The child's test results affect the hearts of parents, the test is good, the whole family is happy, the atmosphere is peaceful, the test is not good, the parents' face changes from sunny to cloudy, and if it is serious, there will be a "storm".
Therefore, after the results came out, those children who did not test well did not dare to show the papers to their parents, for fear of being scolded by their parents.
However, there are also optimistic and confident children, no matter how many points they score, they can be generous to their parents.
Online, a mother posted her daughter's process of sharing her grades. After reading it, everyone said that the child was right, and the progress was worthy of praise.
The girl came home, unfolded her paper very happily, and said to her mother happily: "I scored 52 points in math, 52 points!" Surprised? Surprised? High unhappy? ”
Mom replied somewhat helplessly, "Should I be happy?" ”
The girl said excitedly: "Of course, I only scored 59 points in the last three subjects, and this time I did 52 points in the math subject, shouldn't you praise me twice?" ”
Mom gave a perfunctory thumbs up and said, "Oh, you're doing a beautiful job." Did you send the Language and English rolls? Can the three subjects add up to more than 100?
The girl calculated in her heart and said: "That is not easy to estimate, I think the English test is still not very good, it should pull down my average score." ”
Mom said lovelessly, "Do you still want to pull down?" ”
The girl ignored what her mother said, and was very excited to pull her mother out to celebrate, so that her mother invited her to a big dinner. He also told his mother to call the neighbor Aunt Liu. And tell my mother that good things must be shared together.
The mother was embarrassed that the child said: "You listen to your mother, that you scored 52 points, there is a lot of progress, let's celebrate it ourselves first, and when you pass, then ask Aunt Liu to celebrate together." ”
The daughter had to reluctantly say: "That's okay, today's small-scale celebration, and then a large-scale celebration when I pass." ”
After many netizens read it, they all praised the child's good psychological quality. Also as a mom, I think I should give this mom a thumbs up.
First of all, seeing the child's score, there is no anger at the child, and there is no blame for the child.
Secondly, when the child proposed to celebrate and bring Aunt Liu, the mother did not directly say: "As far as the score of your test is concerned, do you mean to let others know?" (Presumably many parents will say this)
From the child's behavior, it can be seen that the child has no fear of the mother, is more optimistic, and may not simply evaluate the child by the quality of the grades, so that the child can still tell the parents calmly in the case of failure.
Many parents are particularly concerned about their children's scores and rankings, and few parents can calmly talk to their children when they see their children's three subject scores add up to more than one hundred points. The girl's mother's calmness is also worth learning.
In the face of children's achievements, how should we parents look at it? Let me tell you what I think.
01. High score is not "praise"
There are always some parents, when the child has a high score, likes to raise eyebrows, likes to reward the child, and the child buys what the child wants. This requires the child to learn well, and the child is "held" high.
I don't recommend that children exchange high scores for rewards, because doing so will invisibly nourish the child's pride.
We parents should do high scores without "praise", so that children understand that learning is their own business, good and bad grades, but also their own responsibility.
Of course, you can still encourage your child, you can take your child to the bookstore to pick up a few books that your child likes, you can also pat your child's shoulder and tell your child that your mother is pleased with your efforts.
02. Low score is not "sticky"
"Stick" means reprimanding, scolding, and sarcasm.
Some parents still raise their children in the same way, believing that "no fight can not be a tool". When you see that your child's score is not good, teach your child a lesson.
Practice has proved that fighting cannot solve any problem.
If the child's score is low, parents must first learn to control their emotions and give their children comfort and encouragement in language.
The reasons for your child's poor grades should then be analyzed. Is it ideologically unappreciated? Or is it the wrong way to learn? Or the exam time is not properly allocated, etc.
Find the problem and give the child practical methods and steps to help the child's learning.
Victory or defeat is a common thing in the military, especially in learning, it is normal for children to make occasional mistakes, and parents must have a calm heart.
03. Rational evaluation
Parents can't just look at the level of the score. For example, children in the first and second grades can basically score more than ninety, and even ninety may sometimes be counted down. However, in the upper grades, although the child has scored more than eighty points, these eighty points may still be the top few in the class.
Therefore, the child's score should be comprehensively measured in the context.
For children's scores, parents should evaluate rationally and should not pay too much attention to the scores.
If parents pay too much attention to scores, they will make their children afraid of exams and have a mental burden. This can sometimes affect the child's normal play.
Whether it is a child with good grades or a child with poor grades, they all have a deep desire to become better.
Parents should protect their children's self-esteem and evaluate their children's achievements rationally and objectively.
04. Boot help
The grades are not good, the child's heart must be very sad, parents should not make it worse at this time.
The most useful thing to do at this time is to patiently guide and help the child find the cause.
Help your child analyze the volume to see which knowledge points your child has not mastered thoroughly. Help your child make a future learning plan and fill in the gaps.
My child's essay on the last exam was deducted 10 points by the teacher, the results were not ideal, and he was particularly aggrieved after returning home, saying that the teacher deducted too much.
After talking with the teacher, I knew the teacher's good intentions. All in the fourth grade, the beginning of the essay paragraph also forgot to write the top two blocks, the teacher deducted a few points this time to teach the child a lesson, so as not to make such a mistake in the future major examinations.
I tell the child the reason why the teacher deducted points and guide the child to remember the correct format for essay writing. Since then, children's essays have never been deducted points for the format of their writing.
@Hope to Meet Parenting Today says:
Hoping for Jackie Chan and Hoping for a Daughter to become a phoenix is the wish of all parents, who hope that their children are a bully, but parents should know that the score of each test does not represent the comprehensive strength of the child. Parents should look at their children's grades reasonably, the child has failed the test, and the encouragement and understanding of parents is the driving force for children's future progress.
I think the girl at the beginning of the article has a good mentality, although the math is only 52 points, but compared with her previous three subjects combined with 59 points, the girl has improved a lot. With this progress, the mother should celebrate with the child.
Children have a good mentality, coupled with the encouragement of parents, I believe that soon the grades will improve.
How do you see your child's scores? What would you do if your child scored 52?