"Mom, Mom"
The mind is full of the word "mother", and the ears have never been clean!
Since the birth of the child, many mothers have not been able to understand a problem: obviously the father is staying next to him, but the child has been calling the mother. Why does the child only look for the mother and not the father when there is nothing to do?
After going to my sister's house last week, I witnessed how a mom broke out. In the evening, my daughter and my sister's two children were playing in the living room, and my brother-in-law was watching TV next to me. The youngest son kept going to the kitchen to find my sister, constantly shouting, "Mommy, Mommy."
Suddenly, the sister in the kitchen broke out: "Mom, Mom, you know to call Mom, you're tired of calling." Daddy is out there and won't look for your dad. ”
Without exaggeration, the sister's words were almost shouted out, and her voice was full of anger and collapse. There may be many people who think that the sister is an unqualified mother, how can she treat the child like this?
If you're also a mom, you might be able to understand the pressure she's under and forgive her for being unreasonable. In my mom group, they humorously summarized the 10 moments when their children loved to find their mothers, which was really unbelievable
10 moments when children love to find their mother
1, from morning to night, has been shouting
Eighty percent of mothers complain that children will hang on to their mothers as soon as they open their eyes until they fall asleep. Some children, when they talk about dreams, call their mothers.
2. Holiday mornings
Many young children not only do not sleep at night, but also wake up early in the morning, especially on weekends and holidays. As soon as they wake up, they will wake you up by kissing, calling, and even clasping your eyes. Here to teach you a little trick, pretend to sleep when you don't look at your child, be sure to stick to the end. The child feels bored and walks away, so congratulations, you can sleep a little longer.
3. The child is sick
In addition to being spoiled and clingy, children also like to find their mothers when they are unwell, hoping that their mothers will accompany and take care of themselves more.
4. I have been "wronged"
If you're a two-child mom, your pain is double, or even more. Sibling rivalries and conflicts with other children, children will call their mothers, looking for you to judge, complain, and seek help.
5. When you need help
Mothers are superwomen in the eyes of children, whether they are broken or lost toys, or they can't wear clothes or pour milk, they will think of their mothers. Oh, don't talk about children, it seems like the husband is the same.
6. When going to the toilet and taking a bath
With children, the mother has no privacy space, whether it is going to the toilet, or taking a bath, there will always be a small hand outside while tapping the door, while shouting "mom".
7, the busier you are, the more the child barks
I don't know if you found it, when the mother does housework, cooks, and hangs clothes, the more the child likes to find the mother, in short, the busier you are, the more he needs you.
8, when the mother is sick
When people are sick, they always want someone to be by their side. After the mother is sick, the biggest wish is that there is no one around, because the child does not know that you are sick, and he must let you accompany the mother, "Mother, mother" kept calling.
9. When making a mistake
If you have a child at home, quiet isn't necessarily a good thing for you. Many times, when you're doing housework, being quiet means the child is wreaking havoc. By the time you realize the danger, your child has come up to you and whispered to your mother.
10, Dad with the rhythm
Many fathers with children are not more enthusiastic than half an hour, basically three minutes of heat. After three minutes, the husband starts to go to the bathroom, or says to the child, "Let's see what the mother is doing?" ”
Through the above 10 key moments, I summarized the 3 reasons why children look for their mothers
Many mothers have not been able to understand, the child is not their own, why the child only looks for the mother, not the father? I summarized 3 reasons to rehabilitate the dads.
1. Lack of security
Many children keep calling out to their mothers, the reason is that the children's lack of security, separation anxiety caused, mothers can play hide and seek and other parent-child games, training children's ability to be alone. Once you have enough time, be sure to accompany your child wholeheartedly to meet your child's safety needs.
2. Seek attention
Some children keep calling their mothers, not physically uncomfortable, not insecure, just want to attract their mother's attention, tease their mother to play, and the mother can filter appropriately.
3. Insufficient ability
Some children like to find their mothers because of insufficient self-care ability, such as not wearing clothes, not pouring water, not going to the toilet, etc. Mothers should train their children's hands-on ability, and when their children's self-care ability keeps up, the number of times they call their mothers will be less.
2 tips for moms to deal with bear "kids"
Why do "bear children" here have to be put in quotation marks? Because one is a real bear child, and the other is a bear child who does not grow up.
1. Give your husband clear instructions
When the child wants you to play, feed, and bathe with him, and you are doing laundry, cooking, and housework, you can assign your husband to help you take care of the children, or help you do these chores, you take care of the children.
When you ask your husband for help, he may be fighting in a group, or "wait a minute," but that's another matter, at least you're not alone.
2. Communicate your emotions with your child
Many mothers think that "good mothers" should be strong and omnipotent, and only in this way can they protect their children and give their children to rely on, and this idea of "perfect mothers" is obviously wrong.
When we are in a bad mood and our body is sick, we can say to our children in advance: "Mom is in a bad mood today" or "Unwell". As long as we are willing to tell the child about our predicament, the child will also show his intimate side and take on the responsibility of taking care of the mother.
Moms remember that you can never meet the standard of a "perfect mom" because that doesn't exist. If one day you really lose your temper with your child, don't blame yourself, just say sorry to your child, tell him why you are angry, or a hug, and the child will reconcile with you, because they know the mother's hard work and pressure.