Author: Guoxue Life Zhou Zhou
A good family style is the most valuable wealth of a family!
Mencius said, "No rules, no squares." ”
Everything in the world has rules, rules, is a kind of norm, but also a kind of measure.
Just as the so-called state law has a state law, the family has family rules, and both the state and the individual are inseparable from the rules.
If people do not have rules, they are prone to difficulties; if there are no rules, the home is easy to fall apart; if the country has no rules, it is easy to fall into ruin.
Rules are a compulsory course for everyone's life, a person wants to succeed, need to abide by the rules, a family wants to prosper, but also need to have rules.
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Freedom with rules is called liveliness
Freedom without rules is called wanton
In the book "Family Education", it is written:
Freedom with rules is called liveliness; freedom without rules is called wanton; not being unbridled is called rules, and not being lively is called dullness.
In life, there are many parents who feel that rules will bind their children's character and obliterate their children's nature, but they do not know that freedom without rules is precisely the culprit in destroying children.
On February 9, 2019, a mother placed her child on a dangerous railing in order to let her child see the panda better, and the child fell into the breeding pool without paying attention.
Fortunately, several pandas just watched curiously and did not do anything to hurt the little girl, otherwise the consequences would be unimaginable.
There are countless parents like this in life, they have no sense of safety, and they do not understand the importance of rules.
You know, the rules seem to be a constraint, in fact, it is a kind of protection, ignoring the rules, is equivalent to ignoring life.
As parents, while reminding your children of the importance of rules, you need to lead by example.
In foreign countries, when a little boy was shopping in the supermarket, he kept hitting the leg of the man in front of him with a shopping cart, while the little boy's mother turned a blind eye to the scene in front of him.
In the end, the man couldn't bear it anymore and directly poured a bottle of milk on the little boy's head, and the boy cried in an instant.
One writer once said:
The shortcomings that exist in children are not terrible.
The terrible thing is that as parents who are the leaders of their children's lives, they lack the right concept of tutoring and the method of teaching children.
If parents do not know how to educate their children, they will not only cause psychological harm to their children, but also be irresponsible for their children's lives.
Bill Gates, the world's famous richest man, also said: As a parent, one of the most important vocations is to use rules to restrain children when they are young.
No rules and no circles, parents want to give their children a bright future, the most important thing can not be ignored is the rules of education.
Good children are carefully educated by their parents, and bad children are blindly indulged and spoiled by their parents.
As a parent, you may be able to blindly tolerate your children, but society will never get used to children.
Those mistakes that are covered up and buried are like a time bomb hidden in the child's body, and one day the child will suffer the consequences.
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You are reluctant to make rules for your children,
Someone will teach him a long lesson in the future
As the old saying goes, "Three years old looks small, five years old looks old."
A child's appearance when he grows up can be seen from it at the age of three, and at the age of five, he can guess life in old age.
Therefore, if you want to cultivate excellent children, you must first start from a small age, just as the so-called small trees are not repaired or straight, people do not repair and cannot be made, only by starting from a young age can they be well disciplined, and when they grow up, they can understand the reason and understand right and wrong.
If you choose to satisfy the child without a bottom line, do not teach the child to understand the reason, understand the rules, and ultimately be destroyed is the child himself.
There is such a news, a father and a child eating in a restaurant, the child is noisy, the neighbor kindly sent peanuts to discipline the child, the parents not only did not stop but also threatened each other.
Then the bear child became more intense, spitting into the other party's boiled fish, after several provocations, the other party took out a knife and stabbed the parent to death, and the bear child was pressed in the boiled fish and suffocated.
After investigation, it turned out that the two men were wanted criminals and were still carrying human lives on their backs.
In the "Sunzhi Zhai Collection", it is written: "To love his son and not to teach is to not love; to teach but not to be good, to be like not to teach." ”
As a parent, if you do not give your child the correct education, you are reluctant to make rules for your child, then naturally someone will help him learn a lesson.
In a family, rules are like the steering wheel of a racing car, once it loses its direction, it will fail at worst, and the heavy will be "the car will be destroyed." ”
People's Daily once released such a video, a child suspected of telecommunications fraud and his mother hugged and cried.
In the video, the mother said bitterly: "I can't teach you, just teach you by society, and if society can't teach you, it is the public security bureau and the court that teach you." ”
The mother's word and sentence really makes people feel heartbroken, and in the world, the most pitiful thing is the heart of the parents in the world.
However, as a parent, when I was a child, I was distressed by my children, I did not have a good education, and it was too late to teach them when I grew up.
In the "Yan Family Training", it is said: "The strictness of father and son cannot be foxy; the love of flesh and bones cannot be simple." Jane is kind and filial piety, and Fox is slow to live. ”
As a parent, you must be stubborn and stubborn, and only by making good rules for your children can they understand what can be done and what cannot be done.
Rules are the "protective umbrella" of a child's life, and children who understand the rules and abide by the rules can move towards a bright and broad future.
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If a family wants to prosper, it is inseparable from the rules
People often say, "Three generations of wealth, three generations of poverty." ”
Families, whether poor or wealthy, need good family rules, and throughout the ages, all families that have flourished have their own rules.
In the family of Zeng Guofan, a heavy minister of the late Qing Dynasty, for more than two hundred years, none of the eight generations of Zeng's descendants had "failed sons", precisely because of its unique family rules.
The key reason for the Yan family's continued prosperity for 500 years lies in education and his "Yan Family Training".
A generation of sages Confucius, his Kong family, has been passed down for 2500 years, and it is precisely because of its family style of "poetry and etiquette".
Etiquette, that is, rules, unruly, how to be an adult.
The famous Olympic diving queen Guo Jingjing also attaches great importance to rules, and in an interview Guo Jingjing said of her children:
"The child's grandfather will often come to visit the child while he is studying, but I will let him finish his homework before going to play with the grandfather."
For this matter, Guo Jingjing was never sloppy, and in her heart, she thought that this was the rule.
As an athlete, Guo Jingjing knows the importance of rules, so when she educates her children, she naturally makes them follow the rules.
You know, rules, is the root of parenting, rules, but also the sign of adulthood, only let children abide by the rules, understand the rules, in order to let them thrive.
True rules are rules that embody love, and true love is love with rules.
Therefore, as a parent, we must teach our children several daily behavior norms to avoid big losses in the future:
1. When you meet your elders, be sure to take the initiative to say hello.
2. When elders give something, they must pick it up with both hands.
3. When eating, be sure to wait until the elders move the chopsticks first, and then start.
4. When eating, do not be picky, do not waste food, do not spit on the mouth, do not knock on the dishes.
5. Be sure to eat with your mouth, don't eat with your mouth, and take food into your mouth, rather than using your mouth to find food.
6. Hands do not support the bowl poor for a lifetime, shaking legs and shrugging shoulders to destroy three generations, eating to have the appearance of eating, can not shake legs and shrugge shoulders, hands must also support the bowl.
7. When going out, do not make loud noises in the crowd so as not to affect others.
Han Feizi once said: "All things have rules." ”
Yan Zun also said: "The heart is like a rule, the will is like a ruler, the peace is like water, and the integrity is like a rope." ”
Don't think that children with rules suffer losses, just as the so-called dragon swims in the shoals and is played by shrimp, the dragon is a dragon after all, and one day it will go to the sea.
Children with rules and principles can walk better in the world, and children who lose principles and rules will lose the foundation of their foothold.
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A psychologist once said: "Sow behavior, harvest habits; sow habits, harvest character; sow character, harvest destiny." ”
Rules invisibly affect the fate of each of us, and a family that wants to have a good future must be inseparable from rules.
Families with rules will make their fortune even if they are poor, because they are in awe, and families without rules will be ruined even if they are rich, because the family style is not right.
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* Author: Zhou Zhou, the world can be simple, simple to tastelessly interesting.
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