We have all seen the emotion class and written many related articles one after another.
But in the vast world, only I can't think of it, and no emotional mentor can't do it.
We who have seen countless emotional lesson routines have once again been refreshed to the lower limit.
The mentor of the protagonist who shocked us this time, as a woman, is teaching boys to fall in love.
In her video, although we do not have our common, direct guidance on the emotional life of girls.
But by teaching the majority of male compatriots routines, they are constantly guided to misunderstand the meaning of girls, so as to do things that hurt women.
Lead rope = sexual innuendo
Let's do a multiple choice question first.
I chose B without blinking an eye for this question.
But I didn't expect it, it was wrong.
Because the answer is quite outrageous – it's actually D.
This is not what I said, but the vibrato of a 1.52 million Bishop called "Dirty Sister Great Crack".
The classes were aimed at boys who wanted to ask their girls out to dinner.
Dirty sister explained it this way: The girl took the lead rope, because she was afraid that you would press her hair for a while. So see the girl eating with you with a head rope, so good buddy, you're welcome.
It's also accompanied by a "you know" ambiguous look.
△ Source: Dirty Sister Big Crack
Can it be over-interpreted as this, is it that the blogger himself has not been a girl, or has not used the head rope?
To be honest, seeing this video, I felt some discomfort in my heart, but I also wondered, if this disguised teaching human harassment, no one will really believe it, right?
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The bottom was full of the boys' chest pounding sighs, shouting: Enlightened.
Some even rubbed their fists, as if they had mastered the ultimate code of love, and decided to try it that night.
We all know that sexual activity presupposes the explicit and voluntary consent of both parties.
And because of the reverie triggered by a head rope, not only has it not been recognized by the girl, but it cannot represent her wishes.
What if there are really boys who are taught and see a normal head rope and think about dancing and moving their hands and feet?
I can't imagine the consequences.
So I clicked on the homepage of dirty sister Big Crack and found that each of her videos was interpreted in a self-righteous psychological way, teaching men to "hold girls to death".
After continuing to observe with her scalp tingling, I summed up her three routines:
1, "practical combat skills": the world of martial arts is not broken, teach you how to use unexpected small means to get a girl;
2, "story interpretation class": on the grounds of the small things around you, one leaf and one bodhi, take you to realize the true meaning of the emotional world;
3, "emotional analysis class": know yourself and know that the other is invincible, analyze the psychology of girls, and let you climb the peak of gender relations.
In the first category, she told boys that they could write homework for elementary school students in exchange for the other sister's contact information.
Also, teach the boy to confess to the girl, WeChat directly to the girl to say that she wants to let the other party be a girlfriend, and then delete it with a backhand.
The other party is so prodded, can you not add you back? This not only attracts the girl's attention, but also amounts to turning passive into active, so that the other party becomes the one who chases you.
And even if the other party refuses, you can also say, sorry, just sent the wrong, afraid of embarrassment to delete you.
Finally, he gave the boys a look that they understood: our boys are rejected and small, and they have no face.
Yes yes yes, you are really sweet little cotton jacket.
In the second category, she told the story of a student who tried the girl with substance, and the other party really did not resist the temptation.
Conclusion: Sooner or later, the vain girl will miss out on more.
Co-authoring This is not the life of the overbearing president, and the illness of the overbearing president?
In the third kind, the irony is that girls now have princess disease, but there is no princess life, and when it comes to passion, they still smile evilly.
The more I look at it, the more angry I get, because either way, it is a misreading and stigmatization of women, and it is also a wrong guidance for men.
Many boys who need to see this kind of "sister-in-law learning" should not be very old.
At a time when you are confused about feelings and do not know enough about women, after all, if you have a little understanding of girls, you will not go online to seek emotional answers.
And she, as for her, is equivalent to coming up and directly teaching the Nine Yin White Bone Claws to lead the boys to the fire, but the boys are not aware of it at all, and even say:
△ Dirty Sister Big Crack Bud Comment Area
From a young age, teachers have been chanting in our ears, teaching and educating people, and being a role model for others. Teachers speak responsibly because they teach not just methodology, but values.
As a blogger with 1.52 million fans, when more and more boys believe in her "sister-in-law", they are instilled by her with wrong values, and even sexually harass them regardless of the wishes of girls.
I don't know if Dirty Sister has ever thought about what the most serious consequences are, and whether she can afford it?
Why should we oppose this "flirting" culture
In fact, this kind of interpretation of various "details" and called sexual innuendo has ancestors before the dirty sister.
The domineering president who was popular in the film and television works at that time, wall banging, strong kissing, stalking, and poor chasing and beating, was not a romantic obsession at all, but a "sexual crime".
△ Source: Round Table Pie
In an interview, Han Han, who openly said that "a woman, if she agrees to eat alone with a man and watch a movie, is to agree to sleep with this man" Han Han.
A light and fluttering sentence, I don't know how many boys have followed suit, for how many harassment without the woman's sexual consent.
I don't know if he has some new reflections on this sentence after a few years.
The impact of these propaganda is as small as boys may be creepy on girls because they eat with them.
As large as men harass and even sexually assault women without their consent.
Even if the case is filed in the future, you can also use various ways to testify that "the other party agrees" to excuse yourself.
When it comes to rape, many people may be the first to think of girls being stalked and then victimized in a shady alley.
But in reality, everything is not so dramatic, and sexual assault often occurs in daily life, and in most cases, even between acquaintances.
From July 2018 to June 2020, acquaintances accounted for 70% of the cases in which procuratorial organs across the country approved the arrest of guardians for sexual abuse of minors.
Even more difficult to define is rape in intimate relationships.
At the beginning of 2020, a set of chat records was exposed online.
In the group, a group of married men are actually communicating with each other, how to drug their wives who are breastfeeding.
In their view, they are all married, and the wife has no right to say no, so who cares about the premise of sexual consent?
Remember the confessional violence we wrote about?
Refers to the use of violent means, even at the expense of hurting themselves in an attempt to get the girl's liking.
And many boys who confess violently to girls will also explain: The reason why I am like this is because she hinted at me!
She looked at me more and must have liked me; she replied to my WeChat, must have liked me; she told me goodnight, must like me...
There is a word in criminal psychology called motivation rationalization, and some people always want to commit crimes, but there is no suitable reason.
So he either shifts his motivation to the external environment, the other party's behavior, etc., or transforms it into a just, reasonable reason.
Some of the so-called "women's suggestions" of harassment are actually just a suitable excuse for the crime, to find an excuse for yourself to be too willing to go.
△ Indian interview
And these communicators who make boys "don't be polite" are either stupid or bad.
Rest assured, a girl who really likes you won't push half of it.
As long as she refuses, there is only one meaning, no.
The "girl-picking" thing is long outdated!
After the video of the head rope sister went viral on the Internet, Huang Zhizhong sent this Weibo:
"This video is not about flattering men, but about pit men... They are unlikely to find any girlfriend from these stupid tricks, but will only let themselves become greasy and disgusting in the process of masturbation. ”
He also called for men to stand up against such "sister-in-law instructional videos."
Some boys look at the emotional course and think that they have sought true knowledge, but in fact, they are doing "leeks" with their bodies, and they have completed the Internet celebrities who have three views of injustice.
Whether this kind of self-righteous cleverness can work or not has to be questioned, after all, few girls will feel comfortable with such a method.
Truly intelligent men should treat women with sincerity, respect, and understanding.
Girls' minds are not so difficult to guess, they say "no", is to refuse, there is no desire to refuse to meet, half push and half to do.
Whether it is a poor chase or a domineering woman, these methods have long been obsolete.
Because this in itself means that the initiative is in the hands of one party.
△ Hegemonic literature
When a boy says "pampering sister", he is actually using the other party as an object that is incapable of acting.
But in reality?
According to data from the World Economic Forum in 2018, women have outpaced men in both white-collar and higher education.
More and more girls are financially independent and independent in thought, and have long stepped into new marriage and love values.
The strength of modern girls is first and foremost the strength of individualism, and for contemporary girls, the concept of "I" is extremely important.
My feelings, my needs, my body, my career...
This "I" must be sacred and inviolable.
△ Female-themed film and television dramas are becoming more and more popular
This also explains why TV dramas with hegemonic themes are getting worse and worse.
Banging and kissing at every turn, not romantic or sexually assaulting friends.
Unfortunately, many men are still immersed in the traditional male and female marriage and love system, thinking that love is picked up and girls are obtained by means.
But if you really like a girl, I want you to know that this set won't work.
But don't be nervous, because what you need to do is very simple, just open your ears and listen to what the girls are saying.
Normal intimacy, no one who is licking the spare tire of the dog, no one who is the tyrant.
Boys and girls can be lovers or allies to each other.
When a boy opens his heart to communicate with a girl, the emotional mentor who teaches the boy to "seduce the sister" naturally has no food to eat.
Finally, stop letting me see this kind of person who teaches boys how to use "dirty" tricks to chase girls, and see one I report one.