Lu Xunfa wife: childless, childless, sexless, loveless, alone in an empty house for 41 years, the last words are sad
I believe that many people have heard a lot of stories about waiting, and these stories of waiting have earned countless tears, just like the cold kiln in the opera story who waited for eighteen years, waiting for xue Pinggui, a general who returned to his hometown. However, most of the stories about waiting are also sad. Some people have waited all their lives without waiting for that person, and some people have waited all their lives, and that person is around and has not waited.
That's right, it's Juan. She is the wife of the famous literary scholar Lu Xun, seemingly infinite glory, in fact, she has no sex and no love for 41 years after marriage, of course, there is no child and no daughter, that is, such a woman, before her death, said a word but made countless people cry, and what did she say?
Strong twisted melon is not sweet, strong twisted marriage is not happy
There is a saying in our country, "Strong twisted melon is not sweet", and it is still very reasonable to taste it carefully. In this regard, Lu Xun Zhu'an was deeply touched.
Lu Xun was a man who hated feudal society extremely, he hated everything in feudal society, including arranged marriages, and coincidentally, his marriage was the word of his parents' fate.
At that time, Lu Xun's mother, Lu Rui, privately set a marriage for Lu Xun in order to double happiness, and he also had two requirements for the other half, one was to enter the school, and the other was to let go. But Juan couldn't do either of these things.
In order to rebel against the arranged marriage, Lu Xun went to Japan to study again, and went for four years. After the engagement was delayed, Lu Rui was also anxious to hold his grandson, and he had a plan, so he sent a telegram to Lu Xun saying that his mother was ill and returned quickly.
Lu Xun was concerned about his mother's comfort, but he did not distinguish the truth and falsity of the matter, rushed home overnight, and after returning home, he did not see his seriously ill mother, only saw the big red happy characters full of eyes. Lu Xun turned around and wanted to leave, but under the persuasion of his mother, he finally agreed to the marriage.
Consent is one thing, marriage is another. Lu Xun cried all night, his face was dyed indigo by indigo pillow towels, and he fled to Japan on the fourth day of marriage. Lu Xun described his marriage this way, "I wanted an orchid, but God gave me a grass. ”
A letter that made Lu Xun angry
Although Lu Xun was cold by nature, he was not a person with a bad temper, and he was not angry many times, and Juan occupied it twice.
Once on the wedding day, Juan knew that Lu Xun did not like girls with small feet, and deliberately wore large shoes and stuffed them with cotton. Unfortunately, as soon as I got out of the palanquin, the filling was exposed, and the shoes fell to the ground, scattering a field of cotton. That's the first thing.
The second thing happened after marriage. After Lu Xun returned from studying abroad, he bought a house in Badaowan and took over his mother, Juan, and brother, but Juan still slept with Lu Rui. Because Juan and Lu Xun had never been married, and they hoped that the Zhou family would have it, they wrote to Lu Xun saying that they hoped that he could take a concubine.
After seeing Juan's letter, Lu Xun was very angry, and he had a habit of writing a diary, and wrote in the diary of the day: "In the afternoon, I got a woman to write a book, and on the twenty-second day I got Zhu Zhaofa from the Ding family, which was quite absurd." ”
Yes, Lu Xun called his wife Zhu An, never used the word "wife", always called "woman", even if it was "woman", he only mentioned it twice in his diary, which was one of them. But he mentioned Xu Guangping 771 times.
A sentence from Juan before his death
Lu Xun's life with his family was not very harmonious, and he later broke up with Zhou Zuoren. Lu Xun decided to move out, I don't know if it was Zhu An's good Lu Xun looked in his eyes bit by bit, Lu Xun actually asked Zhu An's meaning, but Lu Xun asked, "Stay with your mother in Badaowan, or go back to your mother's house."
Although Lu Xun gave two choices, none of them had anything to do with Lu Xun, and the implication was to separate. Although Juan did not read much, he was very smart, and Juan said that he would go with Lu Xun. Probably remembering Juan's past good, Lu Xun said a "good" for the first time.
It was this "good" that made Juan cut off the last opportunity to leave Lu Xun and miss his life. In 1936, Lu Xun died of illness.
When Lu Xun was alive, although he never made good friends with Juan, he would send back the manuscript fee every month as the living expenses of Juan and his mother Lu Rui, so the life of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was still relatively stable. As soon as Lu Xun left, the life of the two became increasingly poor, and later even eating became a big problem.
Many of Lu Xun's friends during his lifetime came to the door, hoping to help Juan, but Juan refused one by one. She also arranged xu Guangping and Zhou Haiying's residence and life as much as possible, and also told Xu Guangping, "Feel free to prompt the conditions", Juan's personality, Zhou Haiying mentioned many years later or grateful.
In 1943, Ruri also died. The last stone in Zhu An's heart was lowered, and from then on, he began to refuse Zhou Zuoren's help. At first, in order to take care of the old lady, he accepted Zhou Zuoren's help, but he knew that Mr. Big and Mr. Er had a bad relationship, so he did not accept Mr. Er's help. In her heart, she still regarded herself as Lu Xun's wife.
Unfortunately, Lu Xun couldn't see all this, otherwise, he might have liked Juan, who, like him, was a very backbone and principled person.
When Juan died, he said in his will, "The coffin returns to the south and is buried next to Mr. Big." Although he and Lu Xun had never been married before they died, and in this life, the two did not look like the couple that Ming Media was marrying, but before dying, Zhu An still wanted to be buried next to Lu Xun. Born without intercourse, death is also the same cave. This is probably love! Unfortunately, Juan did not get his wish, or buried with Lu Rui, just like before he died.
After telling the story of Juan and her "Mr. Big", most people will ask two questions, one is Lu Xun a scumbag? Second, is Juan's lonely life worth it?
If you know Lu Xun, you can actually understand all that he did, even though he was a little cruel to Juan. Lu Xun is a very principled and backbone person, and Zhu An is very similar to him. And marrying Juan is contrary to his principles, he longs for the life we have today, advocating the advanced ideas of the West, and his approach to Juan, although a little infuriating, is understandable.
brief summary:
Juan is a standard old social woman, she also has her own ideas, and may have had someone she liked, but she still had to obey her parents. With a marriage contract, she became the daughter-in-law of the Zhou family and became Lu Xun's wife, and she regarded herself as a child for the rest of her life, until she died of old age and illness.
As mentioned earlier, in fact, some of her personalities are very similar to Lu Xun, except that the way she knows Lu Xun is not very timely, and her appearance is the biggest reason for Lu Xun's unhappiness, and Lu Xun naturally will not look at her well. In fact, if Lu Xun took a good look at Juan and carefully understood Zhu An's people, he might really fall in love with her.
Juan, Juan, an ordinary and beautiful name. Juan's parents gave her this name in the hope that she would have a safe life. However, from the perspective of Juan's life, it should be a lifetime of lack of peace.