Every woman hopes to find someone who will work with her for a lifetime, because women are naturally eager to be protected by men, so when they fall in love with someone, they will devote themselves to it, pay a lot, even if they sacrifice themselves, they are willing.
In their view, the person they fall in love with is the person they will accompany for the rest of their lives, and they want to give all their love to each other.
However, not everyone deserves this treatment, and some men, even if you are nice to him and love him deeply, are not really with you because they love you.
In the book "Life" written by Lu Yao, in order to be with Huang Yaping, who is more helpful to his career, although he has tangled and unwilling in his heart, he still chooses to break up with Qiaozhen, even if he knows that no one in this world will love him like Qiaozhen.
It seems that Gao Garin had to break up with Qiaozhen for some purpose, but in fact, Gao Garin and Qiaozhen broke up, which can be seen from some of Gao Garin's behaviors and thoughts when the two of them first started together.
Gao Garin and Qiao Zhen grew up in the same village, the difference is that Gao Garin has been studying, after graduating from high school, because he was not admitted to college, he returned to the village, originally he was a private teacher, the result was that he was replaced, his heart was very uncomfortable, and he was very resentful.
You know, Gao Garin was bent on getting rid of his status as a farmer, and he originally thought that after passing the exam in a few years, he could change from a private teacher to a regular teacher, and at that time, he could become a city person and live a city life. Therefore, his whole mind is not in the countryside, and he does not look at rural life.
However, just when he was in a bad mood, Qiao Zhen, who had always liked him, thought that he had the opportunity to be with him, so he confessed to Gao Garin, because Qiao Zhen was beautiful and gentle, Gao Garin was immediately moved, and he was with her.
However, as soon as they separated, Gaugarin began to regret it, writing in the book "Life": "He regretted that he was too impulsive and seemed to have made a mistake in a hurry. He felt that in this way, he would probably become a farmer. ”
The reason why Gao Garin thinks this is because QiaoZhen has never studied since he was a child, and choosing to be with Qiaozhen means that he can only be with a rural girl with no culture in the future, which is reluctant in his heart.
It can be seen from here that Gao Garin looked down on Qiao Zhen in his heart, but at that time, he needed a comfort in his heart too much, so he did not reject Qiao Zhen. But in fact, he did not really love Qiaozhen.
This kind of regret will appear at any time after he is with Qiao Zhen.
For example, later, he even thought that falling in love with an uneducated rural girl was simply a manifestation of depravity and depression, which was equivalent to admitting that he wanted to be a farmer all his life, but in fact, he did not believe that he would always be a farmer, and he was always giving himself the opportunity to find out.
Sure enough, through his uncle's sake, he found a formal job in the county town and completely became a city person, at this time, his high school classmate Huang Yaping appeared, and said that he liked him, he abandoned Qiao Zhen and was with Huang Yaping.
If Gao Garin really likes Qiao Zhen in his heart, then even if he is with Huang Yaping, he will not completely miss Qiao Zhen, but in fact, he quickly plunged into a new love, and only when he is dissatisfied with Huang Yaping will he think of Qiao Zhen.
A man, if he looks down on you from the bottom of his heart and often regrets being with you, it means that he does not really love you, and once one day, he meets a person he feels is more suitable, he will decisively leave you.
So, women should never be with someone who looks down on themselves, such a person, even if you like it, you have no future.
Compared with Ma Shuo, before Gao Garin and Qiaozhen were together, he liked Qiaozhen and often went to Qiaozhen's house, hoping that Qiaozhen could like himself, but because Qiaozhen had Gao Garin in her heart, she could not tolerate others, so she always refused.
Later, Qiao Zhen was with Gao Garin, and Ma Tao thought that he had no hope, but after hearing that Qiao Zhen was abandoned by Gao Garin, he not only did not dislike Qiao Zhen, but also ran to Qiao Zhen's house as before, hoping that Qiao Zhen could marry him.
You know, at that time, the people in the village knew that Qiao Zhen was abandoned by Gao Garin, and they all laughed at her behind her back, saying that she did not climb high, which was really deserved. However, Ma Tao felt sorry for her in his heart, and said that he would not be wronged by Qiao Zhen and would try to make Qiao Zhen enjoy happiness.
At that time, Qiaozhen was in a bad mood, but she also understood after this incident that things that did not belong to her would eventually be lost, and she did not blame anyone, she could only accept this reality.
And she also found that Ma Tao has always been devoted to her, before and now, she is regarded as a treasure, only with such a man, will be cherished and cared for.
Ma Tuo really loves Qiao Zhen, and after the two of them got married, Ma Tuo was still very good to Qiao Zhen.
If you love someone in your heart, you will definitely have the appearance of loving someone, Andgarin always regrets being with Qiaozhen, but he is reluctant to be with Qiaozhen's heart for him and the warmth that brings him, but he will only accept it when there is no choice, and once he has a better choice, he can ruthlessly abandon all this.
In the final analysis, in Gao Garin's heart, Qiao Zhen is dispensable, and in Ma Tao's heart, Qiao Zhen is a treasure, and he will treat it wholeheartedly.
Lu Yao's "Life", through the character of Gao Garin, well writes that young people have a lot of helplessness in the face of life and career, and also writes that young people will make some wrong choices when pursuing the life they want, and finally they can only bear the consequences themselves.
Of course, this book also through the emotional line between Gao Garin and Qiaozhen, let us see more clearly Gao Garin's rashness and lack of attention to feelings, as well as the courage that Qiaozhen can afford and put down, and also let women see clearly: If a man can't look at you from the heart, even if he is with you, he always regrets it, which means that he does not really love you and will abandon you at any time, such a person, or the sooner he leaves, the better.
Of course, the significance of this book is far more than that, if you go to see it, you can have a deeper understanding and understanding.
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