Man is a social animal and craves his own social circle and friends, which is an instinctive need. Children with wide social network and many friends are well-liked, can eat openly, have more connections, three gangs of a good man, children are good at making friends, and the opportunities for career development are wider.
Parents want their children to have strong social skills and many friends, but some children do not like to interact with others, have no friends, or want to make friends but cannot make friends, the child's heart is lost, and the parents are secretly anxious.
Why don't children have friends? The reason is that parents have not done these things well:
1, children do not like to share
Everyone likes to associate with people who are willing to share, even if it is to share pain, it also represents trust, so that others can experience the taste of being valued. Children like to share, no matter how much there is good food, they must leave a bite for friends, and so do friends, and the relationship is getting more and more iron.
When the child wants to share, parents do not impose interference, feel that their children seem to have suffered losses, so that the child is very embarrassed; in fact, everyone is mutual, no one will always be willing to accept donations from others, the child's heart is innocent, you are good to me, I am also good to you, and will also take the initiative to share with our children.
2. Restrictions of parents
Parents have stricter control over their children, children are also very good, learning habits and grades are also good, but there are no friends, because parents themselves have a dispensable attitude towards the matter of children making friends, afraid that children will play crazy together, or too naughty, fight with each other, and the child's body will be injured.
Children are limited by their parents, can not go out with children to jump around, slowly personality also becomes unsociable, and then join the group of small partners is somewhat difficult. When children are together, it is inevitable that there will be bumps into places or contradictions, children learn to climb up strongly, solve the relationship between friends by themselves, and their social skills will become stronger and stronger.
3. Children have strong personality
Having a unique personality is a good thing and represents innovation, but if you are too strong, compete for the first place everywhere, others cannot surpass themselves, can't afford to lose, love jealousy, and for a long time, children will stay away.
Such parents may usually give their children more strict requirements, but also more spoiled, when other children surpass themselves, can not educate children to take the right attitude, learn the advantages of others, but will unconsciously reveal a "can not eat grapes say grape sour" psychology, or take a dismissive, to balance their own psychology, children subconsciously imitate parents.
Parents still encourage their children to participate in collective activities, find a sense of honor and belonging, enhance social skills, improve comprehensive quality, overcome their own small problems, and mingle with friends, the child's mood is more pleasant, and the development of life is smoother.
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