In ancient times, people attached great importance to the issue of "door to door" on the issue of marriage. When an official eunuch marries a wife and daughter, he will generally choose a family that is equivalent to his official position, or a family of higher rank than himself. Although people's views on marriage are now more enlightened, there is also a certain "door-to-door pair".
Unlike in ancient times, contemporary young people do not care much about the gap between families, and they are more concerned about the education and education of the other half than economic strength.
The current situation of the blind date market, the "three no girls" are disliked, no matter how good-looking they are, it is useless
The other day, the breakup of a couple attracted a lot of people's attention. Male students are highly qualified students who graduated from 985 universities and have a postgraduate degree. Among the many college graduates, such an educational background is already quite good. Shortly after the boy graduated from work, he proposed to break up with his girlfriend who had been with him for many years.
The reason is that the girlfriend only has a college degree, which is far from herself, and the two people have almost no common language in life. The boy said that he wanted to find a girl with similar academic qualifications, so that the two people would have a common topic, they could talk, the fit of the three views would be higher, and their lives would be happier and happier.
The boy's reason for breaking up has been criticized by many people, but objectively speaking, the boy's words are not wrong. Among the criteria for choosing a mate for contemporary young people, there is a very important one, that is, "three views are consistent". In today's blind date market, "three no girls" are disliked.
The so-called "three no girls" are girls without professional ability, no independent ability and no academic qualifications, and even if the appearance of these three types of girls is high, it is difficult to reverse the situation. In the eyes of high-quality boys, "three no girls" will drag their own hind legs, their own work girls can not help, the family is still difficult to take care of, they have to take money and bother, of course, they are unwilling. Although it is cruel, I have to accept this reality.
When choosing a mate, not only will boys have some rules and regulations, but girls will do the same
Now there are no ugly girls in this society, girls as long as they wear makeup, wear a beautiful, well-fitting clothes, very good-looking. Some boys with low academic qualifications and not very strong abilities will not have any requirements for the woman's academic qualifications when choosing a mate, but they pay more attention to the girl's appearance and family.
And boys with high education and strong ability hope to find a girl with the same academic qualifications as themselves and strong comprehensive ability to marry, even if the girls are not very good-looking, it is not a problem in their eyes. Because such a girl can not only help her career, but also make a good job of home and outside the home, who doesn't want to choose such a girl?
Girls are no less demanding than boys when choosing a partner. Girls whose family conditions are not very good generally want to find a boy with a well-off family to marry. When choosing a spouse, a well-off girl does not pay much attention to the economic conditions of the other half, but she is very concerned about the man's character and quality.
Highly educated girls are generally reluctant to be with boys with much lower academic qualifications than themselves, because it is really difficult to have a common topic, and when they are together, they will always feel that "words are not speculative for more than half a sentence".
What should female college students do to have more choices when choosing a mate?
Many girls are in a "passive" state when choosing a mate, and are selected by boys. If you want to change this situation, it is not enough to rely on high appearance and good figure. If female college students want to take the initiative in their own hands when choosing a mate, these three things must be done well.
First thing: have a high degree. Although the high appearance of girls will have certain advantages, after entering the society, they will find that whether it is looking for a job or looking for a marriage partner, high appearance is the most inconspicuous advantage. In the fierce competition for employment, high education is the key to their "victory". When looking for a partner, high education is favored by high-quality men, after all, the genes are good, and the next generation will be more excellent.
The second thing: to improve the comprehensive ability of the individual. The importance of education and ability is comparable, take the blind date, before two people meet, the matchmaker will introduce each other's personal information, photos and academic qualifications, which is the premise of deciding whether two people can meet. In the process of getting along, if the man or woman does not have a certain ability to live or do things, then even if the education is very high, the other party may also think twice.
Third thing: have a decent job. The work of civil servants, career editors, and state-owned enterprises is deeply loved by parents. For girls, teachers are a good choice.
There are many excellent boys who will give priority to female teachers when choosing a mate, because they think that teachers are not only knowledgeable and high-quality, but also have winter and summer vacations, and can have more time to take care of the family. If female college students can do these three things well, they will be very "sought-after" in the blind date market in the future, and they will have more choices.
All in all, most boys now would rather marry a wife who is not good-looking than serve "Miss Qianjin". If women want to be looked up to, they must be independent and achieve financial freedom. Even if you are married, don't give up your job.
Today's topic: What kind of boys do you think are less popular in the blind date market?