Every year before the holidays, the school holds activities so that children can end the semester happily. Especially at the primary school level, every year I look forward to the "party" arranged by the school.
At the party, students will prepare various performances, and teachers will arrange various interesting interactive sessions, not only to leave school early on this day, but also to experience the fun that cannot be experienced in ordinary classes.
Usually, at the end of the party, there is basically a part of exchanging gifts, when I went to school, everyone exchanged New Year's greeting cards with each other, I don't know what is exchanged now?
At that time, I always had to write a lot of cards, and then send them out with full heart, and wait for other students to return the cards to themselves, and the happiest thing every year was to go home and read the contents of the cards!
However, not everyone can spend happily in the party, such as giving away more valuable items in the party, but the things that are recovered are far less than those sent out by themselves, and students will inevitably be very unbalanced at this time.
Elementary school parties exchange gifts and exchange watches for old erasers
Not long ago, a parent complained that his children had agreed with their friends at the party to give gifts that they wanted to each other, and they would send them to each other in the process of exchanging gifts at the party.
Children's social interaction is a good thing, so parents also carefully select a watch for their children to install, so that when the child sends the hand, it will not be embarrassed by the price difference.
I thought the child would go home happily, but I didn't expect the child to come back crying. After asking, I understood that the little friend who had agreed to give gifts to him had temporarily changed because of a small quarrel.
Gifts that were originally given to their own children were given to others. Because of this, their children can only draw random gifts with classmates who have not exchanged gifts.
His children gave away watches, but they drew an eraser, or an old eraser. When the child returned home, he was sullen and unhappy, and when he got home, he shut himself in the room and did not come out.
In this case, as a parent, it hurts in the eyes and in the heart. So parents have no choice but to send it to the Internet, hoping that everyone will give advice, in this case, parents should interfere?
If you have an old eraser at hand, should parents intervene?
Point one, should
After all, the child is still young, so it is really difficult to digest the bad emotions when encountering such an emergency. Not to mention children, even if adults encounter this situation, it is difficult to adapt, right?
Therefore, it is best for parents to intervene in time, especially the teacher who proposes to exchange gifts, as a teacher, it is natural to anticipate all aspects, so it is also a good choice to let the teacher come forward.
After all, in the hearts of children, the status of the teacher is not low at all. Many times, parents can't speak well, and the teacher listens immediately as soon as he speaks.
Point two: No
Should not intervene, when the child grows up, will experience a lot of such things, should parents intervene in the child's life? Many times, a person grows up in frustration.
This time, maybe the child can come up with a solution on his own, and the next time he encounters a similar situation, he can digest his bad emotions well, or avoid this kind of thing.
To put it bluntly, it is not a big deal, the child's memory is not good, and now he looks breathless, but it will not be long before the two people can get back together, and things will be solved.
Point three, neutral attitude
Parents don't have to intervene, but they can't do nothing at all. Parents should pay attention to the development of their children and intervene if necessary.
But the recommendation is from the child's side, not someone else's child, such as asking the child why he is not happy, because the other party has not kept his promise, or because the price of the gift is not equal.
Then patiently answer the questions the child says, which can not only solve the child's bad emotions, but also let the child learn a lot of growth knowledge in it.
At the end of the article, I would like to say:
When encountering such a thing, what should be done, I believe that everyone has their own ideas. Personally, I prefer the third kind, which is to answer the child's emotions and questions.
But everyone's children are different, maybe you have a better solution, so if you also encounter this kind of thing, what are you going to do?
Say it and share it with you!