On January 4, the first working day of 2022, Zou Meihong, the person in charge of the anti-domestic violence linkage work base in Tianxin District of Changsha city and the mediator of marriage and family disputes in Tianxin District, received a special New Year's gift - "Love Mediator" commendation pennant, from a couple who have returned to good after four months of marriage mediation.
In August 2021, Wang Fang (pseudonym) came to the marriage mediation room in the government affairs hall of Tianxin District to find Zou Meihong, claiming to have suffered domestic violence. After listening to Wang Fang's intermittent crying complaints, Zou Meihong immediately helped her prepare materials and applied to the court for a habeas corpus. During the six-month period of habeas corpus, if the man raises his fist again, what awaits him will be detention.
After applying for legal protection, the couple's previous emotional crux needs to be solved. After communicating with the two parties, Zou Meihong learned that the contradiction between the two originated from the child. It turned out that the couple was a restructured family, and both sides had a boy before the combination. During the eleven years of marriage, the two children also gradually grew up and entered the society. Gradually, however, the man was a little suspicious that the woman's children would covet his property. The woman does not understand why she has regarded the man's children as her own in these years, but the husband cannot accept his children. Finally, the contradiction escalated again, and a "retaliatory infidelity" of the woman became the "last straw" for the man to commit domestic violence, which evolved into a farce of fists and feet.
After understanding the whole situation, Zou Meihong did psychological counseling work for both sides. In a "psychological painting", a scene that made Zou Meihong feel that there was a turnaround appeared. "I asked them to draw the five elements according to their first senses, and then read their hearts from the figures they had drawn. I found that they actually valued the family relationship. Zou Meihong told reporters.
Subsequently, the mediator used psychological treatment methods such as the "walking the heart method", "evoking the old love method" and "positive and negative analysis method" to help the husband and wife to regain the "direction of the heart" and solve the contradiction for the marriage. The husband and wife finally treated each other frankly, told each other their hearts and inadequacies, and the husband also promised that domestic violence would never happen again.
In the face of domestic violence disputes, the marriage mediator will first apply for a personal protection order for the abused party, and then carry out psychological counseling work for both husband and wife, guide the abused party to use the law to protect its legitimate rights and interests, establish the legal awareness of the abusive party, mediate the relationship between the two parties, and conduct later observations on the family status of the husband and wife. In 2021, the Marriage and Family Dispute Mediation Room in Tianxin District accepted a total of 16 cases of domestic violence, of which 8 pairs were repaired after mediation and returned to warm and harmonious family relations.
In the face of domestic violence disputes, Zou Meihong said that all victims of violence must be good at using legal weapons, rather than countering violence with violence: "I have experienced a case before, the woman suffered from domestic violence for a long time, but did not call the police or prosecute, but stabbed the man, and finally the man was cured and discharged from the hospital, and she herself is still in prison. ”
"It is difficult for a clean official to break the household chores. When mediating family conflicts and disputes, we must not just blindly persuade and reconcile, but use empathy, rational communication, and usage constraints, and we must stand on the position of both sides to find out the problem. Zou Meihong said, "After the civil code was officially promulgated, there is a lot of legal knowledge in it that can solve the problems of our lives." This is also one of the bases for our service to the masses. ”
Xiaoxiang Morning News reporter Zeng Yuxuan intern Huang Jie
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