What causes depression? Why does a cheerful person become depressed rapidly in certain situations?
Psychologists have found through statistical surveys of a large number of depressed people that the following 8 scenarios are most likely to cause depression. If you encounter it, be careful.
(1) You have suffered abuse and shame.
The harm caused by abuse and shame tends to silence you, especially when you're told to shut up and keep it a secret (abuse that often occurs with people close to you).
(2) You are emotionally despised
You are ridiculed and ostracized, and emotionally despised to the point that you have to prove your worth at all costs.
(3) You never had a childhood, and you play a "pseudo-adult" role in the family.
Taking care of the rest of the family is your staff. Maybe one or both of your parents suffers from a mental or physical illness, and maybe you're just the most responsible one. In short, you're carrying too many things you shouldn't be carrying.
(4) You are the "star" of the family
You carry huge expectations, you are the star of your family, and you have been in the limelight since childhood. So you're always stressed. You don't dare to face your own vulnerability, you can only keep moving forward.
(5) You are taught: acknowledging any type of weakness is not masculine
You may have grown up in a highly gender stereotyped environment where you have to be "stoic" or you'll be ridiculed.
(6) No painful emotions can be expressed at home.
Negative emotions are not allowed in the home, and you will be silenced for crying, punished for anger, and rejected for sadness.
(7) You feel responsible for the happiness or satisfaction of your parents
Your parents always say things like, "How nice I would be without you," "I've been here for you all my life," and that put a lot of pressure on you and made you think: You have to make your parents live well.
(8) The culture around you does not support emotional openness or uniqueness
The cultural environment tells you that you can't be a maverick. Can you have some preferences, likes that are different from the masses. Once you are different from others, you can only suppress yourself.
epilogue:
In fact, the vast majority of people have more or less experienced such a scene. It's just that we may be psychologically strong, or we may have the help of others and finally come out.