A few days ago, a mother complained in the kindergarten group that the child saw her classmates holding cute tiger-shaped bags at school, and went home to express to her mother that she also wanted it, and the mother ran all over the major supermarkets with her children but could not buy them, and the children were disappointed to lie on the supermarket and cried, hoping that other parents would not let their children bring new products to the school to show off. The mother's idea has aroused heated discussion among netizens.
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How do I refuse my child to argue about buying something? What would you do if it were your own child?
Recently, Japanese magazines interviewed hundreds of mothers to teach several ways to deal with it, refer to it!
1. Three chapters of the Law of Covenants
Most mothers will adopt the method of "pre-agreement", and the maximum number of three chapters of the law can be bought, for example, before entering the mall, they will first tell their children that "they can only buy one thing today, and they must think carefully before making a choice", which is acceptable to most children.
2. Indicate that the money belt is not enough
In the habits of ordinary people, going to the mall will definitely bring enough or even more money to reserve materials, but many mothers have said that they directly show their children: "It is not that parents do not buy, but that the money is not enough" is also very effective, a 47-year-old Japanese mother said: "I will directly turn over the wallet to the child, and tell him that the mother did not bring extra money, so it is impossible to buy." Usually I didn't buy it this time, and next time my child will forget to buy it.
3. Divert your attention
Children basically have no concept of price, only according to their own preferences, but if the price of the things they just want to buy is not cheap, how to solve? Some mothers say that their child once bought expensive high-end snacks, and at this time they will take him to see other items that may be more attractive to him and shift their eyes, such as bananas in the fruit area.
There are also mothers who will use verbal transfers, take the other two cheaper things, make choices for their children, and let the children know that "instead of arguing about buying an expensive item that the parents will not buy, it is better to choose something cheaper and the parents are willing to pay for it."
4. Buy with your child's pocket money
Through pocket money to cultivate children to use money correctly, so when the child reaches an age, some parents will start to give their children pocket money, in addition to educating the concept of savings, but also allowing him to decide how to spend money on his own. Therefore, when the child argues about buying something, "ask him to buy it with his own pocket money", so that he can realize the truth that he must also save money to spend money, and then achieve self-management.
The 38-year-old Japanese mother said that he would guide her child to understand the advantages of saving money and analyze the pros and cons to him: "If you don't buy this thing now, but choose to save it, you will be able to buy what you want in the future if you save more money." 」
Only by educating children about correct values can children learn to cherish them
My daughter asked, "Why doesn't our house have a courtyard?" Children do not have the concept of house prices, in their imagination it is easy to have a courtyard, the mother replied: "Baby, the courtyard house is very expensive and expensive!" When you grow up, if you make money, you may be able to buy it, but for now we have to cherish the house we have now."
Children's values are very important in education, in addition to making children aware of "money", but also let them learn to respect their parents' work and resources.
Don't let your daughter think that you want what you want, but teach them that work and making money are precious, but at the same time understand that people don't live for money, be humble, not lose money, and not be self-righteous.
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