Author: Insight Ciyu
Self-knowledge is the most rare knowledge.
In The Philosopher's Tales of Words and Deeds, Thales is asked: What is the hardest thing?
He answered with five words: Know yourself.
Indeed, in this world, the stupid things we often do are often not seeing ourselves clearly.
01
Take yourself seriously
Mo Yan once said that a person should know his own position, just as a person knows his face, which is the most sober self-consciousness.
After winning the Nobel Prize in Literature, Mo Yan became famous and was sought after.
But he said calmly: "Forget this award quickly, otherwise you will lose yourself in smugness." ”
Eight years later, Mo Yan returned with his new work "Late Ripening Man", and in an interview, he modestly said: "After the Nobel Prize, I am not lazy. ”
Liu Cixin wrote in "The Three-Body Problem": Weakness and ignorance are not obstacles to survival, arrogance is.
People who are too self-righteous, their vision is confined to an acre and a three-point field, and they can't see that there are mountains outside the mountains and there are people outside the people.
People who know how to lower themselves will not be annoyed by arrogance, and will not stop because of pride.
They knew that on the steps they were standing on, there was a group of people chasing after them, and a group of people were far ahead.
Cui Yongyuan once talked about an experience when he was young in "There Is Something to Say".
When he first became the host, he was young and crazy, and instinctively regarded himself as the protagonist on the stage.
I feel that everyone comes to the studio for him, and his words and deeds will affect the joys and sorrows of the audience.
Therefore, he carefully dressed up every time he appeared, and prepared various golden sentences in advance for "tongue fighting group Confucianism".
But in the end, he found that the audience did not pay so much attention to him, and such a result made him deeply shocked.
He slowly realized that people were not coming to see him, but to watch the interview guests.
As soon as he thought of this, he was shocked, and quickly adjusted his mentality and positioned himself as a supporting role.
In this way, he found the state that the host should have.
The water is formed into a sea because of the good, and the mountain does not compete for height and becomes a peak.
Not arrogant and impatient, maintain an empty cup mentality, in order to go steady and far on the road of life.
02
Make networking a big deal
I've seen a passage:
When Sun Wukong just jumped out of the stone, he could only play with a group of monkeys; after learning the skill, he could call the Bull Devil King a brother.
Before the Great Disturbance of the Heavenly Palace, even the Giant Spirit Gods did not pay attention to him; after the Great Disturbance of the Heavenly Palace, all the immortals respected him.
Before arriving at Lei Yin Temple, he had to perform rituals with the bodhisattvas; after becoming a battle buddha, he sat on an equal footing with the bodhisattvas.
The story of Sun Wukong is more or less a realistic portrayal: at what level you are at, you will have some connections.
But many people can't see through this.
They painstakingly manage all kinds of relationships, but in the end they are just a name for other people's lists.
They are obsessed with big names in various industries, but when they have something to ask for, they eat a lot of closed doors.
This is a rather heartfelt sentence: those who are particularly eager to get to know others are often the people that others least want to know.
As the old saying goes, lingshen often has dragons in it, and Wugao has its own phoenix perch.
If you have no value, you are in any circle, and only when your value is greater, the stronger the magnetic field.
Recently, a photo of Cao Dewang's liquor bureau has spread to the limelight.
At the dinner of the annual meeting of entrepreneurs, everyone was busy raising a glass, exchanging business cards, and hoping for multiple friends and multiple roads.
Only Cao Dewang was different, sitting down to eat directly without anyone.
Doesn't he need to make some connections and make circles?
No, he just doesn't need to use this kind of mixed-up way to pull the network.
As an influential figure in the business circle, there are countless companies that want to cooperate with Cao Dewang.
As the world's largest supplier of automotive glass, Fuyao has built factories in five states in the United States, and the governor of Ohio has personally commended Cao Dewang. Once, in an interview, Cao Dewang bluntly said that many governors are good friends of his.
He's more connections than you might think.
We often say that the network is actually an exchange of interests of equal strength, you have the ability to hold umbrellas for others to cover the rain, others will pave the way for you to build bridges.
There is no need to lament that human feelings are as thin as paper, which is the essence of human interaction.
You are as humble as dust, and no one will pay attention; you are in a high place, and naturally a bunch of people will flock to you.
Connections are like nets, and only when you cultivate yourself strongly can the net become more and more extensive and more firmly woven.
03
Take the platform as a skill
The Washington Post once did a social experiment.
In the subway station, a street performer plays on the violin.
He played a world-famous song with only 6 people staying briefly and receiving a total of $32 in tips.
But the violinist is no ordinary street performer, one of the most powerful musicians in the world, Josh Bell.
Two days before the trial, Josh Bell performed the same piece at the Boston Theater, when tickets were still packed despite the $200 ticket.
This society is so realistic, when you leave the platform, you are actually nothing.
But many people always mistakenly regard the success of the platform as their own skill.
Some people work in fortune-500 companies, and when communicating with people, they must always say the name of the company, showing a sense of superiority everywhere.
Some people work in well-paid Internet factories, take generous salaries, enjoy various benefits, and think that they can sit back and relax.
But whether you're a manager in a high position or a skilled technician, have you ever asked yourself a question:
When you say goodbye to the current company and this position, can you still find a satisfactory job smoothly?
Host Bai Yansong once said: "Let a dog go to CCTV every day, you can become a famous dog." But you know, without the stage of CCTV, it is likely that it will not take long for it to turn back into a dirt dog. ”
At work, it is often not you who is admired by others, but the platform behind you.
Only those who are strong and sober, they will rely on the platform to go to the next level, and they can forget the big platform and let themselves be independent.
Recently, some Internet manufacturers have frequently reported news of layoffs, in such a cold winter, everyone is worried, but a friend of mine moved the idea of resignation.
I hurried to dissuade him: "Others are worried about layoffs all day, you are fine, pull the safety plug yourself." ”
My friend said disapprovingly, "Don't get in the way, there are always job opportunities." ”
Sure enough, before he could spend a few days at home, a headhunter offered him a 15% salary increase, and an industry-leading company promised him equity.
The reason is that my friend himself is skilled and capable, and others will consult him about technical problems that others cannot solve.
At the same time, he shares technical posts online from time to time, and the quality of the posts makes him famous in programmer circles.
The weak regard the success of the platform as a skill, and the strong use the platform as a training ground.
In the final analysis, the world is ultimately based on the level of ability.
When you leave the position, if you can really fight with your own skills, it is real capital.
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There is a Spanish proverb: "Self-knowledge is the most rare knowledge." ”
Without a clear self-knowledge, it is easy to go astray.
Give it a thumbs up, set your mind straight, find your place, and become a better version of yourself.