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Pay attention to my | write about the world, but also write about human love
01
How long have you not sent a circle of friends?
And why didn't it send it?
It may be that the trivialities are completely forgotten, or it may be that the age is slowly growing up and losing the desire to share.
Or maybe there are no friends in the group of friends, send out, there are very few likes, but it provokes leaders and colleagues to be unwarranted suspicion.
As for why I quit my circle of friends, I think everyone has a different reason.
For me, it is nothing more than human sorrow and joy that are not connected, and when I find that a thing that makes me full of joy does not make others happy, and the sad thing cannot be felt by others, I slowly lose the desire to share.
Maybe that's why the older you get, the more silent you become.
Because we began to slowly discover that the world was its own and had nothing to do with others.
During this time, it is snow for each person, and each person has his own obscurity and purity.
There is a netizen in my circle of friends who did not know when to add it before, and he used to send more than five circles of friends every day.
Not where to see the exhibition again, but what exquisite dishes to eat in the afternoon.
In the evening, find a tavern to listen to music, drink a few drinks, and live a petty bourgeoisie.
Looking at his circle of friends, for me, a housewife who reads every day in addition to code words, it is a kind of enjoyment, and it is also a comfort in a tired life.
But some time ago, his circle of friends suddenly stopped updating.
Clicking into his homepage, you can only see a few cold words and a black and white underline that can be seen for only three days.
Because I was really curious, I privately wrote to him, asking why he loved life so much and was willing to share people, but suddenly became silent.
He told me that life used to be smooth and comfortable, so he wanted to show it to everyone.
And now, due to poor investment and the impact of the epidemic, I am not only saddled with a large amount of bank loans, but also owe more than 600,000 online loans, and I have no time to take care of myself, and I can no longer continue the leisurely life I used to have.
The main reason is, who wants to show their awkward side in front of people?
02
A netizen on Weibo said:
Once she was a ashes-level enthusiast in a circle of friends, and she was uncomfortable for a day without hair.
One is that I am under pressure to find a place to vent, and the other is that I also want to attract attention and sensationalize the meaning.
At that time, she had not yet graduated from college, nor had she really set foot in society, and her daily life was simple and she had a lot of free time.
But later, I was busy with papers, busy with defenses, busy with internships, and after graduation, my life was suddenly enriched, and suddenly I didn't have the enthusiasm of the circle of friends before.
Sometimes I suddenly want to send a circle of friends, but when I get busy, I think of the circle of friends it is already late at night.
At this time, most people have already slept, and they will feel that sending a circle of friends is a kind of disturbance.
After a long time of not sharing, slowly, it will lose the desire to share, as if not sending a circle of friends, there is no impact on their own lives.
Good friends who care about you will ask you about your current situation in private messages, and those who don't care about you have never cared how you have been lately.
It seems that after not sending a circle of friends, she can see more clearly who is really good to her.
As the debater in "Strange Story" says, others will only roar indifferently from the ruins of your life, and will not care why you have become like this.
Because the days of eating chaff are not enough for outsiders, because the busy and tired life has lost the desire to express.
But we finally understand that joy and sorrow, love and hate, are only a very personal thing.
As for what others think of us, in many cases, that's not particularly important.
We are broken and rebuilt again and again, bearing the collapse of life and the weight of life again and again.
In the end, it is only four words, cold and warm self-knowledge.
03
There is such a passage in Xi Murong's "Monologue", which I like very much:
"When I look back, I suddenly realize that all the efforts I have made in my life are only for the satisfaction of the people around me.
In order to win the praise and smile of others, I trembled and put myself into all the shackles of all modes.
On the way, I suddenly found that I only had a vague face and a road that could not be turned back. ”
Living in this world, each of us cannot become a universe of our own, connect with the people around us, get the praise and smile of others, of course.
However, we cannot do this, let alone take this as the purpose of life.
Whenever you are, please understand that pleasing yourself is always more important than pleasing others.
Regarding why not send a circle of friends, there is a high praise answer that says:
Because all the circle of friends is sent to the people who care most in the form of private chats.
Therefore, those who disappear from the circle of friends may still be active in various WeChat groups, and they may still be happy to share various small blessings and grievances in life with the closest people.
Not to mention that WeChat has long lost its private social attributes, and today's WeChat is more like an office software.
There are leaders in the circle of friends, colleagues, the owner of the commissary, and the uncle of the cake shop.
Send a circle of friends to set up a bunch of groupings, to worry about the feelings of too many people, and finally edit to edit, or do not send the most convenient.
What's more, a small thing in our circle of friends, in the eyes of parents, may be a big thing.
If so, why worry parents in distant places?
How many likes and how lively we are in the circle of friends cannot change our tired lives.
For those viewers, after the bustle, the birds and beasts disperse, but life is real.
In the days when we don't send a circle of friends, we are all living well.
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