01
The sunset is infinitely better, just near dusk.
People are old, idle, go out for a walk, and go out with their wives.
On special days, it is not busy to be reunited with children.
However, as I get older, the taste of being alive is not so good.
When the last rays of sunset disappeared from the mountain, the sky darkened, and even though there were stars in the sky, they still could not stop the cool wind and could not drive away the arrival of night.
Life is a reincarnation, and learning to go with the flow is the only way to live well.
02
People are old, can't walk, and need to keep sane.
Before his death, Zen Master Hou Tang Baofu told his disciples, "Recently, my strength has not been good, and I think the limit has arrived. ”
The disciples said, "How can it be?" Master was still in good health.
A disciple asked, is it really the limit has arrived, is it to go or stay? How is it good?
Zen Master Baofu asked rhetorically, how can it be good?
The disciple replied, whether it is life or death, everything follows fate, let it go.
Zen Master Baofu left with great satisfaction.
A wise man once said, "Man is born and destroyed, like water, and is born and destroyed, and returns to water." ”
Life and death are all natural rules, don't worry, everything will return to the way it was. The truth is so, but there are really very few people who can do this.
After all, you and I are mortal, and we can't have the same realm as a Zen master.
Growing old peacefully and gracefully is a wish, but it cannot be divorced from reality.
03
People are old, they can't walk, and the rest of their lives are the way home.
My aunt, in her fifties, felt a lot of abdominal pain. Doctors said she had a tumor in her body that required immediate surgery.
After a few days, the doctor changed his mouth and said that it was too late, or take some medicine, so as not to make people so painful.
The uncle listened to the doctor and was overwhelmed. He couldn't believe that his wife, who had been with him for more than twenty years, was really leaving him.
The family hid the specific circumstances of the illness.
More and more relatives and friends came to visit my aunt, and one batch went, and another batch came. Frequent visits made my aunt guess the "illness".
One day, my aunt said, "I don't want to eat anything, I just want to go home." ”
When people are old, they need leaves to fall back to their roots, and listening to the call of their hometown is like a leaf, no matter how many times it rolls in the air, it will eventually fall at the feet of a big tree.
The aunt's idea, as desired. She returned to her hometown and lived quietly, although she could not walk, but with her children and wife, her face was better.
We often say, "There is life and death, and wealth is in heaven." ”
To live one day is to earn a day. If you cry bitterness for days, then there is no quality in living. Although your crying will cause everyone's sympathy and comfort from the boss, the person who is uncomfortable is yourself, and it is really unnecessary.
For old couples, the first to go is a blessing. After all, he got the best care, couldn't walk, some people pushed wheelchairs, and he could also look at the scenery at the door.
04
People are old, can't walk, and need to adjust their mentality.
The novel "Alive" writes: "As a word, 'alive' is full of power in our Chinese language, and its power does not come from shouting or attacking, but from enduring, to endure the responsibility that life gives us, to endure the happiness and suffering, boredom and mediocrity that reality gives us." ”
From the novel, we can see the epitome of life, but also can draw nutrients, for the arrangement of the twilight years of life, the most important thing is the two words of "staying up and forbearing".
First, survive the pain, the willpower should be strong.
Many people, when they were young, were expert workers in their families, growing vegetables, planting seedlings, digging soil, raising pigs, cutting firewood, and doing everything. At New Year's, he was the busiest person in the family.
At the age of fifty or sixty, you can still pick up burdens and walk long distances, but when you are sick in bed, you will become depressed, and it seems that the world will change overnight. Therefore, refusing to eat, tears kept flowing.
In fact, the more you get to the end, the more optimistic you are, and the human spirit cannot collapse.
You don't have the strength to work, but you can smile and infect the people around you, and infect yourself.
Second, let go of your wild thoughts and don't give up anything.
There is a way that in this life, only the licking of parents can not be reciprocated.
As a parent, you must love your children and hope not to drag them down, but you have to drag them down. This is an opportunity for them to feed back.
Think about it, if you trouble your children for many days, they will have less regrets of "filial piety" in their hearts.
From your own point of view, it is your blessing not to be able to help your children, which shows that you have done enough in this life, and do not continue to work.
"Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, do not make cattle and horses for children and grandchildren", the words of the ancients, is to inspire you, to be willing to "let go".
The expectations of the elderly for their children are not "lifelong" and there are no hard requirements. Even if a child doesn't come out, you don't have to think about it.
Third, do not be too stubborn and accept the arrangement of your children.
"There is no filial piety in front of the bed for a long time", the old man fell ill, which is a test for his children.
It doesn't matter if you have to go far with your children. Children take care of you, it is more convenient, and you will be better.
Fourth, cherish the fate of husband and wife, and do not complain to each other.
Husband and wife for a lifetime, the moment of parting, how can they not be sad? No one can say what love is, but it must be felt, just like "separation of flesh and bones".
Some people, in their final days, still quarrel with their lovers and argue about something. It really doesn't make sense, cherishing every minute is the right choice.
05
The poet said, "Life is like the splendor of a summer flower, and death is like the quiet beauty of an autumn leaf." ”
Man, living for a day is to earn a day, do not blindly pursue anything, according to the law of life, spend the rest of your life, is the best arrangement.
In addition, as a child, filial piety should be reflected when the parents are healthy, do not wait until the parents can not move, before remembering to do something.
Whether you like it or not, your parents will get older. Moreover, the speed at which we make money will never catch up with the speed at which our parents are getting older.
Therefore, we have to stop and sneak around from time to time, make a phone call with our parents, and accompany them everywhere. If you have the conditions, take your parents with you as soon as possible, it doesn't matter if the meal is good or not, as long as the family sits around and eats together, it is happiness.
A good home style and a warm atmosphere can make parents have a better mental state and stay away from illness.
Finally, may the elderly all over the world be in good health and blessed as the East Sea.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
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