Mothers often say to children who fall, "Don't cry, get up on your own." There are actually two meanings here: "Don't cry" and "Get up on your own." The child fell, may fall very painfully, so the mother insists that the child not cry, it is difficult to do, not crying is not a strong performance, their own climb up is the most important, the strongest performance.
What the mother insists on is to let the fallen child get up on his own, as long as he climbs up by himself, the mother can also say that he has achieved the goal, because your child is strong enough. So what does it matter if the child falls in pain and cries out?
The mother can let the child cry as much as she wants, but don't care too much about his cries and tears, this is the child's own business. You can comfort him with words thoughtfully, but do not replace him to solve the problem, let the child come up with his own way, explore his own strength, otherwise, he will be dependent on others, and neglect to cultivate his own ability, it will not be able to mature, at that time, he will really become a child who will only cry.
Forced crying cessation is not conducive to children's psychological development. Occasionally, under the "high-pressure policy" of parents, children will stop crying, and parents still think that this method works. As everyone knows, this will have a negative impact on the child's psychological development.
Because the child's language development is not yet mature, he will not use the appropriate language to express, but will accumulate dissatisfaction and melancholy in his heart and express it with abnormal psychology or behavior. For example, the temper becomes grumpy, and even aggressive behaviors such as hitting people and swearing; it is difficult to get along with small partners and does not fit in.