When the child has no homework, the family and The Beauty, as long as the homework is tutored, the whole family is a chicken flying dog jump.
When are the relationships between children and parents today most tense? That's when it comes to tutoring homework, and the hostility is very strong. On one side is the roar of the Lion of Hedong, and on the other side is the lamb to be slaughtered.
Over the years, many parents have complained that they are not stupid, the exam has not been so difficult, why is it so stupid to have a child, is it the wrong child?
A few days ago, a mother in Qingdao, Shandong Province, because of tutoring her child's homework, looked at the child's 55-point report card, was speechless for a while, her blood pressure soared, and then went to the hospital for examination, the result was insufficient cerebral blood supply, myocardial ischemia, and slight cerebral infarction.
Mother is a doctor, can not stay out of the matter, encounter children with poor grades, the big Luo immortals are mad, parents are highly educated, from the perspective of genetics, children will not be stupid, but why will children have poor grades?
This is the problem of teaching, people with high education, may not necessarily be able to teach good children, methods and ideas are wrong. If you follow the way you were educated when you were a child, you will definitely say that it is not suitable for today's education.
There are many similar things, and tutoring homework is the most painful time for children, and it is also the time for parents to go crazy. Some even go crazy, and the parents of a building meet to beat the baby, so as not to affect other neighbors.
As a result, there are really people who echo it, many parents solitaire, to fight together, anyway, nothing idle, a fight in advance is good, but the children do not know, a disaster is slowly descending on their heads, who to provoke?
Sometimes it is not a child's problem, on the contrary, parents also have a certain responsibility, primary school children, at best 10 years old, in their world, may not be a good distinction between right and wrong, only know that fun is not fun, so it is normal to make a mistake occasionally.
As for the academic performance, many parents see that their children's grades are not ideal, they get angry, a scolding or a beating, all say that filial piety is produced under the stick, in fact, this is unreasonable.
Hitting a child will only become more and more rebellious, more and more skinny, until you can't beat it. In the face of the child's bad performance, we parents should show patience, education and guidance is very important, not to come up indiscriminately a scolding, the child will gradually lose self-confidence in your scolding, so that the results are getting worse and worse.
Treat learning with a normal heart
Accept your own ordinariness, accept the ordinariness of your parents, and learn to accept your child's ordinariness.
The most important task of the child is to learn, and the grade represents how much to learn. Therefore, parents have slowly formed an attitude based on grades.
In fact, too many parents understand that many reasons for their children's poor learning are their own problems, but they refuse to admit that it is their own problems and are unwilling to face it, so they have to be angry with the child.
If parents have good educational methods, good guidance, and believe that children will not be too bad, children with poor grades are nothing more than because of several two reasons:
The first: children are careless in doing things, which is a common disease of children, and the questions that will be written are wrong answers. In daily life, you can consciously exercise, such as walking a long way and asking your child what he just saw on the side of the road.
The second kind: children do not have concentration, this is the performance of impatience in doing things, the patience of a problem to see twice is insufficient, it is easy to make mistakes, and it is necessary to consciously cultivate the child's concentration.
Children don't, overall these two reasons are caused. Children have poor grades, don't hold back, don't get angry. The more you are angry with the child, the more blind you are, and you learn to be friends with the child, not to lead. Patiently communicate and communicate with the child, why is it wrong, and next time I hope the child can do it right.
Children actually very much want to get the exaggeration and affirmation of their parents, the gap between 50 points and 100 points, may only lack an affirmation or praise for your child.
Write at the end
Everyone is a jackie-chan, not an adult.
Not every child is suitable for the examination paper, we must be good at finding the strengths of each child, teaching according to the talent, can not because of a score, and negate a child. Maybe the child will play an extraordinary role in a certain field.
Do not advocate the theory of filial piety under the stick, because your beating may not hit a "Edison". Parents will not educate, then learn on their own, do not pass on their own mistakes to the children.
Please don't bring the bad education of the previous generation to your children.