What is the real sight of the world? I have seen a high praise answer, saying:
"What really sees the world is not a meal at a fine dining restaurant or a trip around the world. It is the peace and calmness of seeing humanity unfold in front of you. So, don't overestimate your relationship with anyone, but also underestimate the rules of human nature. ”
Deeply.
Understanding human nature is the first step to transformation, growth, and maturity. For example, human nature is selfish, the world is bustling, all for profit; the world is bustling, all are for profit.
Without interests, there is no power of action, and the so-called lack of profit is not early, which is the truth. If you can accept and understand this, you can occupy an active and dominant position in social relationships.
A person who fights for his own interests is not called selfishness, and it is selfish to harm the interests of others for his own interests. There is good and evil in human nature, there is a glorious side, there is also a dark side, it depends on who can manage and restrain the part of their own human nature.
There are three evils in human nature, and it is not good to see others, and it is not in the first place!
1. Small grace raises nobles, and great grace raises enemies.
The story of cong fei, a public welfare singer, may have been heard by many people, who have donated more than 3 million yuan in their lives and funded 183 poor students, but their and his wife's residence is extremely simple, and their lives are very poor. Unfortunately, he later developed stomach cancer, and during his serious illness and hospitalization, many people who had been funded called, but did not care about his condition.
Some people even scolded Cong Fei, why didn't he continue to fund it? When will the illness get better and continue to make money? Aren't you a pit bull?
Yes, there is no gratitude and no gratitude, only a greedy heart, a blood-sucking mouth, which is really chilling.
So this is a very typical example, there is a small favor to people, the grace of dripping water will instead gush back to each other, and there is a great favor to people, and you can only raise an enemy for yourself.
When you are particularly good to a person, you will develop a natural attitude of the other party, and when you can no longer be good to him, or have a bad one, you will immediately remember and hate you.
Human nature is greedy, and when your kindness to a person is too great to repay, it will hurt yourself. Otherwise, since ancient times, there has been an old saying that it is difficult for good people to do.
Never underestimate the evil of greed, and also cultivate the inferior roots of good and bad work and enjoy its success in the unearned gain, resulting in good people not repaying well, and even the person who leads your kindness will take revenge on you.
Remember the story of the beggar who came to the door to beg? The first time he went to the door to beg, the man gave him ten dollars, grateful to Dade; the second time he went to the door to beg, the man gave him ten dollars, still grateful to Dade. Then I slowly developed the habit of receiving the ten dollars I grasped every day.
Finally, when one day, when the man got married and told the beggar that he could no longer give you money in the future, the beggar was very angry and rebuked: "What, you actually took my money to support other women?" ”
It is very heartfelt, but in real life, great kindness can only raise an enemy for oneself.
2, knife mouth, tofu heart.
You must believe that in this world, there is no knife mouth, tofu heart, only knife mouth, knife heart. Truly kind and honest people cannot say those harsh and harsh words, so it is only a kind of beautification and human management of the viciousness in human nature and nature.
You don't have a vicious heart, how can you say evil words? You must know that speech is actually an externalized manifestation of people's psychology. Therefore, I agree with Cai Yongkang's point of view:
"What kind of words you say, you are what kind of person."
A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June. Verbal damage, like a very fine embroidery needle, is deeply rooted in the flesh, and the most terrible thing is that as the wound heals, the needle is still there. For example, deliberately poking people's weaknesses, often making jokes about people's shortcomings.
Even if it is a joke, there must be an element of sincerity.
In Freud's psychology, there is an element of sincerity in every joke. So, whether he's joking or not, subconsciously, it's not that he won't do it. Often hanging on the lips shows that he has more or less this idea.
3, can not see others are good.
I want you to be well, but I don't want you to be better off than I am, real and profound. When you have a better life than me, my jealousy will always make me wantonly slander you behind your back, even to the point of falling into the rock.
As Maugham said:
"When a man does something beyond normal reason, his compatriots will always add fuel to his fire and find some disgraceful motive."
In the same way, such a person can never face himself squarely and improve himself, because he can never see the part of himself that needs to grow. They are also self-righteous and narrow-minded, always thinking that the success of others is just good luck, refusing to recognize the abilities and advantages of others, and when they encounter setbacks, they will only complain about others.
Therefore, the more you are unhappy with a person, the best way to comfort him is to tell him your tragic side, let him feel that you are worse than him, and his heart will feel relieved.
On the other hand, even if you live well, you can't show that you are living well, after all, the open gun is easy to dodge the dark arrow.
Why? I read a sentence before:
"Man, allowing the traces of a stranger, but cannot tolerate the promotion of a person around him. Because there are contrasts and conflicts of interest between people at the same level, there is no problem with strangers. ”
For the three evils of this human nature, you must not be dismissive, and then think about the relationship between people, in fact, that is the matter, do not take it too seriously. If a friend asks you for help, the part of your ability that you have shown should be grasped just right, not too risky, not too clumsy.
When you surpass others a little, all you get is belittling, ridicule and jealousy, and when you take a big step beyond others, you can get envy, recognition and appreciation.
Don't affect your own mentality because of the human part, do yourself well, after all, as long as you don't care, then everything has nothing to do with you.
It doesn't affect you, what does it have to do with you? You can be good to people, but you can't be good to people without a bottom line, and whoever you can be good to without a bottom line can hurt you without a bottom line. At the same time, in your kindness, you must also carry a little sharpness, do not show the anger of Vajrayogini, and do not see the compassion of the bodhisattva.
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