Stepping into society will encounter different demons and ghosts, different values collide with each other, and not everything in life is satisfactory, and not all people are friendly and kind to themselves.
Especially in the workplace, where interests are competing, you simply can't avoid it, and when there is a pain in the skin, you will know that there is little truth in the world, even if it is pity; be vigilant and do not trust others easily.
Because in the process of dealing with people, it is inevitable that you will encounter some strange people, who will deliberately learn from you in some formal or informal occasions.
In the workplace, the deputy suddenly "goes mad", as a leader, if you are ashamed and angry, accusing the deputy, it will provoke the other party's anti-lip ridicule, thus trapping people in further verbal wars.
This will not only lose face in front of your subordinates, but also lower your rating in the hearts of leaders at a higher level.
However, as a leader, you can't be too gentle or ignore the difficulty of facing the deputy.
This will make the deputy feel that you are a weak and deceitful person, the subordinate will be more unscrupulous step by step, and it will also make other subordinates feel that you are weak and deceitful, and will be against you in the future.
In the face of the deputy's deliberate difficulties, as a leader, he must not only save his own face, but also not bully others because of his excellent handling, so it is very difficult. Therefore, appropriate and effective countermeasures can be taken:
1. Stay calm and calm
When the deputy is mad, you must stay calm, never be affected by the deputy, since you have been mad, wait until he has completely finished his remarks, so that the deputy can not guess your intentions.
After all, it takes a certain momentum to be fired at the leader, just like the three armies fighting, the three drums, one prospering, then declining, and three exhausting.
When he finds it ineffective, he must be worried and uneasy, creating invisible pressure for him. Emperor Weng of the Qing Dynasty had a pair of couplets: life is rare to have calm, and I do not believe that there are no ancient sages in this day. The more you do great things, the more you have to be calm. The so-called calm breath is to hold the breath. Tell a small story: During the Three Kingdoms period, Zhuge Liang, the chancellor of the Shu State, misused horse mot during the Northern Expedition, which led to the loss of the street pavilion, which was extremely unfavorable to the war situation. In order to safely evacuate the people and grain and grass to Hanzhong, with the continuous transportation of grain and grass, zhuge Liang finally had only 500 soldiers stationed in Xicheng County. There was not a single general around, only a group of civilian officials. However, Sima Yi's 150,000-strong army had already swarmed towards Xicheng. Zhuge Liang ascended to the head of the city and saw the dust in the distance soaring into the sky, Zhuge Liang immediately issued an order: "Hide all the flags, and the soldiers will guard the guard sheds patrolling the city, and if there are those who enter and exit the city gates and speak loudly, kill!" Four gates were opened, and each gate used 20 soldiers, dressed as civilians, to clean the streets. When Wei Bing arrived, he must not move chaotically, and I have my own plans to deal with them. ”
After passing the order, Zhuge Liang draped himself in a crane and a scarf, and led two teenagers to carry a piano to the head of the city, sit by the railing, and burn incense to play the piano.
Wei Bing's outpost hurriedly reported the situation to Sima Yi. Sima Yi immediately ordered the army to stop advancing and to look forward on his own horse. Sure enough, I saw Zhuge Liang on the city tower, smiling, burning incense and playing the piano, a teenager on the left, holding a sword, and a teenager on the right, holding a tail. Inside and outside the city gate, there were only about twenty people, bowing their heads and cleaning, and there was no one around. Sima Yi saw this and suspected that there were heavy troops in the city, and quickly commanded the troops to retreat.
His son Sima Zhao said, "Could it be that Zhuge Liang did not have many troops and deliberately did this?" Why did my father retire from the army? ”
Sima Yi said with a straight face: "Zhuge Liang has always been very cautious and never takes risks. When the city gates are opened today, there will be heavy ambushes. If we rush in, we must be in the middle. What do you know? Don't rewind yet!"
Therefore, no matter at any time, as a leader, you must maintain the calm and calm you should have, just like Zhuge Liang, in the face of a strong enemy, you are still in danger, if Zhuge Liang is chaotic, it is estimated that there is no story of an empty city plan to scare off Sima Yi, but the story of Zhuge Liang being captured by Sima Yi. If you are angry because of the second in command, there is no calm, it is undoubtedly too humiliating.
2. Suppress people with positive trends
As a leader, after showing his demeanor and not arguing with his deputy, he should suppress people with the principles of the workplace and the basic qualities of people.
It is directly indicated that he is wrong in this way, for example: as a leader, there are things to say, why should he do this in public. As a first-in-command, because of the second-in-command's madness, you still need to argue with him yourself, which is undoubtedly a very humiliating thing. It should be known that many top leaders have a veto power, and it is undoubtedly the best way to use the power of a leader to suppress people.
For example, during the Spring and Autumn Warring States period, the Jin state of the five hegemons jumped out after the death of Duke Xiang of Jin, saying that he wanted to establish Gongzi Le as the mainstay, and even listed a lot of reasons: First, Gongzi Le's old wife was a concubine favored by Duke Wen of Jin, and his son was noble to his mother; second, Gongzi Le had been studying in Chen Guozhong, and naturally had a better relationship with Chen Guo; third, if Hou could establish Gongzi Le at this time, he would definitely be able to win Chen Guo over. However, Zhao Dun resolutely disagreed with Li Gongzile, and Zhao Dun proceeded from the actual interests of the Jin State, saying: The State of Chen is a small country, and it is still far away, unlike the State of Qin, not only is it a big country, but it is also close, and distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors. Besides, now Chen Guo is originally our heel, even if Gongzi Le is established, it is just to make Chen Guo closer to us, but Qin Guo is still a bit discordant with us now, at this time, if Hou Gongziyong is established, then Qin Guo will be close to us, this is to go to an enemy, and one more friend, why not do it? Zhao Dun's reason is very sufficient, very bright and upright, fox shooting aunt can not argue, there is no way, who let Zhao Dun be Zhengqing, and he is his deputy. In this way, Zhao Dun, in the name of Zhengqing, made this matter a decision, decided to make Gongzi Yong the king, and sent Xian contempt and shihui to the Qin Kingdom to greet Gongzi Yong. This is a typical example of Zhao Dun using the authority of the first hand to directly veto the decision of the second-in-command fox shooting gu, in order to suppress people.
3. Ask the king to rule the urn in his own way
In Mr. Jin Yong's martial arts novel "Eight Parts of the Heavenly Dragon", Murong Shi of Gusu has a special kind of kung fu called "returning the other body with the way of the other". To put it bluntly, it was to use force to fight, and Murong Fu could "bounce" back all the attack moves of others on him.
If the deputy deliberately makes things difficult and says embarrassing things, the best way is to adopt the method of inviting the monarch to porcelain and treat his body in the way of a man.
Skillfully use words to pull the deputy into the situation he has created, and then retreat on his own, leaving the other party to cocoon himself and eat the consequences.
For example, as a leader, you have promulgated new rules and regulations, which have caused dissatisfaction among subordinates, and as the deputy of the second-in-command, you have borrowed the dissatisfaction of subordinates, people's minds, and no heart to work as an excuse to regurgitate you, in order to fall on the face of your leader. As a leader, you can do this, saying: "Old Chen, since you are so familiar with the situation of employees, as a leader, the work of appeasing subordinates is entrusted to you, you must calm everyone's heart well, and do not let the work be delayed a little." I believe that your experience will definitely solve this matter perfectly. And just like that, when the time comes, I'll hear you report. If the second in command can't solve the problem perfectly, you can use this as an excuse to challenge it, if you can solve it perfectly, you can also make your work risk disappear."
4. Give full play to the advantages of the first hand, and ask the same questions to fight back
In the face of the deputy's intentional difficulty and deliberate anger, as a leader you can not answer directly first, may wish to play the advantages of a hand, you can take a sip of tea without hurrying, directly use the deputy's question to ask each other,
For example: Lao Chen, what are your thoughts on the question you asked? I would like to hear your opinion. The difficult question posed by the deputy was so cleverly that the ball was returned to the opponent. Then according to what he said, he grabbed his loophole and gave him a fatal blow. All in all, as a leader, you can say that you have occupied the time and place, there is no need to argue with the deputy, and it is only right to use the advantage of the first hand. To be good at using their own strengths and strengths, and to try to avoid their weaknesses and shortcomings, the trick of life is to use their own strengths. Smart people are often able to maximize their talents and strengths, so that they have eternal charm. Because only by using one's own strengths can one add value to one's life; on the contrary, using one's own shortcomings will devalue one's life. There is a famous saying: "A baby is waste when it is misplaced." ”
5. Wise and foolish, clever answers, let the deputy be bored with himself
If the deputy is not deliberate, and if he is not mad on the principle of right and wrong, you can laugh at it, be wise and foolish, and you should not understand the other party's words.
Cleverly answer this crisis to eliminate, so that not only can the deputy be bored with himself, but also show your demeanor in front of your subordinates.
For example, in the 1992 US election, Clinton's opponent attacked him on television campaigns as nothing more than a puppet of his wife, implying that Clinton could not be the head of a family, let alone qualified to be the head of a country.
But Clinton replied, "I don't know if you're running for president or Mrs. Clinton?" A good answer left the person who deliberately made him difficult without a word.
Clinton's somewhat stupid remarks are actually wise and foolish, and he uses clever words to make his opponents unhappy.
Therefore, as a leader, you must not only be professional in business skills, but also professional in handling things.
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