Father's love, deep and thick. Many people in life sing the praises of maternal love, but ignore the father's love. Like maternal love, paternal love is a great force, and the father's position is irreplaceable in the process of growing up.
Around us, many children live with their fathers due to various reasons such as parental divorce, and such a family environment will more or less affect the child's personality.
In order to raise their daughters, the man has not married after the divorce of the husband and wife, and after 10 years, what happened to the children brought up by the father?
Xiao Li is a single father who divorced his wife when his daughter was 6 years old. Since then, he has lived alone with his daughter, and considering her feelings, he has not remarried, but has worked hard, pulling her daughter to grow up as both a father and a mother.
In order to let the child enjoy the same treatment as other children as possible, Xiao Li took pains. He specializes in learning the skills of hair tying, and will knit various hairstyles for his daughter on weekdays;
For the healthy growth of children, they also carefully learn various cooking methods and make food for their daughters in different ways;
Afraid that there is a gap in the child's heart, as far as possible to provide the child with reading resources and enrich the inner world. Fortunately, the daughter was not affected by her mother's departure, her personality was lively and cheerful, and her relationship with Xiao Li was also very good.
Fortunately, the wife is also an enlightened and high-quality person, and after separation, she did not denigrate Xiao Li in front of the children, but seriously explained to the children the reasons why the two people could not be together.
When the child is on vacation, Xiao Li will also send her to his ex-wife to feel her mother's love.
Now, 10 years have passed, and the little girl has grown into a big girl and has been admitted to the university of her choice with excellent results.
I have to say that Xiao Li is indeed a model good father, in the growth of her daughter, not only gave her deep fatherly love, but also gave her mother tenderness, netizens have given him a thumbs up.
Many couples in life cannot be together for various reasons, and the harm that divorce can cause to their children is inevitable.
If two people have to be separated, what is the best protection for the child?
1. Make a reasonable explanation to the child
Experts point out that the way parents divorce is handled has a very big impact on children.
In the face of the fact of divorce, parents should explain to them the reasons why they cannot be together in a way that their children can accept according to their children's age, personality and other factors, and seek their children's understanding.
In addition, firmly tell your child: "Although Mom and Dad can't be together, the love for you will never change"!
2, do not pass on bad emotions to children
In some divorced families, parents are accustomed to blaming the misfortunes in life on the incompleteness of the family and transmitting bad emotions to the children, which can easily lead to psychological shadows and affect their personality.
3, do not denigrate each other in front of the child
After some parents divorce, they are afraid that their children's meeting with the other party will affect their new feelings, and they will do everything possible to prevent and denigrate each other in front of their children.
Such an approach is very unwise, denigrating the other party will plant the seeds of hatred in the child's heart, deprive the child of happiness, and even adversely affect the child's future view of marriage.
4. Cultivate a sound personality of children
In family education, mom and dad have an irreplaceable role with each other. For divorced families, parents should pay special attention to make up for the lack of love in their children.
If the child lives with the mother for a long time, the mother can mobilize relatives and friends to consciously let the child contact some mature, confident and responsible boys to avoid their resistance to the opposite sex.
Although love is easy, marriage is not easy. Two people coming together is a fate cultivated in a previous life, and it should be cherished extraordinarily.
If you can't be together, protect your child's mind and minimize the harm caused to your child as much as possible.