Tao Baibai said: "Sagittarius is sensitive and fragile. If he shares happiness or confides in you, please be sure to greet him with your greatest sincerity. If you are very perfunctory, he will not cry and complain about you. But he won't look for you the next time he tells you what's on his mind. “
And leaving aside the psychological Barnum effect (which means that it is easy for people to believe a general description of personality and think that it is particularly suitable for themselves and accurately reveal their personality characteristics, even if the content is empty), this sentence is still very reasonable and causes us to think.
Indeed, when you decide to open your heart to others, but others look like they don't care, don't care about themselves, or don't say a word, you will certainly not have in-depth communication with him.
The same is true for children.
The child is looking for you to share the joy, or a sincere friendship, a sweet cake, a careless praise from others, a small progress... Do you think your child is too fussy and pretentious? Do you feel that there is no need to commemorate, nor is it worth being happy, and then casually perfunctory?
When the child is talking to you about his troubles, or a little awkwardness with his classmates, a misunderstanding from his parents, a small mistake of his own, an unpredictable stepback, a knee that accidentally broke... All make children confused and sad. Indeed, it may not be much for adults. But he is still a child, and the troubles in the simple world are also insurmountable gaps. Are you not comforting, dissuading the child, or even criticizing the child for being useless?
But these are not the original intentions that the child shares with you, he wants to get your understanding and recognition, not not to understand, not to agree, to criticize and accuse, or even to treat it casually.
Yes, there may be many times when you are unintentional, and sometimes you can't take care of it. So inadvertently hurt the child again and again.
In those moments, did you ever see a fading light in your child's eyes? Their spiritual power was also like a defeated cow, with its head hanging low, its eyes hollow and confused, lifeless.
So, treat your child's sharing, please be serious! Respond to your child's sincerity with your sincerity. Communicate truly effectively with your child, have each other, and progress together!