I read a cartoon and was quite touched.
A man walking on the road, stumbled over a stone and fell hard, and his glasses flew out.
But not only did he not complain in frustration, but he also calmly knelt on the ground to admire a seedling.
This kind of situation in comics is often what we lack.
In real life, the first reaction of most people to setbacks and injuries is to scold and complain, some people blame bad luck, and some people complain that the stone does not have long eyes.
People who are full of complaints are like a dark cloud overhead, pessimistic and world-weary all day long.
The open-minded and calm people are not afraid of the wind and rain, and what they see is the scenery.
There is a saying that goes: "There is nothing good in the world that arises from complaints." ”
The heart is full of complaints, there is no room for happiness, and life will be devastated.
Self-media person @Zhang Xingzhi shared the personal experience of a friend's daughter.
After the girl and the boy fell in love, although the parents were not very optimistic about the boy, the girl still insisted on marrying him.
But within a few years of marriage, the boy cheated and betrayed her.
The girl was indignant, and immediately decided to divorce and returned to her home with the child.
After the divorce, the girl washed her face with tears at home every day, and when she saw people, she complained that the boy had failed her.
How the family persuaded it did not help, the girl became more and more decadent, often felt unwell, and was subsequently diagnosed with breast cancer.
In the end, the girl not only lost her marriage, but also lost her life by the disease.
Cartoonist Jimmy said:
"Don't dwell on an awkward thing for too long. After a long time of entanglement, you will be annoyed, you will be painful, you will be bored, you will be tired, you will be hurt, you will be heartbroken.
In fact, in the end, you are not unable to live with things, but with yourself. ”
There are often unsatisfactory things in life, and the more you indulge in pain and complain, the deeper you will be hurt.
Complaining, never solving the problem, will only drag yourself into the dark abyss.
In the forest, there is a wolf who loves to complain.
It hunted the antelope with the leopard, and the antelope escaped from it, but complained that the leopard had not informed it before attacking.
It hunted deer with the grizzly bear, but the deer escaped after being bitten by the grizzly bear, and it complained that the grizzly bear bit too lightly.
Since then, no one has cooperated with the wolf, and the wolf can only complain while enduring hunger.
Then, one day, when the wolf was starving and exhausted, a male lion happened to pass by, grabbed it and ate it.
There is a saying on the Internet: "People live in the world, in fact, the person who can really hurt you is always not others, but yourself." ”
A person's complaint is a curse for himself.
Instead of blaming others in the dark, it is better to choose to forgive in the wind and the sun.
Once upon a time, we thought that forgiving others easily was an indulgence in harm, and we were reluctant to let go of the depression in our hearts.
After going through the world, I realized that what is more terrible than forgiving others is that I have not let myself go.
The owl of the writer Lao Yang wrote about his awakening process in the book "Be an Emotionally Stable Adult".
Once, Lao Yang received a private message on Weibo, and the netizen said: "What kind of garbage articles are you writing?" ”
Old Yang did not want to pay attention to it, but when he saw the word "garbage", he still couldn't bear to reply: "If there is something wrong in my article, welcome to point it out." ”
I didn't think about it, but netizens said: "Who can still read this kind of garbage book!" I only like the philosophy written by Nietzsche, and the novels written by Kafka, and the garbage books you wrote, I despise reading. ”
Lao Yang asked netizens: "You have not read the books I wrote, why do you feel garbage?" ”
Netizens immediately erupted: "Most of the people you write books are garbage, and the books you write are of course garbage, and you don't have to read them at all." You should learn more about Nietzsche's logic and Kafka's expressionism, and write less garbage books! ”
In the face of the sudden insult, Lao Yang was instantly provoked, and he racked his brains to type out a large paragraph of text, ready to fight back against netizens.
But before sending it, Lao Yang suddenly smiled, and he realized that if he sprayed with netizens, he was no different from a troll.
In the end, Lao Yang thought about it or calculated, and calmly deleted the text.
I agree with what is said in "Late Night Canteen": "The so-called maturity is that you should cry and make trouble, but you smile without saying a word." ”
Many times, we choose to forgive and look down, not to admit defeat and compromise, but not to dwell too much, and want to leave a piece of peace in our hearts.
The road of life is turbulent, and since malice cannot be stopped, it is good to choose to look away.
The "forgiveness" of the adult world begins with "forget it".
Only by letting go of the faults of others can we free our own hearts.
Someone on the Internet asked: "What is really dashing?" ”
A high-pitched voice replied, "To be dashing is to be free and unrestrained." ”
I don't think much of this, and can't help but think of Mo Yan's explanation:
"Dashing is actually a mentality, an attitude towards life, a way to reduce stress, in a sense can also be said to be a Q spirit."
Mo Yan's grandfather once told him about the attitude of a distant relative.
In the early years of the Republic of China, in the village where Mo Yan's grandfather lived, there lived a distant relative named Wang Dahua.
Wang Dahua did not know a single character, but had a quiet mentality, and was known as the most dashing person in the village.
Once Wang Dahua went to the market, bought a large basin at the market, put it on his back and walked back.
Walking to the bridge not far from home, a mischievous boy bumped into his back, and with a loud bang, the basin was touched to pieces and became a pile of tiles.
Passers-by saw the situation and complained about Wang Dahua, and the naughty boy was scared and yellow.
But Wang Dahua continued to walk forward without turning back, as if nothing had happened.
Someone shouted loudly, "Wang Dahua, your basin is broken!" Wang Dahua still did not look back.
Afterwards, someone asked Wang Dahua if he knew that the basin on his back was broken, and Wang Dahua replied that he knew.
The man continued to ask, "Know why not turn back?" ”
Wang Dahua said calmly, "Since it is already broken, what is the use of turning back?" ”
Yes, what has already happened, stopping and looking back will not help.
It is better to relax the mentality, take things lightly, and only rejoice and not worry.
As Tagore wrote in the poem Burning Memories:
"One night I burned all my memories, and from then on my dreams became transparent;
One morning, I threw away all my yesterday, and since then my steps have been light. ”
If the situation turns with the heart, it is pleasant, and if the heart turns with the situation, it is annoying.
Your mentality is wider, there are fewer things to break, you care less, and life will be brighter.
Not long ago, I saw a story:
In the United States, a brick merchant named Karl was rumored to be spread by competitors: "Karl's company is unreliable, his bricks are not good, and the business is about to go out of business." ”
As a result, Karl was hurt by a competitor and lost a $250,000 order.
Carl didn't know what to do, so he told the priest about his distress, and the pastor smiled and said, "Give grace to those who deliberately embarrass you." ”
Karl was a little confused, but he took the words to heart.
One day, Carr discovered that a customer in Virginia was in desperate need of a new brick office building.
This model of Brick Karl does not have, but it is similar to the model of a competitor company.
After a struggle of ideas, Carl decided to call a competitor to inform the customer of his needs.
When he received the call, the competitor was surprised for a moment and could not speak, and then thanked him one after another.
At this time, Carl also had a surge of joy in his heart, and offered to recommend competitors to customers.
Later, competitors not only stopped spreading rumors about him, but also transferred many orders to Carl.
Over time, Carl and his competitors helped each other to make the company a leading enterprise in the industry.
The grain of sugar that Carl handed to his opponent eventually became a nourishment for himself.
Will Bowen, in his book The World That Doesn't Complain, says:
"Everyone inevitably has flaws and faults, and contradictions will inevitably arise in the process of getting along with each other, and at this time, understanding and tolerance are a good medicine."
In this world, each has its own difficulties, and some harms are not caused by evil.
Perhaps, you only need a sincere smile to resolve the crux of other people's hearts.
Perhaps, you only need a gentle look to touch the person who wants to embarrass you.
True tolerance is not bottomless tolerance, but the use of soft ways to resolve unnecessary disputes.
Life is a long journey, cultivate the atmosphere of the heart, and the blessing will surely come as promised.
Writer Khaled Husseini wrote this sentence on the title page of The Mountains:
"Out of the idea of right and wrong, there is a field, and I will meet you there."
If the mind lets go of attachment, it will make all things clear.
Life is like this, if you don't frown, no one will take away your smile.
For the rest of your life, you should put it, forget it, live a cool atmosphere, and life is full of surprises.
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The author | Li Kemo, personal public number, Kemo girl.
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