Someone said: "When people are in a bad mood, they always want to mess up everything, so that there is nothing else that can be bad." ”
If you think about it, it is terrible that bad emotions will erupt.
Recently, a pregnant woman because the wedding dress shop did not give a wedding dress deposit of 3500 yuan, and in a rage, she took scissors to cut 32 wedding dresses in the wedding dress shop.
From the video taken by the shopkeeper, the shopkeeper prompted the wedding dress price to be thousands of thousands, and the woman still kept cutting, saying in her tone that how much to lose, 100,000 yuan to lose, and finally cut a total of nearly 70,000 yuan of wedding dresses.
Bad emotions, let the 3500 things become 70,000, it is estimated that the pregnant woman will be more uncomfortable afterwards, not only did not solve the problem, but also brought new and larger problems.
It can be seen that the harm of bad emotions cannot be underestimated.
01 Bad mood High bills
The most common harm of bad emotions is probably to make you pay for it.
It can be said that bad emotions "do evil" can be seen almost everywhere in life.
Someone eating in a restaurant, a bad mood comes up, dissatisfaction with the waiter and the restaurant owner, and smashes the table and smashes the bowl.
Driving to work, rushing to meet the congestion, seeing that the red light that has been waiting for a long time has finally turned green, just before the front, the mobile phone rings, the yellow light in front will be extinguished, and there are pedestrians who begin to pass, a rush, no courtesy to let pedestrians, and run the red light, deduct points and fines.
There may be unsatisfactory places everywhere in life, but if you do not control your bad emotions, you will only face major losses.
I've seen a news like this:
A man in Suzhou, Lin Mou, was in a bad mood, and in order to vent his emotions after drinking, he smashed the Audi car of others for no reason.
After the incident, not only did he compensate 50,000 yuan for losses, but he was also sentenced to 1 year in prison, suspended for 2 years, by the Suzhou City Wanqiao District Court for the crime of picking quarrels and provoking troubles.
This man drunkenly smashed Audi to vent his bad emotions, and finally was not only sentenced to a year in prison but also paid fifty thousand yuan, which is really worthless.
What's more, the cost of bad emotions is not just a matter of money, and it is impossible to afford to lose.
I have seen several cases of losing my life because of a dollar:
A few years ago, in a grocery store in Guangzhou, because the price was not negotiated, the female shopkeeper chased out of the store and gave the female student a slap, and the two sides pulled up in the rain.
During the entanglement, the female shopkeeper suddenly fell to the ground and fainted, and died due to the ineffectiveness of rescue.
According to the forensic medical examination, the female shopkeeper induced acute heart failure due to fighting and emotional agitation.
And the cause of the matter is only because the difference between a pack of cigarettes and a dollar is not negotiated, the shopkeeper sells 13 yuan, and the female student says 12 yuan.
And this dollar and life thing is more than this one.
In 2017, at the noodle shop in front of Wuyi Station in Hubei Province, the owner of the shop asked for an additional yuan and sarcastically said to customers: "If you can't afford to eat, don't eat." "The customer was ashamed and angry, and after a fight, he took a kitchen knife and hacked the shop owner to death...
What a big deal, what a terrible price, such a high bill for bad emotions, it's shocking.
02 Bad emotions can hurt your family
There is a saying: "The coldest thing in the world is not to turn the muzzle of the gun at the person who loves you the most." ”
Bad emotions, don't take home, because the family is full of people who love you the most and who you love the most.
There is such a story:
A couple of two people want to divorce, and the two have a meal before the divorce.
Neither of them spoke at first, but ten minutes later, the woman asked the two to recall why they divorced.
Then the two of them thought about it for ten minutes.
In the end, the two concluded that it was because one toothpaste was not squeezed well.
One day the husband was ready to brush his teeth and squeeze the toothpaste, probably because of the lack of work, coupled with the man's strength, the toothpaste was squeezed outside.
It happened that the woman came over, and the toothpaste fell on the woman's feet, and the woman said two words to him.
The man was in a bad mood and said, "What's wrong?" That's how I squeeze toothpaste! ”
Then the woman did not want to show weakness, the two quarreled, soon separated, within two weeks to divorce.
It's a bit incredible to read, a toothpaste is not squeezed well to make a divorce, which is a bit of a fuss.
In fact, it is not, what really causes things to go bad and even hurt the family is bad emotions.
A few years ago, there was a news article on the Internet entitled "Pingdingshan Mother Beats Her 8-Year-Old Daughter for 20 Minutes, Causing Her Death" that attracted widespread attention:
In the report, the little girl scored 92 points in an exam and did not dare to go home to make a mistake, so she changed the full score paper of the same table to her own name and took it home, which was seen through by her mother.
Subsequently, in a chat with the teacher, the mother found that the child claimed that the calculator "sent by the classmate" was bought by stealing money from the family.
So the angry mother beat her daughter with wire and slippers for more than 20 minutes.
The little girl closed her eyes forever.
After the case, Liu Guifang, a procurator in Pingdingshan City, analyzed the case that the pressure on parents in the current society is an indisputable fact, and in the domestic violence that occurs, many times it is because of the "bad" emotions encountered by parents in society, which cannot be vented to friends and colleagues, and returns home with this emotion, as a vulnerable group, the child becomes a punching bag, "often it is not how much the child has made a mistake, but the parents' emotions have ultimately hurt the child." ”
Many times, bad emotions will be vented more to the people closest to you, but often the family members around you are the people who love you the most, want to come, use bad emotions to hurt them, how helpless and cold they should be in their hearts.
There is a saying: "There is no hardest thing in life than to maintain respect and patience even for the most familiar and kind people, the people you love the most." ”
It is precisely because the family around us is very familiar, kind, and unconditionally loves us, so we show the most casual side, but you know, they are the people we most deserve respect and patience.
03 Bad emotions In the end, they still pay for it themselves
A writer once said: "Emotion is a gun, and when we pull the trigger of emotion, the muzzle of the gun is actually aimed at ourselves." ”
I agree with this, because all the bad emotions, no matter where they go, will eventually have to pay for themselves.
There is a term in psychology called the "kicking cat effect", which specifically refers to the fact that bad emotions will vent down with the hierarchy.
There is also a story about this:
A leader went out late in the morning because of family chores, and almost violated his own set requirements for "strict attendance" because he was late, and he was upset.
It just so happened that the quality of an employee's work was not up to standard, so he severely criticized this employee.
The employee held his breath and came home from work and scolded the child who was jumping around on the sofa.
The child's heart was on fire, so he kicked the cat in the house.
The element that seems to be at the bottom, the weakest, the most devious, the cat, has become the ultimate victim.
But in fact, the story is not over, the kicked cat fled to the street, just a large truck drove over, the driver quickly avoided, but hit the pedestrian on the side of the road, that is, the leader mentioned earlier.
Regardless of whether this story is true or not, bad emotions do cause a series of vicious effects, so that innocent people around them are hurt and finally fall back on their heads.
There is a barbecue shop downstairs in the neighborhood, which is often open until late at night.
One night at eleven o'clock, a young man parked his car in front of the barbecue shop without finding a parking space, and the middle-aged female boss saw the situation and angrily yelled at the young man to let him drive away.
Perhaps the female boss's attitude was very bad, and the young man was angry and argued for a few words.
Unexpectedly, the female boss began to scold, grabbing him and the two women who got off the car at the same time to vent their dissatisfaction.
The young man also did not give in, more and more people were watching, the female boss pulled and pushed at the young man, in the confusion did not know who met the female boss, the female boss was so angry that she could not do it, lying on the ground and shouting, saying that someone had hit her and wanted to call the police.
This time, the landlady son rode back in an electric car, saw his mother lying on the ground, knew that the driver did it, rode the electric car towards the car at the door, and scolded his mother while crashing.
Finally, the police came, and the whole building was quiet.
Afterwards, the landlady and her son not only did not make a business, the electric car was also damaged, and had to compensate the owner of the car for a maintenance fee.
Originally, a simple matter of letting the young man move the car, even if it is not a whisper, can be solved with only a normal tone, but it has caused an extremely embarrassing situation, and finally has to pay for it himself, which is not worth it.
Bad emotions will always hand the final bill to yourself, do not want to take it all, just control it at the source.
04
Xun Zi Youyun: "Anger is not to be taken, but joy is not to be given." ”
You can't punish others excessively because you are angry, and you don't give others too much reward when you are happy.
May we all be calm and moderate in the face of things, reasonably control our emotions, and do not fall into the "trap" of bad emotions.