I often hear parents complaining that they have to "wrestle wits and courage" with their children every day in order to play the guzheng. Children have to drink water one moment, go to the toilet the next... In the face of children, they hide from practicing the piano, or their interest in playing the piano is greatly reduced, and they even hate the guzheng. Every parent has put a lot of effort into their children and wants their children to be excellent. How much my parents want to like the guzheng, love to learn the guzheng and play the guzheng very well. But many parents complain that their children do not like to practice guzheng, disobedience and a series of other problems. In fact, parents hope that the son will become a dragon, and the heart of the daughter Chengfeng is too eager, resulting in some eager hearts, so the child is very disgusted, so the child opposes the parents everywhere to vent the dissatisfaction. At this time, it is useless to be angry and suspicious, and it is useful to recall the bits and pieces since the child learned the piano, perhaps the problem is not in the child.
First, correct the mentality
In order for children to fall in love with guzheng, parents must try to change their mentality and change their education methods. Seven mindsets that every parent must master.
The first mentality: children do not love musical instruments is inevitable, not accidental;
The second mentality: cultivating interest is the responsibility of adults, not the nature of children;
The third mentality, the child needs to be sparring, not scolding;
The fourth mentality, the child's expectation is encouragement, not comparison;
The fifth mentality, when accompanying the class, parents are observers, not teaching assistants;
The sixth mentality, the examination level, is an episode, not a purpose;
The seventh mentality, the hope is that the child can use music as a friend in his life, not as an enemy.
Second, carefully arranged: warm piano room
Children are willing to learn guzheng, mostly out of curiosity about guzheng, and at the same time, there will be a faint sense of pride that "guzheng is mine". If children are to always maintain this sense of closeness to the guzheng, parents need to make the piano room full of warm atmosphere.
When you are new to guzheng, you can put a child's favorite doll on the piano. When the child is bored in the process of playing the piano, he will subconsciously hug the doll, relieve the mood, cheer up, and continue to practice. Doing so will make the child establish a connection between playing dolls and "playing" guzheng, feeling that practicing the piano is not far from his "playing".
When the child is used to practicing, the doll must evacuate the piano room, and it is recommended to change into a personalized "self-evaluation" environment. For example, put a beautiful vase on the guzheng, and when the child feels satisfied with the play, he can insert a reward flower. You can also arrange a unique "information release bar" in the piano room, so that children can evaluate themselves with icons or symbols.
Establish an intuitive and visible connection between the expectations in the child's mind and the results of the practice. This kind of silent motivation is far better than the language of parents sitting next to their children.
3. Practice time: Do not disturb
Parent sparring is not a long-term solution, and children must develop the habit of practicing independently. Some parents are always worried that they will not be able to practice without accompanying, in fact, the more parents accompany, the easier it is to develop their children's dependence, which will interfere with their children's focus on learning the piano.
Therefore, let the child learn the piano "weaning" is not to stop paying attention to his learning and efforts, but to firmly grasp the "key moment" and support the child to insist on learning the piano.
The primary responsibility of parents is to let the child sit on the piano bench by himself, become a "prompter", and prompt the child at the right time that "it is time to practice". Then, the child himself hangs a "do not disturb" sign outside the piano room, so that the child can develop a good habit of consciously practicing the piano.
Special reminder: Never arrange for your child to play with excessive excitement before practicing.
Play Before You Play: Enjoy "Free Time"
Being active is a characteristic of multi-math preschoolers, and practicing in the same position for a long time can really make them feel unbearable. Therefore, it is advisable to make an agreement with your child, "After playing the piano, you can play for 20 minutes" or "play the piano well to watch an episode of cartoons".
In fact, for children, the greatest value is to experience the relaxed mood after completing the learning task, which will help the child to form a correct learning attitude and learn to actively self-regulate in the future.
Special reminder: If the child does obediently play the piano, parents must fulfill their promises.
"Moments of Crisis": Providing Emotional Support
Generally speaking, most of the reasons why children learn to learn the piano halfway are "stuck" on difficulties, and the repeated accusations of parents, compared with their peers, will further lead to children resisting and giving up due to fear and anxiety. In fact, due to the young age of the child, the psychological development is not yet mature, the behavior can not control itself, and the emotional support of parents in the "crisis time" is very much needed.
The methods that parents can use are:
1. Before practicing, discuss with your child when playing the difficult part, "Mom and Dad will be around to support you".
2. When the child still can't cross a certain hurdle and give up after repeated practice, parents don't have to say anything more, just touch the child for a moment or kiss the child's cheek, indicating that they are still full of love and trust for the child.
3. Tell the child that the new etude is practiced quietly by himself (can be practiced in sections), and the parents will listen carefully outside, and if they succeed, they will come in to congratulate. Even if there is a little progress, parents must enter the piano room in time to share the joy of progress with their children.