During the period when my mother-in-law was serving my wife's confinement, I was slapped by the neighbor's aunt, and I didn't have the face to help my mother-in-law support

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Muzi Lee:

In my perception, although my mother-in-law smokes and drinks, she has a kind heart, and my mother-in-law is really good to me and my wife, so in my eyes, my mother-in-law is definitely half a mother.

Because my father-in-law died of illness when my wife and I got married, my mother-in-law, who had retired, moved into our house during my wife's confinement, and during this period, the daily expenses of the family were spent by my mother-in-law. Even if my wife and I take the initiative to give money to my mother-in-law, she will say that you will have more places to use the money in the future, and my money will not be spent at all.

Perhaps because of the loneliness of my mother-in-law after the death of my father-in-law, she actually developed a relationship with my neighbor's uncle during my wife's confinement. This was eventually discovered by the neighbor's aunt, who came to our house and slapped my mother-in-law several times in front of me and my wife.

If it wasn't for my mother-in-law's loss, I would definitely help my mother-in-law teach my neighbor Big Mom. Therefore, at that time, I could only forcibly push the neighbor's aunt out of the house, and accompanied by the neighbor's aunt's ugly insults.

In fact, I can also understand today's elderly people: the standard of living has improved, the aging age is delayed, so I can understand that my mother-in-law in her early 60s has a desire for love, but it is definitely the mother-in-law's fault to base her own needs on the happiness of others.

After the incident, I can feel that my mother-in-law will be a little awkward in front of me and my wife, whether it is talking or doing things, and why should my wife and I not be awkward?

I would like to ask, what should my wife and I do to restore the original harmonious family atmosphere?

Muzi Li answered the reader's question:

I really don't want to judge a woman's good or bad by smoking and drinking, but in the eyes of many people, a woman who smokes and drinks will be a woman with a more casual private life.

Regarding your mother-in-law and the neighbor's uncle, it is not necessarily your mother-in-law who takes the initiative to confess to the other party, it is not good, the other party itself is careful, and stereotypically believes that your mother-in-law is a woman who is easy to chase, so she has evil thoughts about your mother-in-law.

However, your mother-in-law did not argue, failed to use strong self-control to resist the violent pursuit of the neighbor's uncle, and finally did something that humiliated you and your wife.

I believe that if your wife did not need to be taken care of now, your mother-in-law would have gone back to their house earlier, but your wife is currently in a special period, so your mother-in-law has to keep her scalp and continue to pestle in your house.

After such a thing, it is impossible to achieve 'nothing happens', so we will get along awkwardly first, and after a long time, we will gradually restore a harmonious family atmosphere.

I believe that with this lesson, your mother-in-law's future behavior and behavior will certainly not be the same as before, but as a junior, you also need to understand one thing: your mother-in-law also needs love. Therefore, you can help your mother-in-law to find a widowed man who is more suitable for all aspects of your mother-in-law' conditions, and hope that your mother-in-law can find a suitable partner as she thinks earlier.

Here, I would like to warn the widowed elderly that it is okay to continue the string, but it is absolutely not necessary to act arbitrarily because you must take care of your own face and the face of your children.