In a certain show, a girl said this paragraph when talking about her mother's eccentricity:
My younger siblings were very close in age, and they were both breastfeeding, but my mom would breastfeed my brother because she didn't have enough milk, and she would feed my sister.
Moreover, when I was a child, I felt very miserable, because buying snacks never had my share, and my mother thought that I didn't need to eat snacks when I grew up, but I also wanted to eat.
Then my mom came up with her classic scumbag theory: No mother with many children can level a bowl of water!
It can be seen that this girl is deeply hurt by her mother's eccentricity, otherwise she would not have recalled these things, so vividly remembered, and would still be in tears.
Why do you say that this mother is a "scumbag"? Because in this mother's concept, she never felt that this was eccentricity, she felt that boys are more important than girls, and the big is to let the small, which is what she thinks is the correct concept of parenting.
If you question this mother, she will definitely say: How I am eccentric, I did not give her food, or did not buy her clothes, so many children I can not achieve a bowl of water level!
I believe that this mother must love her eldest daughter very much, and if the eldest daughter is wronged, she will certainly be distressed. However, if she compares her younger siblings with her eldest daughter, she will be more partial to her younger siblings.
For this girl, although she knows that her mother is eccentric, she still loves her mother, after all, her mother raised her from childhood, and there will still be feelings.
Some people say that a bowl of water is not even at all, if you have raised cats, cats, dogs and dogs, you will know that the same litter of dog pups, you will prefer a certain one, people are the same.
Some people say that our parents have done their best just to raise us, and we should not blame our parents and forget all this.
Seeing these words said by netizens, I suddenly remembered that some time ago, after Sun Haiyang found Sun Zhuo who had been abducted and sold for 14 years, some netizens said such words, he said: After all, his adoptive parents have raised Sun Zhuo for 14 years, and they are particularly good to him, there is no abuse on him, or to have a gratitude, at least do not pursue the responsibility of the other party.
What kind of three views would say such a thing? People's children are abducted and sold, not adopted by well-meaning people after they are lost, this is not a concept at all, one is a crime, the other is a good deed.
Netizens' "strange values" are really incomprehensible, you know this scumbag mother theory "No mother with many children can be leveled with a bowl of water!" How much does this sentence hurt a child?
As the eldest of the family, was it her own fault that she was the first to be born; was it her own fault that she was a girl? She is also the child of her parents, and she deserves the equal love of her parents.
My grandmother also has a classic scumbag theory: pension is the daughter's business, which can live in her son's house every day!
My grandmother has four daughters, a son, since my grandfather left, she spends ninety percent of the year living in the four daughters' homes, returning to her son's house the day before the twenty-third day of the waxing moon every year, and after the end of the year, she is picked up by her daughter on the sixteenth day of the first month, and it has been going back and forth for many years.
I asked my grandmother, why don't you usually live with your precious son, but in your daughter's house? Grandma said that living in her son's house, she was afraid that her daughter-in-law would quarrel with her son, and she would have so many daughters in order to provide for herself.
Is there something wrong with what my grandmother said? Surely there's nothing wrong with that, she's smart! But is it fair to do so for four daughters? It was certainly unfair, but she felt that it was the right thing to do, which was the typical "scum mother theory".
Can a bowl of water be leveled?
As a post-80s mother, I think a bowl of water can be flattened, if the end is not flat, it is your psychological unevenness. Whether it's two children or three children, as long as you treat them fairly, you can be fair.
For example, I have three children, but there are only two lollipops in the store, and I can buy them for the younger two children, but I will definitely buy the eldest something she likes.
And the scumbags won't fail to do this, they will think, you're the boss, just a lollipop, it doesn't matter if you don't eat it.
So, it's easy to flatten a bowl of water, not because you buy a few lollipops, but because you have a few lollipops in your heart!
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