Dong Boyu and Equation, college classmates and a good pair of buddies, after graduation, the two worked in the same unit; but the two whose life trajectories seem to coincide have diametrically opposite personalities.
Equation is a programmer, not very motivated, only wants to raise flowers after work, cook, gentle personality, no temper; wife Liaosha hates Equation for being incompetent, and hates him for not being able to support the wall.
Equation and LiaoSha's marriage is a strong woman and a weak man, LiaoSha holds the right to speak at home, and the equation is in front of Liaosha, and the atmosphere does not dare to come out.
Dong Boyu is most unaccustomed to women like Liao Sha, he feels that women should be gentle and virtuous, be a man's virtuous helper, too strong to lose femininity.
Dong Boyu, not as good as the equation "bullying".
Dong Boyu has ambitions in his career and selfishness in marriage, he is bolder and smarter than the equation, but his seemingly shrewd calculations almost make him lose a happy marriage.
Gu Xiaonan was "kept in captivity" by Dong Boyu
Gu Xiaonan was once a dancer, the song and dance troupe disbanded, Gu Xiaonan immediately lost his job, after marrying Dong Boyu, Gu Xiaonan concentrated on becoming a full-time wife.
Dong Boyu can earn money, which is Gu Xiaonan's proudest place, she often basks in happiness in the circle of friends, causing "girlfriends" to be jealous.
But Gu Xiaonan, as a woman who can only swipe her husband's deputy card, her life is actually very insecure.
In the original work of "Happiness Duo", it is mentioned that Dong Boyu works overtime to socialize, no matter how late he goes home, he can see Gu Xiaonan sitting on the sofa waiting for him, and she uses this "competitive" way to force Dong Boyu to go home on time.
Dong Boyu was therefore very impatient with Gu Xiaonan, he felt that Gu Xiaonan did not understand his hard work outside, in Dong Boyu's eyes, Gu Xiaonan was only responsible for doing housework every day, and there was a lot of money to spend, and the days were moist enough.
Dong Boyu faced Gu Xiaonan with a lofty posture, and Gu Xiaonan swiped his secondary card, so he should quietly do his appendages.
Gu Xiaonan is very knowledgeable, she carefully takes care of Dong Boyu's life, tolerates his temper, and even is hospitalized for surgery, she does not dare to tell Dong Boyu, afraid that Dong Boyu will dislike her.
Dong Boyu wanted a child, but Gu Xiaonan's stomach was not moving, he advised Gu Xiaonan to go to the hospital for examination, he blamed the root of "infertility" on Gu Xiaonan, he said: "My ex-girlfriend has had a fetus for me. ”
Gu Xiaonan secretly went to the examination, the result is that the fallopian tubes are blocked, need to do a small operation, Gu Xiaonan found a "girlfriend" to accompany the bed, did not expect the "girlfriend" to turn around and told the other two "girlfriends" about Gu Xiaonan's "can't give birth".
The "girlfriend" mistakenly sent Gu Xiaonan's "hidden pain" to the wrong group, and Gu Xiaonan learned that her so-called confidant and friend, on the surface, was polite and affectionate, and privately regarded her as a joke.
No one to find, Gu Xiaonan had no choice, found Liao Sha to help, Gu Xiaonan thought that Liao Sha and her did not have any friendship, but it was only because the husbands of the two were good buddies that Liao Sha was willing to take care of her, but she did not expect Liao Sha to do her best to do everything for Gu Xiaonan.
At the critical moment, Gu Xiaonan saw clearly his situation, who was a true friend and who was hypocritical, at a glance.
But Gu Xiaonan has not yet discovered the real reason for all this: in the years when dong Boyu was "captive", she had long been raised and abandoned, not only her talent was buried, her work ability was zero, she was seriously out of touch with society, and even the social circle was in a mess.
Strong men and weak women are the most cruel calculations in marriage.
Dong Boyu, he did not want Gu Xiaonan to stand up, only if she was down-to-earth as his appendage, he could work hard without distraction, and return home to enjoy the treatment of an emperor.
Dong Boyu was on the verge of an extramarital affair
Dong Boyu is handsome, has high emotional intelligence, and although he is married, he is still very "eye-catching" on the outside.
In the process of contacting the customer Fu Xiaofen, Fu Xiaofen hinted at his good feelings for Dong Boyu, Dong Boyu did not dare to cross the line, and called Fu Xiaofen "sister", this "sister", so that Fu Xiaofen was quite dissatisfied.
Fu Xiaofen's husband is a captain of an ocean-going oil tanker, the husband and wife gather less and leave more, Fu Xiaofen is empty and lonely, and needs someone to accompany her, Dong Boyu soon entered her eyes.
Dong Boyu's leader said: "Take this order and promote you to vice president." ”
In the face of the temptation of the high position, Dong Boyu was eager to move, not to mention, although Fu Xiaofen was older than him, he still had charm and excellent temperament, and he did not resent Xiaofen.
In order to please Fu Xiaofen and win the big project, Dong Boyu specially gave her a set of cosmetics, and received a photo of Fu Xiaofen applying a mask that night.
Because of this photo, Gu Xiaonan was jealous, and her marriage with Dong Boyu was in crisis for the first time.
Gu Xiaonan complained to Liao Sha, and Liao Sha gave her a trick: first go to a credit card with a limit of 50,000 yuan.
Gu Xiaonan did not understand what medicine Liao Sha sold in the gourd, and ran to the bank to know that he had no fixed assets, no income certificate, and the credit card could not be done at all.
What makes Gu Xiaonan even more desperate is that the house is not under Dong Boyu's name, but the name of his father-in-law, and Dong Boyu's calculations for his wife have been thoroughly arranged as early as before marriage.
Liao Sha's intention is to make Gu Xiaonan independent, and women have a career in order to have confidence in marriage.
In the original book of "Happiness Duo", it is written: "Through this confirmation over and over again, Gu Xiaonan found that his seemingly happy and happy life was actually in danger. As long as Dong Boyu has a little loss of his feelings, then it is a disaster. ”
Because the economy is 100% dependent on Dong Boyu, Gu Xiaonan's attention to Dong Boyu is also extremely sensitive, and the wind and grass on Dong Boyu's body can arouse Gu Xiaonan's vigilance.
Gu Xiaonan drove and followed Dong Boyu, found Dong Boyu and Fu Xiaofen into a community, Gu Xiaonan did not dare to question Dong Boyu, the next day found Fu Xiaofen, wanted to declare sovereignty, dissuaded Fu Xiaofen.
Fu Xiaofen is a shopping mall executive, the simple Gu Xiaonan, is not her opponent at all, three words and two words, not only did not catch the evidence of Dong Boyu's extramarital affairs, but was easily sent off by Fu Xiaofen.
Gu Xiaonan's heart was not happy, but Fu Xiaofen was secretly happy.
Because of the relationship between Dong Boyu and Fu Xiaofen, it has caused a tremor in his family, indicating that Fu Xiaofen has a place in Dong Boyu's life, otherwise Gu Xiaonan would not have minded so much.
Knowing that Gu Xiaonan had found Fu Xiaofen, Dong Boyu covered his face as soon as he returned home, scolding Gu Xiaonan, he could not tolerate Gu Xiaonan's destruction of his business, Dong Boyu slapped Gu Xiaonan, completely making Gu Xiaonan despair of marriage.
Dong Boyu's psychology is described very realistically in the book:
In his opinion, Gu Xiaonan's emotions are basically because of the endless loneliness in her life. And he thinks that the ambiguity between himself and his eldest sister is social, a gray that needs to be tolerated by Gu Xiaonan. He thought in his heart that even if I was a little too much, wasn't it for you and my life? ”
Dong Boyu's family situation, not to the point where he needs to "sacrifice male sex", even if Dong Boyu does not work, the family foundation is enough for the husband and wife to squander for three years, Dong Boyu thinks that he is close to Fu Xiaofen for profit, in fact, he wants to take the opportunity to indulge his selfish desires.
The reason why he dared to engage in ambiguity unscrupulously was because in the marriage of strong men and weak women, he mistakenly thought that he had eaten Gu Xiaonan, and he did not care about Gu Xiaonan's feelings, and Gu Xiaonan did not dare to leave him.
He underestimated Gu Xiaonan's level.
Gu Xiaonan fought back
Dong Boyu's selfishness made Gu Xiaonan chill.
Her patience with Dong Boyu has a bottom line, and her principled mistakes, infidelity and domestic violence are unforgivable.
In the original book of the Happiness Duo, it is written:
In the whole thing, Dong Boyu's disregard for his emotions made Gu Xiaonan fall into deep thinking. It turned out that the happy life she had always thought was based on the attached card given by Dong Boyu. It turned out that in her husband's mind, a woman who used an accessory card did not even have the right to lose her temper. ”
Gu Xiaonan ran away from home and returned to her mother's house, she thought about the meaning of this marriage, and decided to regain her dancing career and find her lost self, as Liao Sha said.
Gu Xiaonan no longer revolves around Dong Boyu, and her approach can be called a textbook.
In the original work of "Happiness Duo", it is mentioned that Gu Xiaonan first lived in his mother's house for a month, and went to the dance studio to teach the children to dance part-time, and Dong Boyu "three Gu Maolu" invited Gu Xiaonan back.
Dong Boyu always thought that Gu Xiaonan relied on him, but in fact, he could not do without Gu Xiaonan.
Without Gu Xiaonan's care, Dong Boyu's life was a mess.
The clothes that should have been dry cleaned were casually thrown into the washing machine, and tens of thousands of pieces were lost at once; the water and electricity bills did not know how to pay, the power outage melted the things in the refrigerator, and the ground was full of stains, which made Dong Boyu have a headache.
This time, Dong Boyu panicked.
Knowing that Gu Xiaonan wanted to fight for a career and no longer focus on the family, Dong Boyu "yin" thought of a way to trap Gu Xiaonan: trickIng Gu Xiaonan into taking pregnancy medicine, with a child, Gu Xiaonan can stay at home and continue to serve him.
Dong Boyu's "treacherous plan" was finally discovered by Gu Xiaonan, and his deception was the greatest harm to Gu Xiaonan.
In the original novel of "Happiness Duo", Gu Xiaonan was not pregnant, but started a business with peace of mind and opened an art school, she is both the founder and the dance teacher.
After getting busy at work, Dong Boyu's dynamics will no longer attract Gu Xiaonan's attention.
Gu Xiaonan, who danced and shined, finally found a suitable stage for herself; the rift in marriage not only did not affect her career, but let her interpret art, and her emotions were more accurate.
Instead of living a life with your palms facing upwards and a low voice, it is better to create a better future yourself.
Gu Xiaonan has a new suitor around him, the self-righteous Dong Boyu, which knows how sought-after Gu Xiaonan, the "wife of chaff", is.
When it was his turn to be ignored, Dong Boyu realized his problems in marriage, he kept Gu Xiaonan in captivity at home, seemingly giving her a worry-free life, in fact, he sacrificed Gu Xiaonan's dream, he never cared about what kind of life Gu Xiaonan wanted to live.
Watching Gu Xiaonan take her career seriously, Dong Boyu no longer forced her to be a housewife, but supported her to start a business, and secretly found someone to help Gu Xiaonan invest a sum of money.
Gu Xiaonan jumped out of the strange circle of "centered on Dong Boyu", and Dong Boyu also re-examined himself and understood the meaning of marriage.
Marriage is not about sacrificing one person and perfecting another, but about supporting each other, taking care of each other, and managing life better together.
Dong Boyu can't see the low posture of Cheng in marriage, in fact, Equation is more responsible than him, Equation's tolerance and concern for his wife, let Liao Sha feel his preciousness, and the couple finally found a suitable mode of getting along.
Dong Boyu, on the other hand, paid many times the effort of the equation to change back to Gu Xiaonan's re-acceptance.
At the end of the original work, Dong Boyu won the project in Fu Xiaofen's hand, but he did not expect to be a "thunder", Dong Boyu not only did not have a promotion, but also lost his job, only to come out to start a business.
Marriage and career, both encountered a crisis, Dong Boyu was frustrated, there was no anger, began to recognize Gu Xiaonan's entrepreneurial model; the mother-in-law fell ill and was hospitalized, Dong Boyu took out hundreds of thousands of dollars to treat the mother-in-law, and let Gu Xiaonan temporarily put down his work to take care of the elderly, Dong Boyu helped Gu Xiaonan run an art school.
The same is the return to the family, this time, Dong Boyu is not selfishly squeezing Gu Xiaonan's life, but for Gu Xiaonan to support the bottom, from the heart for Gu Xiaonan to solve problems, balance family and career.
Facts have proved that it is not that Dong Boyu does not care about people, but gu Xiaonan's long-term patience and swallowing, accustomed to his bad problems; when Gu Xiaonan has the realization that "Dong Boyu is a man who is dispensable, she can live this life well", she really controlled the marriage.