"A loving father loves his son, not for retribution." - Huainanzi
Father's love is like a mountain, deep and far-reaching. How many times have we not been able to understand behaviors until we grow up to find that they are the appearance of love, and the behavior of parents affects the future of children to a large extent, directly or indirectly.
Under the strict requirements, the exercise may be an excellent child.
Dining table etiquette, since ancient times is the most basic rule of Chinese, many large households are very important, in the process of Zhang Xueliang's growth, it has been constrained by this rule, eating has been very nervous.
Pay attention to diet
After the defeat of the Qing Dynasty, Zhang Zuolin took control of the Beiyang warlords and took power in the northeast.
It can be said that at that time, his status was few, and naturally he would live a relatively rich life, and according to records, he hired more than 70 cooks in his kitchen alone.
From this, we can see how vast his home is, and compared with ordinary people's homes, his life is indeed very luxurious. The kitchen facilities are also very advanced, and even have such a rare equipment as a refrigerator, it can be said that in terms of diet, his attention is very high.
But in fact, he does not advocate extravagance and waste, and his diet is mainly based on home-cooked vegetarian dishes, because Zhang Zuolin was young, the family life is relatively poor, he developed his good habit of thrift and thrift, and not wasting grain.
As a native of the Northeast, he prefers Northeastern specialties such as pork stew noodles and cocoon pupae.
Although the chef lineup set up at home is relatively large, he often eats a few dishes.
And these chefs are only used when they come to the house. In this way, he does not lose his hospitality and appears to be very imposing.
Because Zhang Zuolin has a high position of power, there are more people who come to his house as guests, and these chefs can come in handy.
Because there are many chefs, it is possible to satisfy the tastes of various places, and guests can also taste the most authentic hometown dishes. It can be seen that Zhang Zuolin's mind is very meticulous, and in this way, he can take care of the needs of all guests.
Not only that, Zhang Zuolin even divided the kitchen at home into two parts.
The east courtyard is for the master and guests of the family to eat, and the west courtyard is the place where the servants of the family eat. When servants are also assigned a place to eat, they feel valued in their hearts.
Therefore, Zhang Zuolin has his own set of practices in winning people's hearts, and when people's hearts are all toward him, it will be conducive to the consolidation of his identity and status in the future.
He is so delicate in eating alone, and at the same time, he also has a set of rules that constrain his children.
Table rules
Zhang Zuolin's requirements for the back kitchen are very strict, in order to ensure the cleanliness of the ingredients, as well as the hygiene of the meal, he requires all chefs to shave their heads, the purpose of this is to prevent the hair from being adjusted into the meal, thus causing pollution.
Including the selection of raw materials, it can be said that the raw materials he selects are the best in the boutique.
Vegetables and fruits are specially grown and delivered to Fuchu on the same day, but this is not nothing, and these vegetables that are sent in also need to undergo strict inspection.
Including the choice of meat dishes, it is mainly to be fresh, the number is extremely strict requirements, not only that, because Zhang Zuolin loves bear paws, so the left and right of the bear paws need to be distinguished, absolutely can not be sloppy.
Therefore, he is absolutely not sloppy in his diet, so the requirements for his children are also more demanding.
The first is that food must not be wasted, and if food falls out, it must be picked up and eaten immediately, even if it falls on the ground.
The dish that Zhang Zuolin clipped to the child must be eaten, which is the source of Zhang Xueliang's pain, because he has studied abroad, he is not accustomed to cocoon pupae.
But his father liked it very much, and whenever he clipped it to him, he ate it very painfully.
And such a rule also makes the atmosphere at the dinner table become very solemn, and a little carelessness will make Zhang Zuolin angry, so that he is furious.
As a result, everyone who eats at the dinner table is very cautious, which has become a more painful part of their memories.
Father's love is deep
When these memories of the past are recalled again, they may be nostalgic or regretful.
The ideas that my father developed when he was a child influenced his later behavior, but in the end, waste was indeed wrong. Zhang Xueliang is also under the constraint of his father and will not waste excessive grain.
In later life, when he remembered what his father had taught him, he would feel that Zhang Zuolin might have been right, but he had not been able to understand it at that time. The father hovered between the country and the interests, and finally took his own life.
Before Zhang Zuolin's death, he sincerely told Zhang Xueliang that he must focus on the country and must not forget his motherland. Therefore, he always obeyed his father's teachings.
Later, I began to understand that everything my father had done for himself at that time was excusable.
Although his father was a little eccentric, a little more rules, and a little more demanding of himself, it was precisely because of this that he could become the current Zhang Xueliang, and all his good qualities came from his father's teachings, although at that time, he did not recognize his father.
Once a little bit, can only become a memory to cherish in the heart, the cocoon pupa does not seem to be so difficult to eat, although the cocoon pupae that was once very annoying, now in retrospect, it is not just a cocoon chrysalis, but the father's full of love.
However, it is too late to think about it, and even if you want to make up for it, there is no chance.
His father, who had once been disgusting, could no longer be seen, and he was very willing to think of the painful moments that could make him come again.
Whenever you lose, you can realize its importance in your heart.
Father's love is often expressed in action, it may not be directly discovered by us, but when we find out, we have long grown up, and the father is no longer the same as he once was.
epilogue
There are often many things hidden in the details that are difficult to discover, and when we taste it carefully, we know that it is precious and rare, and a simple table rule is revealed, that is, Zhang Zuolin's living habits and even his deep love for his children.
"The love of the son is endless", the love of parents for their children is endless, but the way they express love is not the same.
However, they have a common purpose, that is, they hope that their children can get a good growth, be healthy and happy, and can get a considerable future.