01.
All their lives, people want to be comfortable with the people they like.
That is to say, do not be bound to each other, but go on with mutual respect and understanding.
However, along with love comes the possessiveness of feelings.
It's easy for people to manage things in their feelings and think that everything about the other person should belong to themselves.
In fact, even two people who are close to each other should maintain an appropriate distance.
With their own space, the two sides can love each other in a better state.
Therefore, women in their feelings should also give men a certain degree of freedom.
Knowing how not to ask about some things is really smart.
02.
But ask him what he is determined to do
A man has his own dignity, especially in his feelings, and he wants to be respected.
That is, when you are determined to do something;
What he wants to hear is not a voice of blocking, but a voice of support and approval.
After graduation, a man wants to start his own business, but at that time he only had ideas and no funds.
The girlfriend who accompanied him through college denied his idea.
Thinking that he was unrealistic, the two people later went into the situation of breaking up.
And now, the man has become a successful person, he does not regret his choice, but only feel sorry for the original love.
In fact, when a man is determined to do something, women should not ask too much.
Just trust him and encourage him, then it's enough.
If you always stop him and deny him, then the feelings between the two will naturally have contradictions and problems.
Therefore, women should ignore what men are determined to do.
After all, what he wants to do, no matter how much you persuade him, there is no way back.
Choosing to believe in him can bring him strength and confidence.
03.
Ask him about his ex and past though
Everyone has an ex and a past, and the best thing for a woman to do with each other's exes and pasts is to leave them alone.
A man who truly loves you and is worthy of your love will naturally deal with his past.
He won't allow previous feelings to bother you or make you sad and disappointed.
But if, men, are always entangled with their exs, then you have no reason to stick with it.
Therefore, a woman must know how to ignore or not ask, and quietly watch his approach in order to know his attitude.
Yang Ying and Huang Xiaoming, a popular couple in the entertainment industry, were frequently discussed by netizens some time ago.
It turned out that Huang Xiaoming's predecessor appeared in the same variety show as him.
And the two people's scandals are continuous, and there are even rumors of marriage changes.
However, Huang Xiaoming clarified at the first time, cleared the relationship with his predecessor, and gave his wife a sense of security.
A man who truly understands and loves you will not carry past feelings into the feelings of the present.
And as a woman, don't be a person who is angry about your other half of your ex.
You know, the road is still long, and people have to look forward.
Always clinging to the past, nature is unable to see the beauty ahead.
Therefore, women should not pay attention to the ex and past of the other half.
Ignoring it is the best attitude that should be held.
This attitude not only appears to be very generous to women, but also the best way to observe men's attitudes.
04.
But ask him about his private space
There is a term in psychology called the "hedgehog effect."
In the cold cave, there were two small hedgehogs, blown extremely cold by each other' winds, and had to hug each other for warmth.
However, when they embraced each other, they were bruised by each other's stabs.
And when they are far away, they are at risk of freezing to death.
Fortunately, slowly they found:
As long as you keep a proper distance from each other, you will not hurt each other, and you will be able to stay warm at the same time.
This psychological effect tells people that the two parties who are in love in their feelings also need a certain distance.
He deserves, his own private space.
In that space that belongs to him, he can choose his hobbies and do what he likes.
As long as it does not touch the bottom line of feelings, women must know not to ask.
In fact, women are willing to give each other great freedom, and the other party will give you more loyalty.
A man who is looked at very tightly will have a rebellious psychology, thinking that you do not understand and do not understand him.
If you don't ask him, he will worry about you in his heart.
A group of brothers went out to dinner, and at ten o'clock, the friends' partners called to urge them to go home.
Only men, no calls and messages from girlfriends.
He would look at his phone every once in a while and didn't wait for a message until the dinner was over.
When he got home, he angrily asked his girlfriend, "Don't you care about yourself?" ”
The girlfriend laughed instead.
You see, as long as his heart is in you, the more you ignore him, the more he cares about you.
All in all, emotional things need to be explored slowly, but it is not a good practice to look too closely.
A smart woman can do these few things in her relationship and ignore them.
Maybe the other party will care more about you and be more loyal.