During the epidemic prevention period, a variety of online teaching, so that children for the use of electronic products to achieve the effect of pure fire, the same age we are still playing hopscotch downstairs, now the children have teamed up to play mobile games or discuss the gossip of classmates on the real-time communication platform.
In the face of such a generational upheaval, as a mother, I can't cut off their emotional links to the Internet after every week is full of classes, because I understand that deprivation needs to be measured, and it is not uncommon to have counterproductive cases, moderately release the cache, let it run the application faster, is the epiphany of being strictly forbidden to eat sugar when I was a child, and relying on sweets to reduce stress when I grew up.
I think it's more important to develop self-control in children than to repeatedly tell them that they don't work. But when the ten-inch screen popped up with the foul language of the ten-inch girls, I still couldn't help but feel frightened, and for a second, I almost reprimanded and forbade the child to use communication software to communicate with classmates. But the next second I immediately let my sanity go online, because sitting next to me is the child who holds a tablet computer and is willing to share the bits and pieces of life, if I have ever chosen to express my emotions in the future because I shared the pressure of work with my family, I could not bear the response and chose to express my emotions in the future, then I could not build this bridge that hindered parent-child communication.
As I swiped the screen, I found that the children played the role of peacemakers in the group, cherished and maintained friendships, and showed a comfortable but not blind attitude towards the mantras of their classmates. It turns out that my children in the online world also follow the etiquette that should be in reality, and I almost lost the importance of learning self-management with my children because of the existing idea that digital communication will affect social skills.
Just think, if parents can't let their children know their boot password, then what reasons must we use to ask children to put the people on the Internet in front of us? When we wave the banner of personal privacy, we are also teaching children that they retain unextrused privacy even when they are minors.
Perhaps as parents, we have spent too much effort to explain why the work content, and the heart is exhausted to explain to the children that before the age of eighteen and the mind is not yet mature, the parents' teaching and parenting is a due obligation. We should not ask our children to abide by those norms that we cannot do ourselves, and when we become fathers and mothers, in addition to a deeper understanding of the parenting grace of our parents, we should not forget that we who were once children are repressed with various sufferings, and empathy for putting ourselves in the shoes of our children has always been the initial part of family education.