As the old saying goes, "Shoes are uncomfortable, only you know." ”
The same is true of life. Good in the eyes and mouths of others is not necessarily suitable for you. In the same way, what some people don't recognize is not necessarily bad.
In a word, what suits you is the best.
Everyone needs a pair of shoes that are comfortable to wear. As Forrest Gan said, "Those shoes must be very comfortable, and you can walk all day without feeling it." ”
Hello everyone, I'm the author Xiaofei, this is the first day of April, I am glad that we meet again. At present, the epidemic situation in various places is grim, and everyone should pay attention to protecting themselves and their families.
Let's report on the current situation first, although Shanghai Pudong has been unsealed, due to the large number of asymptomatic infected people found out, there is no real risk of lifting in many places. Therefore, from the beginning of the closure of Puxi today, Shanghai is a real "lockdown".
This city is really too late to bear.
At this time, don't reach out and blame others, no one is easy. So is the author. The best way to protect yourself and your family is within your ability. Other big environments, since you can't change them, why don't you change your own small environment?
Life still has to live, don't always stare at the "anti-epidemic".
Since I can't go out, and I don't have anything new to see outside, I bring a book and a movie of the same name based on his novel to share with you.
As you can guess, the name of the movie (novel) is "Forrest Gump". The film tells the story of a child whose IQ is only 75. The attentive audience can get a lot of information from it, and the author will also analyze it from the three aspects of family education, personal efforts and "circle of friends".
1 Family education
Forrest Gump is a single parent and he lives with his mother. Due to the inflexibility of the legs and feet, the slow response often attracts the strange eyes of the crowd, and is often bullied by the friends around him.
However, the mother did not see him as an alternative/abnormal. Instead, he often told his son, "You are no different from others." "Life is like a chocolate of all kinds, you never know what your next piece will taste like."
"Preempt the mind". This is a very popular word in advertising marketing, and the author wants to use it to put it here. For example, "give gifts to send brain platinum" "afraid of fire, drink Wang Laoji", these ads are not very familiar, when you buy in the supermarket, will you buy these usually often heard?
Yes, because of the sense of familiarity. Because your mind has been occupied by advertising, the recognition of the brand is higher.
In the same way, Forrest Gump's mother kept reminding him in Forrest Gump's ear that he wanted him to remember that "I am the same as them" so that he would not feel inferior.
However, on the contrary, there are many parents who use their "authority" to carry out various "suppressions" on themselves, and the result is either that the more they beat the child, the less courageous they are, or the more they hit the child's personality, the more rebellious they are.
Children are also human beings, and they also have their own "dignity", "face" and "image" among their peers, the most important thing is that children are always evaluating themselves in their hearts, and they will take the evaluation of themselves from the outside world as their true selves. Compared to adults, they can't tell what evaluations from the outside world mean.
Therefore, as an "adult" who is a parent for the first time, it is not only "the child's biological parents", but also to "lead the child to the right" and stimulate the power of the child's inner sunward upward and good.
When you are a parent, you should learn more.
2 personal efforts
Many people may feel too unreal after watching this film. Can a person who is almost a "fool" achieve such great success, life counterattack?
I don't know. But there are some things in it that may be something to learn from. For example, Forrest Gump's momentum, his meticulous work, perseverance, and the character of a promise.
When participating in football matches, when the soldier wiped the gun/assembled the gun, when playing table tennis, Forrest Gump under the camera was not distracted at all, his goal was very clear, playing the ball is to stare at the ball, and the assembly gun is wholeheartedly placed on the assembly.
After the death of his friend/comrade-in-arms Buba, he promised to buy a boat to catch shrimp, and when everything was arranged, he really went. It didn't go well at first, but with luck and strength, he made a lot of money and gave a lot to Buba's family so that they could live a prosperous life.
Some people may laugh at it again, this year, a promise is stupid. However, when dealing with people who think so, we must pay attention. After all, there are still bad people, and it is important to protect yourself.
There is hard work to choose.
Where there is choice, there is freedom.
Although effort is not a necessary condition for success, because human success is a combination of many complex factors such as effort, luck, luck, family background, etc., for the vast majority of people like you and me: effort is an indispensable node that links luck, noble people, and luck.
At least I haven't heard of anyone who has successfully made a fortune out of thin air. If you know, please leave a comment in the comments section.
3 Circle of friends
"Relationships come with inherent risks. If you're stuck in it all the time, bad relationships can be a drag on you. ”
The above quote comes from the book Grey Rhinoceros: How Individuals and Organizations Coexist with Risk, which I am reading, by the American writer Michelle Walker.
What is society?
The circle you can enter is the society you can experience.
Therefore, what you are fighting for is a larger space; there you will see a larger "society."
The estimation of the importance of circles does not need to be introduced too much. In the film, Forrest Gump and his friend Jenny have a clear comparison in the circle.
"The level of the three best friends around you is roughly what you look like." This sentence is very true and cruel.
Or explore more inward and expand outward.
After all, all the efforts in life are for the sake of having a choice.