen did not hesitate to be a "accompanying mother".

After arriving in Dalian and settling down with her daughter, Ge Shuzhen met He Junli, the owner of a nearby department store.

He Junli and Ge Shuzhen are fellow countrymen, and they are also divorced and single, watching He Junli open a department store prosperously, she also germinated the idea of becoming a boss.

The seafood restaurant "steals" the storefront,

The flavor is full of spices, but the store is forced to close

After careful consideration, Ge Shuzhen revealed her thoughts with her daughter.

At first, she was worried that her daughter would not understand or block her, but to her surprise, her daughter did not have any objections this time, but supported her immensely, which gave her great confidence.

She walked the streets again and observed, and then made the decision to open a restaurant.

She believes that everyone has to eat, and the business model of the restaurant is like expanding the kitchen of the house, clearly marking the price, and it is easy to operate.

Later, she was inspired by the kind boss, so she decided to go to a seafood restaurant to work first to "learn from experience" and learn from the experience of others in opening a store.

In the store, she rushes to do things every day, and thinks about what she would do if she was the boss, and when she saw the owner of the seafood restaurant slamming the door of the customer, she also advised herself that she could not do this to the customer in the future.

Slowly, she amassed some ways to open a store.

But it wasn't until Zhao Yufang graduated from college and solved the problem of work that she decided to do it without any worries.

At this time, there happened to be a restaurant called "Wei Zhenxiang" near the community to be transferred, and she immediately bought the store at a price of 20,000 yuan.

After taking over the store, Ge Shuzhen did not change the signboard or re-hire the chef, because she worked part-time herself and knew that it was not easy for uneducated people to find jobs.

In addition, she added a sterilizer and a water dispenser, asked the chef to wear gloves and a chef's uniform, and invited two beautiful little girls to welcome her.

In particular, she put an end to "cutting corners" in dishes.

Once, when the waiter was about to serve a plate of fried shredded pork with potatoes, Ge Shuzhen saw that there were only sporadic shredded pork in the dish, and immediately asked the chef to make a new plate, and the shredded meat was almost the same as the number of shredded potatoes.

On that occasion, the guests were very satisfied.

In this way, the business of the store became more and more prosperous.

Half a year passed, and one day, Ge Shuzhen suddenly found that there was not much left of the 50,000 yuan reserve fund.

She felt strange that the business in the store was so good, why was the money gone.

It wasn't until my daughter went to the hotel to help count the goods that she found out the reason.

It turned out that Ge Shuzhen sold the dishes with a purchase price of 3 yuan for 2 yuan.

The daughter anxiously persuaded her to close the store, not making money and losing money.

Ge Shuzhen doesn't think so, she thinks that opening a restaurant is to lose money first and then make money, the same reason as raising chickens and laying eggs.

Not only that, but she also took out another 50,000 yuan and smashed it into the hotel.

Zhao Benshan heard about Ge Shuzhen's experience of opening a store from his daughter, and also called her to persuade her:

"The hotel is still closed, being too kind, can't make money......"

Ge Shuzhen's attitude was more resolute: Who said that if you are kind, you can't make money, she wants to do it.

But unexpectedly, because the restaurant business was booming, it actually annoyed other shops in the surrounding area, and they actually poached the chef who tasted really fragrant at a higher price.

What made Ge Shuzhen even more chilling was that the chef who fried her squid said before leaving:

"Boss Ge, how can there be a restaurant like you in the world, you don't have a black heart, and you will never make money." 

In this way, Wei Zhenxiang Hotel did not close because it couldn't make money, but it closed because there was no chef.

Ge Shuzhen did not fall because of this, she still firmly believes in her principles of being a human being, and she believes that she can succeed with this.

So, at the suggestion of some friends, she started a fast food business with her existing staff.

She also hired a nutritionist to guide her, so that each boxed lunch is not only delicious, but also nutritious, so that guests can not only eat enough, but also eat well.

She insists on small profits but quick turnover, other fast food restaurants earn 1 yuan per boxed lunch, and "Weizhenxiang" only earns 5 cents.

In this way, the fast food restaurant sells more than 500 lunch boxes every day.

Today, the scale of the store is still not very large, but the business is very good, and there is a considerable income every month.

Ge Shuzhen is still working alone in Dalian, but she has already changed from a divorced rural woman to a boss with a business, and she is worth more than one million.

Before, when she returned to her hometown during the Spring Festival every year, the people in the village persuaded her: "With the help of Zhao Benshan's fame, how can you use such hard work to make money?" ” 

She smiled indifferently and said: "Zhao Benshan is Zhao Benshan, I am me, I can't smash his signboard, and I can't smash my Ge Shuzhen's signboard." ”

Looking back at what happened to Ge Shuzhen, it is really admirable.

She came to Zhao Benshan's side when he was at his most shabby and lowest point, and accompanied Zhao Benshan for 12 spring and autumn periods, giving him the help she could, so that Zhao Benshan could devote himself to his career.

But when Zhao Benshan began to move towards glory, she silently left the man she once loved.

After the divorce, Ge Shuzhen did not sit on the empty side of 250,000 yuan, let alone complain, but stood up again, raised the child and achieved financial independence.

Just like Shu Ting's "To the Oak Tree" said: "I don't want to be a climbing flower, as long as I want to be an independent camphor tree." ”  

After all, women should be trees instead of vines, so that when they are in the mud, they can be their own supporters, move forward bravely, and overcome obstacles.

About the author: Lin Meimei, the author of the rich book, if a person wants to succeed, you need an ability to support you to do your best, not to be hindered, not to be tempted, this is the shielding force, the 4th book has been published, your life, you need the shielding force, this article: Franklin Book Club, the copyright of this article belongs to Fushu, without authorization, it may not be reprinted, and infringement must be investigated

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