Author | Fan Deng Reading · Xia Ying
Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Ah Cheng
There is a line in the movie "East Evil West Poison":
"The biggest trouble for people is that their memory is too good, if they can forget everything, every day in the future, it will be a new beginning." 」
We can only have a maximum of 24 hours of memory length per day.
The world is bustling, happy, sad, troubled, if you have to remember it all, it will soon collapse.
Therefore, we should try to do what Junichi Watanabe said in "Blunt Force":
"If someone else says something unpleasant to you, turn your head and forget it."
Only by training the blunt sensitivity of turning around and forgetting bad words and uncomfortable things immediately, life will be common on sunny days and rainbows will often appear.
In the book "Blunt Force", an experience of the author's youth is recorded:
When he was an assistant doctor in plastic surgery at Sapporo University, every time he went to the operating table, he inevitably had to be complained by his predecessor, the chief professor.
Things like "the movement is too slow", "where are you looking", "hurry up and get it", etc., are actually some insignificant daily words.
But at that time, the young and vigorous Junichi Watanabe could bear such a reproach.
So every time the night before the operation, he would be upset.
But Dr. S, who came to power with him, was different, and as the chief assistant, he was always used as the object of complaint by his predecessors.
What is different is that after being trained, Dr. S responds with "yes, yes, yes" every time, and the nagging of the director professor has formed a tacit understanding of one should and one harmony, and the operation can be carried out smoothly.
Because of his strong forgetfulness and tenacious sense of sensitivity, he did not feel aggrieved at all after each training, and the next second he immediately threw himself into his work.
Therefore, every operation can be watched from the nearest place near the predecessor.
Over time, Dr. S became the most skilled surgeon in the department.
Life is disturbed, people are nagging and disturbing, only by forgetting the troublesome words of others can life be restarted.
When I was a child, I saw such a fairy tale:
Elsa the Rabbit had recently gotten married, and the next day she went to visit her friend Fox, dressed up before leaving home, and got a new haircut a few days ago.
When he went to the fox's house, the rabbit excitedly showed his new hairstyle to the fox and asked if it looked good?
Unexpectedly, the fox's face was black, and he replied with his mouth: "It doesn't match your style at all, it's ugly and dead!" ”
The rabbit was taken aback, but didn't say anything.
When she got home, she confided in her husband, who comforted her:
"It's okay, I think it's good to look good, why lose a good mood because of someone else's words?"
Sometimes, a bad word that others have intentionally or unintentionally can easily affect our mood.
But if you think about it, the words spoken are like water that is difficult to harvest, so why should we pour our uncomfortable emotions for the water that has been spilled?
In "Blunt Force", it is said:
"Don't care about the jealousy, slander and embarrassment of friends or colleagues, but feel the mood of the other party.
This kind of blunt force of a broad heart will make us better able to survive. ”
As the Italian poet Dante Alighelli famously said: "Go your own way and let others say go." ”
Only by being like a fool, learning to let the harsh words pass the ear and forget, and let the people with ulterior motives become the clouds, can life restart in the next second, and life has more possibilities.
Junichi Watanabe said:
"The so-called 'blunt force', that is, the 'dull force', that is, calmly face the setbacks and pains in life, without being overly sensitive."
In life, we need to maintain a blunt attitude.
Without dwelling too much on the past, not over-interpreting what has happened, life can continue wonderfully and beautifully.
In the same way, it is true to apply physical trauma.
In the classic inspirational movie Forrest Gump, Deng Taylor, who lost his legs in the Vietnam War, is jealous of Forrest Gump's medal, and once has a psychological imbalance and indulges in alcohol all day.
Later, in a fortuitous coincidence, he started a business with the protagonist Forrest Gump, and finally made a fortune.
There is one impressive passage in the movie:
On a leisurely sunny day after the success of the business, they look back on the past on the boat and enjoy themselves.
Taylor turned to Forrest Gump and said "thank you", then jumped into the sea and swam freely, no different from a person with sound limbs.
Therefore, it is impossible for a person to live in the shadow of injury all his life.
Even if the wound is deep, there will always be a day of healing, and no matter how bitter the memory is, there will always be a day of forgetting.
Only by taking the initiative to forget the pain of the past, taking the initiative to unload the heavy ideological baggage, and taking the initiative to work hard to manage life, can we have a life that you have the final say.
The same story is that of John Forbes Nash Jr., the protagonist of "A Beautiful Mind."
He was a genius mathematician, but he was plagued by schizophrenia and was often misunderstood by those around him for his strange behavior.
But that didn't stand in the way of his work on mathematical topics.
Overcoming the torment of mental illness, he devoted himself to his beloved cause, and finally published his famous game theory.
Until the end, his schizophrenia was still not cured.
He still hallucinates from time to time, but he chooses to forget the pain of deliberately fighting the disease, and can live in harmony with his illness.
As Junichi Watanabe said in Blunt Force:
"Even if you have cancer, don't be afraid of anxiety, have the courage and bluntness to enjoy life with cancer cells, cancer cells will be scared away by their positive and optimistic attitude."
Sometimes, fighting the unchangeable facts is like a trapped beast fighting.
Even if you spend all your energy, in the end it will only be in vain.
It is better to choose to blunt this psychological pain, take the initiative to unshackle the soul, go to the back of despair, and take the initiative to meet a more leisurely life.
After all, the final decision on all choices is in your own hands.
The great pianist Beethoven said:
"Trickle-down water can eventually wear down a boulder, not because of its strength, but because of the drop that does not give up day and night."
The power of a drop of water is infinitely small, but after day and night, it can also form a force that penetrates hard stones.
When liu tong, a young writer, was in college, he chose a Chinese department that was not favored by his family.
Embracing a dream of being a writer, he buried his head in writing manuscripts every day after entering college, writing badly and practicing words, and when he wrote well, he took it to magazines and newspapers to submit articles.
Time and time again, his self-confidence was frustrated.
But he still did not give up, and still maintained the good habit of writing an article a day.
Later, because of his good habit of not giving up lightly and quickly forgetting frustration.
When he graduated, with more than 100 large and small manuscripts published, he successfully applied for Hunan Television and entered the media industry of his dreams.
As Lu Xun famously said, "You must be like a bee, picking many flowers to make honey." ”
Success requires a combination of efforts over and over again, day after day.
Even if we encounter setbacks and difficulties, we must firmly aim and never stop moving forward in order to reach the ideal end.
We all need to train such blunt forces:
When encountering obstacles, get out of frustration as soon as possible, forget this pain like amnesia, and then fight day and night like a fool, and finally get what you want.
I remember that in the primary school Chinese texts, there was a story of "green fingers".
"Green Finger" is a small town in France for a good gardener, there is such an old grandmother, there is a "green finger".
At that time, there were only two varieties of calendula, gold and green.
One day, the grandmother saw the news in the newspaper that the horticultural institute had bought pure white calendula, and after being shocked, she came up with the idea of cultivating white calendula herself.
Despite her family's objections and incomprehension, she sowed seeds in her garden and carefully served them.
When the flowers were blooming, she picked out the faintest color from the golden flowers and let them wither naturally, and planted them the following year after taking the seeds.
So season after season, year after year, cycle after cycle.
A lot of things happen in life, children are gone, husbands die...
But these pains became a forgotten past, and planting white calendula became her only faith.
One day twenty years later, she opened the window and looked into the garden, and a pure white calendula was smiling at her.
Junichi Watanabe said in "Blunt Force":
"When the decision is made, ignore the eyes and whispers around you, and implement it decisively."
This blunt force is the driving force behind people's challenges to new areas."
The persistence and perseverance of the grandmother just confirmed The words of Sabine:
"If you decide to be splendid, the mountains will be unobstructed and the sea will be unhindered."
If there is no perseverance and action again and again, without the determination and blunt sense of courage to face difficulties despite setbacks, things will not end, and it will definitely fail.
There is a saying that goes like this:
"The memory is too good, sometimes it's a burden. People who are easy to forget the past are happy. ”
Life is like chocolate in a box, you never know what the next one will taste like.
If the first one you eat is bitter, then remember only this bitter taste and never eat it again?
Life has both bittersweet and sweet, and we need not be too sensitive to unfortunate things.
After all, life is so long, fix unhappy things in the past, in order to live calmly and freely, wantonly free!
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