It takes a long time for a person's credibility to develop, but if you want to destroy it, it is a very simple thing.
You only need to occasionally ignore, occasionally forget, occasionally fail to keep your promises, and then your credibility will collapse in an instant.
No matter who we get along with, reputation is our "business card" and a label we show to the outside world.
For example:
In interpersonal communication, others will decide whether to get along with you further based on your credibility.
Work arrangements, business communication, if you lose credibility, others will not have any cooperation with you.
In love, if you lose credibility and break your word again and again, your partner will leave you.
You say a person's qualities, what is most important?
I think that in addition to kindness, it is "credibility".
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Get along with people and don't let yourself get into a "credibility bankruptcy crisis"
Do you remember the story of "The Wolf Is Coming"?
Relive this story with everyone.
Every day, the cowherd had to go up the hill to herd sheep, and day after day, he felt bored.
In order to dispel this boredom, the cowherd thought of a way to trick the villagers.
So, the cowherd shouted at the adults who were ploughing the land at the foot of the mountain: "The wolf is coming, the wolf is coming."
The peasants, carrying hoes and shovels, rushed up the mountain.
The cowherd was overjoyed, and taunted the crowd: "You have been deceived."
The second time, the cowherd made this joke again, and the farmers still behaved the same way.
The third time, the wolf really came.
But this time, no matter how the cowherd shouted, no one responded to him.
This fable is a typical "credibility bankruptcy crisis."
What is reputational bankruptcy?
The simplest explanation is: you overdraft everyone's trust in you again and again, constantly wasting your credibility; through one lie after another, again and again, everyone is not willing to believe you.
Even the people closest to you are completely heartbroken by your lies and teasing you again and again.
They no longer trust you, don't want to listen to your explanations, don't want to have any contact with you.
A person has come to this point, unless he jumps out of the circle around him, it is difficult for him to meet people who trust him in the current circle.
When a person loses credibility, it becomes "difficult to move forward".
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Promise others something, you should do
The most common examples:
"Borrowing and repaying money".
Adult feelings, borrowing money is a sentiment, not lending you is a duty.
If a person is willing to lend you money, it means that you have a high status in the other person's mind.
At the very least, he trusts you and is willing to help you as soon as you get into trouble.
At this time, the promise you made to the other party must be fulfilled.
Like what:
When you borrow money, you say to the other person, "I'll pay it back within 3 months."
Then, the date of repayment cannot exceed 3 months.
If it exceeds 3 months, your credibility will collapse in the eyes of the other party in an instant.
"Words must be believed, deeds must be fruitful", this is the simplest truth, but also the principle of our human beings.
Someone else lends you money, and that's their trust in you.
But if you always break your word and destroy your promises again and again, then your position in the hearts of others will plummet.
In the process of getting along with lovers, the same is true.
If you give your loved one promise after another, but never deliver on one in its entirety.
It won't be long before your lover is completely disappointed in you; at that point, the love of both of you becomes precarious.
Psychologist Sternberg proposed three elements of love: passion, intimacy, and commitment.
Commitment is an important component of intimate relationships.
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Being "cheated" by intimate people, we no longer expect love
If a person is always deceived by their parents during their childhood.
Say:
His parents promised to buy him toys, new clothes, and promises to take him where to play.
Such conditions and promises, parents have never fulfilled in time.
Over time, in the hearts of children, they will no longer expect the love given by their parents.
Even, as they grow up, they don't expect love from anyone.
Their personality will become weak, sensitive and inferior.
In the relationship, it will even become a "flattering personality".
Therefore, no matter who we are with, we should "keep our promises" and keep our credibility.
When a person's credibility collapses, it is difficult for him to gain a foothold in the current circle.
Today's Topic:
What do you think of people whose "credibility collapses"?
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