"Mother is the only one in this life, you are the hope of your mother's life, if even you are like this, what will I do in the future?" When I saw the child out, I suddenly heard the next door neighbor crying.
We thought something big had happened in the house, so we knocked on the door and asked if we needed help. Only to see the neighbor Mrs. Zhang described the haggard, frowning and telling us: it turned out that the child was disobedient, let him write homework, but the child had to watch TV, and Mrs. Zhang only said the above words between the mother and son dispute.
We feel very incomprehensible about the education of our neighbor Mrs. Zhang, who does have to do more detail than ordinary parents in educating children. Even Mrs. Zhang does not let the children eat lunch at school, and whenever she arrives at the meal, Mrs. Zhang will personally carry the lunch box to the school to watch the children eat.
She once said to us, "Both husband and wife rely on a certificate to maintain, only the child is flesh and blood, so it does not matter how the husband is, mainly to keep the child in prison." ”
First, a good parental relationship is the guarantee of children's happiness
Some mothers feel that their husbands may have the possibility of cheating, but the child will always be their own flesh and blood, and they will never betray themselves, so in the case of disappointment in the marriage relationship, they do not want to reconcile the relationship between the husband and wife, but only blindly put their hopes on the child.
This kind of dedicated parenting is easy to make children have psychological burdens, and the relationship between parents is not harmonious, which is not conducive to children's psychological growth and character shaping.
Even if the parents love themselves very much, if the husband and wife always argue, it will not only affect the child's future concept of marriage and love, but also affect the child to form an insecure state and not feel the warmth of the family.
Second, too much intimacy with the child, it is easy for the child to grow into a giant baby in the future
As children grow older, parents must give their children enough space to be independent and let them have a sense of autonomy. If you are like Mrs. Zhang, you are eager to be around your child at every moment, which is not only not conducive to the formation of children's self-awareness, but also makes children become giant babies who lack the ability to live and only know how to suck the blood of their parents.
So if moms want their children to thrive and establish their own social circles normally, then don't be too possessive of their children. Parents can not accompany their children for a lifetime, the child's future world is destined to fight on their own, so now what the mother does will affect the child's personality and ability. If you don't want to see your child grow into a social giant baby, you must let go of your child at the right time.
Third, if the mother's personality is too strong in the mother-child relationship, it will have an impact on the character shaping of future children.
We can see that there are many mothers who are not only shrewd and capable in their work careers, but even in the composition of the family, her strength often becomes the will and leader of the whole family.
In this situation where the mother is too overly in charge of power, and now the child has always been under the strong management of the mother, the child is often prone to weakness. Now in the future thoughts and behaviors, will imitate and rely on the mother, over time will form a difficult to face life and problems independently, not only is not conducive to the future concept of marriage, but also not conducive to future work and life.
Although the child and the parents are the closest relationship, he will still have his own life in the future, so mothers should be clear: the partner is the most need to work together. Also, only a good family atmosphere can give children the best chance to grow.
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