After watching Fu Seoul's view of love in "Strange Story", he said:
"I still believe to this day that if you love someone, you are willing to suffer with him. If you are willing to enjoy happiness with one person, what is love? ”
First of all, we should not distort the original meaning of this sentence, everyone wants to live a good life and pursue a rich life, after all, who is really willing to suffer? Love means that the values of common struggle, as well as when living conditions and environments do not allow, have spiritual beliefs to support themselves and are willing to accompany you to suffer.
Through love, a generous force is generated, overcoming the difficulties in front of you, getting out of the current predicament, and creating a good life.
If you are only willing to follow one person to enjoy the blessings, blessed are the two of us to share, there are difficulties for you to bear, yes, what is this called love?
Otherwise, even if it is love, then such love has long been trapped by the interests, often the love in the mouths of those exquisite egoists.
Wanting to live a good life, this is the psychology of normal people, and love does not contradict, I am afraid of sitting in love, kidnapping and taking a posture, behind which is the interest of the heart, with a variety of endless tricks, to meet and fill their laziness, greed and desire.
At the same time, love is also forgetting its own standards, removing its own presets, falling in love without any reason and without warning, the previous rules and regulations are all decorations, and the love found with standards and presets is never real love, but find a person who can fill your needs (just the missing part of yourself), there will be no mental determination, satisfaction and motivation.
1, true love is tolerance.
I like a quote from Teacher Luo Xiang:
"No one person can achieve all your assumptions about him, a lovely person, everyone will love her, but when she is no longer as cute as before, you still love her, and you are willing to discover her cuteness, then this is true love, and to do this, you must have a tolerant heart." 」
With the passing of freshness, when the passion has completely faded and his strengths and weaknesses are all exposed to you, you can still appreciate his advantages and tolerate his shortcomings.
Not questioning, doubting, or rebuking his shortcomings shows that you have let go of your own interests, because his shortcomings are not conducive to your enjoyment of pleasure.
That's why it shows that you no longer put your own interests in the first place, and are willing to tolerate him, tolerate him, and tolerate him, which is true love.
Do not underestimate the tolerance between two people, which represents a lot of things, but also means a lot of things, and even directly determines the direction and development of love.
2, true love is change.
Love is willing to change yourself, but also to manage yourself, for the happiness of the person you love, to change everything you need to change, for the longevity of love, to change everything that needs to be changed, instead of forcing you, for the life I want, to change yourself.
From this point, it can also be seen whether you are really in love with each other.
Two people who really love each other, change is a two-way street, if a person will not change himself from beginning to end, only ask for it, then at best, it is just that you love him, and he accepts the love that is at your disposal.
So love is, you are willing to change for me, I am also willing to change for you, through the change of two people, make love sweeter, make two people better. Then in love, we can also better understand ourselves, better understand ourselves, and better accept ourselves.
No one is perfect, two people together, can only accept and respect each other. It sounds right to ask for it, and it is indeed the other person's problem, but the deep meaning behind it is that I hope to change you so that I can live a life that I absolutely enjoy.
3, true love is achievement.
Achieve the other party is an independent individual, rather than always think that the other party is their own appendage, no matter who, should have their own thoughts, emotions, will, and in love, also need to maintain.
As I read a passage:
"True love is the independence of two trees, looking at and contrasting with each other, but each becoming a landscape; true love is the love of two clusters of flowers, admiring each other's beauty, and breathing freely; true love is the distant gaze of two stars, thousands of years of waiting, but never feeling separated." 」
Even if you are married, it does not mean that you are me, I am you. I am still me, you are still you, with a heart of trust do not limit the freedom of the other; with a heart of cherishing do not abuse their own freedom.
So true love is mutual appreciation and mutual achievement. And passion and romance are not the norm of love, let alone two people staring at each other, but can look in the same direction. If you feel that love is vigorous and can't stand the trivialities of daily life, then this love will come to an end sooner or later.
Why is love great? It is precisely because love is a spiritual belief, a power, that it has greatly restrained the selfishness, greed, vanity, prejudice, and so on of human nature, that it is great.
At the same time, you must also accept the fact that people's feelings are ups and downs, and love is not immutable, but on the other hand, as long as they are together, they are happy, happy, and paid.
You may also think that you are willing to accompany him to suffer hardships, but when the hardships come to an end, he is not willing to share the blessings with you and abandon you. Then you must believe that this is not a problem of love, but the disappearance of love, the exposure and amplification of human nature problems, in fact, to some extent, a man who has money and changes his heart is not much better when he has no money.
We can't be partial, happiness is always there, misfortune is the same, since life is like this, you still have to believe in happiness, choose happiness, always not because there is a chicken eye on the foot, just cut off the whole foot. Just because there are locusts in the ground, we can't just stop planting crops. Love needs to pass the test of time, and love that has not been tested can only be called what has been.
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