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Milan Kundera once said that it's a world of pop to leave, but none of us are good at saying goodbye.
Saying goodbye is the norm, and we are not good at saying goodbye. Maybe it's because we don't give up; maybe it's because we can't put it down; maybe it's because we can't see it.
There is no feast under the heavens, and there are no long-term friends in the world. When the fate is still there, we will eventually get together. And when fate disappears, everything will be human.
In this era of popular farewell, the most heartbreaking thing is the post-70s who have already run five. This generation is gradually aging, which is the end of the old generation and the beginning of a new generation.
In memory, the post-70s generation is still a relatively young generation. With the pace of time to today, I suddenly found that the vigorous post-70s generation has become the parents of others, and the children have grown up. What's more, they already have grandchildren and become other people's grandparents.
Su Shi once sighed that life is like a dream, and a bottle is still in the moon.
Looking at the moonlight in the sky, maybe it hasn't changed for millions of years. Looking at our lives, perhaps we have grown from teenagers to middle-aged people, from full of black hair to now white hair.
After the 70s of Ben Wu, after all, they will face the four major partings of life, and I hope you can be mentally prepared.
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The post-70s of BenWu must say goodbye to the "youth" of the past.
The youth of the post-70s generation has only two themes, seeking and fighting.
Born in the 1970s, they happened to have a great time to open up the market. Therefore, many post-70s generations have the opportunity to change their destiny. In countless traces of market development, there are post-70s "looking for" figures.
Look for this era, find your own life, and find new opportunities for development. This is the task of their generation, and it is also the mission of their generation.
At the same time, they are also a generation of "resistance". They have to fight unemployment, they have to fight against the shackles of tradition, and they have to fight against the life of chicken feathers in this place.
There is a saying that "Qia classmate is a teenager, full of style, bookish, and wavy." ”
This is their youth.
But when the wheel of history has run to this day, they have become history in their youth. The life after Ben Wu is still continuing.
03
After the 70s of BenWu, we must say goodbye to the "stable" life.
Whoever it is, there are two pursuits, well-being and stability. Physical well-being and stable life are the desire of the post-70s generation for life.
I remember when they were young, they always adhered to such a concept - one point of hard work and one point of harvest, first bitter and then sweet.
If you are a post-70s generation, then you may wish to ask yourself, in the end, have you achieved "first bitter and then sweet"? Perhaps, some people have done it. However, there are still many people who have not done it.
At the age of 40, we all thought that we were married and had children, that our lives had settled down, and that we would just have to wait for retirement.
As everyone knows, in recent years, the internal volume has appeared frequently, not to mention stability, and perhaps the crisis of "unemployment" is approaching us step by step. This is a kind of helplessness in life.
This is an era of not waiting to see "middle-aged people", but also an era of "mid-life crisis" intensifying. There are old people on the top, small ones on the bottom, and huge mortgages. This makes them wonder where the road is.
Stability has become a luxury. Uneasiness has become the norm for the post-70s generation. In the future, the post-70s generation is still facing many risks in life. You and I can only swim against the current.
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After the 70s of Ben Wu, he should say goodbye to "affection".
In your opinion, the post-70s generation is living more and more thinly? Or is it more affectionate the more you live? Unfortunately, most people only live more and more thinly.
For love, there is no longer the desire and pursuit of the past. For human feelings, there is no expectation in the heart. It's like dead wood has no life, and in winter there is no fireworks.
The heart has gradually become "cold".
We also want to live a "warm" appearance. But looking at this world, looking at this stressful life, and recalling the unfortunate experiences of the past, I believe that we are no longer "affectionate".
The greatest misfortune in life is to "know that there are tigers in the mountains and prefer to go to the tiger mountains." We know that thin affection is not good, affection is good. However, we still chose the former and gradually moved away from the latter.
Perhaps, when people have gone through hardships, they will have an epiphany, and wishful thinking cannot be exchanged for the true treatment of others. So, don't be sentimental.
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The post-70s of BenWu must say goodbye to the "hometown in memory".
Do you remember what "hometown" looked like?
Some people's hometowns are in the snow-capped north. When they were young, one of the things they expected most was to bring new clothes in the winter New Year, and to huddle in the house together to eat a big meal and have fun with each other.
Some people's hometowns are in the gentle Jiangnan water town. When they were young, they always wanted to meet the gentle and handsome boy. This is their heartbeat and their unique memory.
Perhaps, in the past, the quality of life in the hometown was not too high, and the material was not too rich, but the "happiness" at that time was real, and the attachment to the hometown was also strong.
Today, even if we are happy, we are just "forced to smile". Whenever we talk about our hometown, we feel infinite emotion, it still exists, but it is long gone.
What exists is the geographical hometown. And far away, it is the happy time of youth.
Parting, that's all.
Wen/Shushan has deer