Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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In the current social atmosphere, many people think that women are gold-worshiping and materialistic, in fact, this is just a very small number of women in real life, disturbing the order of "marriage and love"!
Sky-high bride price, ready-made house, car, you give me money is to love me, do not give me money is not love me... This handful are material women!
The vast majority of women don't turn their feelings into deals! Not only does she know how to support herself, but she will not face men with a condescending posture and turn men into her own squeezed ATMs!
In the thinking of many women, the requirements for the other half are often very low, to what extent? Say it, and some people may not believe it. That is:
Be good to me, know the cold and know the heat, be self-motivated, and have a strong sense of responsibility!
In fact, the man that women want most in their bones is nothing more than this! As for the appearance and material, handsome and more gold is the best, otherwise it is good to look good, have the ability to make money, and have the responsibility to take responsibility!
You see, are women asking for really low?
A long time ago, I saw a cartoon with the caption:
A woman has no love, and whoever is good to her, she will go with whom!
Some people, when they only look at the superficial meaning, will feel that women are really "incurable", saying love, but none of the behaviors they make reflect her affection!
In particular, when confronted with the word "good", she will resolutely and resolutely leave the person who she once had in mind to walk through the rest of her life!
But when analyzing the essence through the surface, you will find that women's understanding of love pays more attention to two-way rushing, so whoever covers "good for her" in that love for her, she will go with whom.
It is not that women are too thin and good at empathizing with other people, it is that they have seen a person they love deeply in the long years, and some of the "real" looks in their bones, and they are really ugly by the people in front of them!
Therefore, to leave is to return the sadness to the people who have been there, turn around and properly embrace the love and warmth that is really needed into the arms!
However, not every choice a woman makes for "good" is right! Some men, his good is toxic! If a woman does not know how to identify, the rest of her life will be more miserable than before!
Because it is far better to meet a real bad person who is consistent in appearance than a false good person with different hearts!
There is a kind of man who acts like he loves you no matter how good he is, and he can't choose no matter how good he is! Remember: he has "poison"!
Toxic men, generally have the following characteristics, encountered to stop losses in time:
1: Forcing you to "accept" everything negative about him
In the relationship between men and women, there is a real need to seek differentiated coexistence. However, it does not mean that the coexistence of differentiation is the three views that run counter to the road!
Complementary, are two 50% imperfect people, combined to make up 100%.
Instead of a 50% person, meet a -50% person. Then, being consumed to zero by -50% of people! And was forced to accept -50% of people saying:
If, if you are really willing to accept me, you have to accept all my thoughts, including everything you think I am thinking astray! If you can't get used to me, it's because you haven't accepted me from the bottom of your heart, that's your problem, not mine!
These words, which seem to seem reasonable, are actually a kind of high-level "moral kidnapping"!
Before the establishment of the relationship between men and women, women's good feelings for a man are often on the man's various booing and warm questioning of himself. Such warmth is much more, and women will easily gradually affirm men in their hearts!
However, as two people have been in contact for a long time, the perspective of things between each other, the way of dealing with the world, and some of the men's inner thoughts that have stepped into the shadow area will instantly shatter the good impression that the man has set up before.
Whether a man is good to a woman in the early stage determines whether the woman should agree to start a relationship with her. And the actual inner nature of a man determines how far a woman can go with him.
Usually booing and greeting you warmly, giving you all the security, but in the face of great right and wrong, forcing you to accept his distorted three views and all negative thoughts, this is not the healthy love output of a healthy person!
If you stay with such a person for the rest of your life, you will definitely be driven crazy at a certain moment! Or, before you know it, you will become the person who has to cater to him with such negative thoughts!
2: Just for the sake of "desire" to be good to you
At this moment when marriage and love are open, after men and women have established an emotional relationship, the occurrence of intimate relationships is no longer something worth opening people's mouths.
However, a man who is truly responsible may have an intimate relationship with a woman before marriage, but he will definitely spend the rest of his life responsible for women. Moreover, no matter whether you are rich or poor, health or disease, you will never give up!
Because he loves women, he is not willing to let women lose their fame and feelings in this relationship!
Some men, they are very indifferent to the concept of responsibility! In particular, in today's society where intimate relationships between men and women are not uncommon, men do not take women's intimate behavior seriously.
So much so that he will behave very well until he gets the woman to fulfill the purpose of "lust"! Before the intimate relationship occurs, he will do everything in his power to make the woman obedient.
Then, they will treat women as if they were "called to come and go"! If at this time, the woman is still making excuses for all the pressure and so on for the "strangeness" of the man, she must be caught in a bureau carefully set up by the man.
In the game, the man is the protagonist, controlling the stagnation or continuation of the relationship, and the dominance of the manipulation depends entirely on when the man has desires and needs!
Such a man, who used to be good to women, is purposeful! When a woman is conquered by the man's good in a short period of time, she also despises herself in a short period of time.
Deceived by the purpose of desire, the feelings are not tight, and the stop loss is good in time! Women who are afraid of dead hearts think that intimate relationships should be the rest of their lives, so their own identification will become entangled in the eyes of men.
Moreover, it will be more "looked down upon" by men because of this!
3: Force you to accept his "mother's treasure" behavior
We all know that filial piety is the first traditional virtue! But some men, using a "filial piety" word, have kidnapped women hard!
Such a man has never distinguished what the true meaning of filial piety and filial piety is! As a result, in the face of everything, not only the mother is asked to make an idea, but any right or wrong, judgment, is mainly based on the mother.
As for the woman she loves in her mouth, she has never had the right to suggest or decide.
Once, the woman voiced an objection to this and conveyed:
You're an adult, can you be a little more mature and face everything?
Men will fight back without any room:
That's my mom, and it wasn't easy for my mom to raise me! Besides, my mom was right in both thoughts and decisions... If you accept me, you must accept my mother, who is not born of my mother? You just don't respect my mom and don't love me enough!
Look, such men in real life abound. If a woman tolerates his mother's treasure for a while, it means that she will have to accept his mother's treasure for the rest of her life.
If a woman does not want to live too much in front of a man who treats himself as an outsider in everything, she must not affirm the rest of her life because of the man's temporary goodness.
You know, men's kindness to you is probably tacitly approved by your mother! Once you make his mother unhappy on any day, your "good days" will come to an end!
Probably, a lot of women will be very confused:
Why do men who used to treat me well change? Am I not doing a good enough job?
In fact, it is not that you are not good enough, but the people you meet do not really love you! His kindness to you is never as simple as it seems!
If you can, don't instantly generate beautiful expectations for the rest of your life because of the man's temporary goodness! When you can't really understand a man's heart, don't easily identify a relationship!
Otherwise, a short-lived good is probably a nightmare you won't wake up for the rest of your life!
Women's life is not easy, often wasted in the relationship for more than ten years, more than twenty years of time, and when it comes to really wake up, it has long been a good youth is gone.
A woman is a delicate flower, in order to make her flowering period a little longer, you must choose the right talent! If you can, before you meet the really right person, you may as well live a wonderful life alone, it is not impossible!
You tell me?
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