Some parents often ask: What is the difference between American education and Chinese education? How to reform education in China? There may be many educational differences between China and the United States, but many parents have overlooked an important problem in Chinese education: the lack of family education.
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Education reform begins with parental education
What is the main manifestation of everyone's dissatisfaction with education? It is nothing more than the children's problems, that is, the current students are fragile, have poor ability to resist setbacks, often run away from home, or take their lives lightly; they only know how to do problems, their creativity is poor, their ability to solve practical problems is poor; they are too selfish, their ability to unite and cooperate is insufficient, and so on. These, in the final analysis, are still the problems of being human.
Parents are the child's first teacher and the most important teacher, but at present, Chinese parents are seriously missing in this regard.
What is tutoring? It is the words and deeds of parents to their children, often reflected in non-intellectual factors. For example, gratitude, respect for others, basic rules, etc., are actually to make children a qualified social person. What kind of person a child becomes, in a way, depends first and foremost on the parents.
But unfortunately, parents do not pay much attention to this, let alone the correct educational concept and talent concept. When it comes to tutoring, it becomes spending money on teachers to teach cultural lessons, rather than parents practicing it. Chinese parents are very willing to spend money on their children's education, and they do not hesitate to smash pots and sell iron, but they forget their responsibilities and efforts. What's more, some powerful and wealthy people, exchanging money for responsibility, spend huge sums of money to let children study abroad alone when their children are very young, ostensibly contributing to their children, but in fact it is irresponsible.
When a child has a problem, we often blame the school and society, rather than reflecting on ourselves. When we complain about test-taking education, do we reflect on ourselves as active promoters? Are your children forced to enroll in a lot of tutoring classes? When we accuse social disorder, do we set an example for our children?
If it is not engaged in specialized research work, then most of the knowledge learned in school will be forgotten, but collaboration, gratitude, creativity, imagination, endurance, introspection, etc., will eventually settle down, and in these aspects of education, parents can and should play a greater role.
The education system and philosophy in the United States are not perfect, and in the United States, parents are not satisfied because of educational philosophy, and about 2.6 million students are home-schooled. 7% of the top 10 universities in the U.S. come from this type of student. Parents are using their own strength to adjust and correct their dissatisfaction with American education.
No education system or philosophy in the world is perfect, and neither is the United States. Everyone feels that there are many problems in China's education at present, the government and public opinion are reflecting and reviewing, trying to solve this problem, and many Chinese experts often talk about how good American education is. It is true that education in the United States has its advanced things in concepts and methods, and there are places worth learning, but I think that while learning from the experience of the United States, Chinese parents should first make up for the lesson of family education; education reform should first start with changing parents, so that parents can understand their responsibilities, establish a correct concept of talent, and truly know how to guide their children to grow into talents.
From the perspective of the world, for cultivating an excellent person, there is no essential difference in concepts and practices, such as paying, such as strict norms and requirements, being friendly to others, knowing how to be grateful, and so on. Therefore, we do not need to talk about the United States at every turn, but we should first inherit the excellent educational concepts of our own people and carry forward the correct concept of family education. Only when parents are in place and the correct concepts are in place will China's education problems be fundamentally changed. (Ma Zhenyi)
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Seven situations cause parents to be indifferent to education
1. Think that children's education is a matter of the school, and has little to do with their own education or not;
2. Think that they are busy, physically and mentally haggard, have no time to take care of their children's learning, and lack of mental strength;
3, think that family education is an empty theory, it sounds good, it does not work when used;
4, think that the tree is naturally straight, let the child go unchecked, go with the flow, not much questioning;
5, think that family education is the education of learning, learning education is to do homework, cram school.
6, think that family education is to let children go to various tutoring classes, music, art, playing piano, etc.
7, think that family education is to make requirements, as for how to learn, do not know, and are not willing to explore.
In fact, family education is the education of children's life growth, that is, to let children have the awareness of learning, good at learning, living, good at life, getting along, good at getting along, and willing to practice and explore.
Family education is the education of "roots" and "soul", only "strong roots", "good hearts", and good state can "thick branches and leaves be fat", which is exactly "crops nourish roots, cultivate people and nourish hearts"!
In today's information age, it is difficult for our parents to educate their children well without learning. Because in the era of quick success and short-term profit, many people are impetuous, follow the social trend of thought, are wrapped up in popular ideas, lack rational thinking, and long-term vision.
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How do you make a good parent?
Can you target the following to see what kind of parents you are?
The first level: willing to spend money on children.
The second level: willing to spend time for children.
The third level: parents begin to think about the goal of education.
The fourth level: parents improve and improve themselves in order to educate their children.
The fifth level: Parents do their best to support and encourage their children to become their best selves, and also to lead by example to support their children to become their true selves.
The importance of homeschooling is unquestionable. But the role of teachers is also very important, how can teachers, parents, and children cooperate to achieve better educational results?
The following 33 iron laws tell you!
Teachers, parents, and children must know the 33 iron laws of education in China!
1. The main factor affecting children's performance is not school, but family.
2. If there is a problem with family education, the child may have a hard time in school, and the child is likely to become a "problem child" in the school.
3, good grades of children, the mother is usually a planned and neat person. The more serious, organized, and polite the father, the better the child's grades.
4. Poverty is an important educational resource, but the poorer it is, the more conducive it is to the growth of children. Parents need to provide basic cultural information for their children and not let their children fall into the abyss of inferiority.
5) Affluence is another higher educational resource, and the experience of Westerners is: "It takes three generations to cultivate an aristocrat." "Classes are inherited." However, higher educational resources require higher educational skills, and without higher educational skills, wealthy families will bring disasters to the growth of their children.
6, do not be a knowledgeable and uncultured parents. Some people have high education, but not necessarily culture. If a parent does not know how to live, does not know how to treat others well, and does not even know how to treat his children well, no matter how high his academic level is, he is also an uneducated person.
7, parents can take their children as the center of the world, but do not forget that parents also have to live an independent life. If parents revolve completely around their children and do not have their own themes in life, such parents will often interfere with their children's growth in the name of love. Sometimes, it is not that children are inseparable from their parents, but that parents are inseparable from their children.
8, parents need to take on the responsibility of educating their children, but do not completely cancel their leisure life because of educating their children. "There is no sense of responsibility to hurt others, too much sense of responsibility to hurt yourself." (Wu Jiaxiang)
9, if the child cries and the parents quickly pick up the child, then the child will use this characteristic of the parents to often pestering the parents and putting forward more requirements. Therefore, the child is crying, do not rush to pick up the child, parents are better to let themselves have something to do, let the child watch their own movements and do things sharply.
10. The relationship between husband and wife affects the child's personality. If a man does not respect his wife, then his son learns not to respect his female classmates at school. If a woman does not respect her husband, then her daughter learns to look down on her male classmates at school.
11. Education is to cultivate people's spiritual appearance. The mission of parents and teachers is to let children gradually take responsibility for their own spiritual appearance, remove all kinds of impurities that may be contaminated, and cultivate spiritual "seeds" on people, so that people can breathe alpine air and people can raise their eyebrows.
12) Cultivated parents are "Voltaires" who "disagree with you, but I swear to defend your right to speak to the death." They began to reason with the child from the day they were born, patiently soliciting the child's opinion. Don't expect scolding your child to teach your child to obey. The result of killing chickens for monkeys is that monkeys also learn to kill chickens.
13, let the child become both passionate and rational people. "Without passion, no great deed can start well, and without reason, no feat can end well."
14, let your child become a cultured person, educated from punctuality, queuing, not speaking loudly in public, not getting angry easily.
15, be kind. If your child is more generous, please don't laugh at his weakness. People who like to take advantage of small things often suffer big losses because they are hated by others. A person who is willing to suffer a small loss will take advantage of him in the future because he is liked.
16, the vitality of the body can bring about the vitality of the spirit. People in good health, sunny personality. People who are not in good health hesitate to do things, dodge and dodge, and talk and spit.
17, do not think that children from 1 to 6 years old is just the age of the body. If a parent spends his or her child's 1 to 6 years old with a grandparent, and waits until the child is 6 years old before the parents pick up the child back to elementary school, the child will either become a silent silencer or a lawless troublemaker in elementary school.
18, often do three things with children: one is to eat with children, the other is to invite children to repair toys, furniture or clothes, and occasionally invite children to help solve difficulties at work. The third is to tell stories to children and invite children to tell stories themselves.
19, if there is no special difficulty, parents are best to rush home every day to eat with their children. The family's shared values are established during the whole family's meal around a table.
20. Tell children stories and invite children to tell stories by themselves, so that children can establish reading and writing habits from listening to stories, so that children can learn to read independently as soon as possible and develop lifelong reading habits as soon as possible. "As long as people are still reading, they will not be completely degenerate, and those who are completely degenerate will not read." Parents who never tell stories to their children are irresponsible parents.
21, there are three key periods in the growth of children: the first is around the age of 3, the second is around the age of 9, and the third is around the age of 13. If you miss the critical period of growth, the consequences are endless.
22, not "thirty and standing", but "three years old and standing". Around the age of three, children must build the courage and habits of self-sufficiency. Whatever you can do, you must do yourself, and whatever you should do, do your best.
23 If your child likes Frost's verse when he is 13 years old: "Two roads fork in the woods, I choose the one with fewer people", this is normal, don't worry, he may choose the one with more people in the future.
24, people's lives are full of a lot of crushes. If your child has a crush on someone of the opposite sex, don't laugh at him. "Crush is the most beautiful love in the world." (Socratic)
25, parents to their children to reason is necessary, but to the children around the age of 13 to reason, pay attention to their own speech posture, posture is more important than reason. Otherwise, the child will be disgusted and resist. Children will say: What you say is right, but the way you speak is annoying.
26, the secret of the heart is a sign of human growth and maturity. If your child has something on his mind and he doesn't want to tell you, then don't force your child to tell his secret.
27, before the child is 3 years old, it is best to have a laissez-faire parent by his side. Around the age of 9, it is best to have an active and authoritative parent by his side. Around the age of 13, it is best to have a passive democratic parent around him. Effective education is strict before loosening, and ineffective education is first loose and then strict.
28, you must pay attention to your child's academic performance, but do not care too much about his ranking. Instead, we need to be wary of children who always come first in their academic performance. Some children have good academic performance and good personality, and some children have good academic performance, but their personality is selfish, lacks compassion, and has no interest in life.
29, must let your child learn to interact with others and happily accept small partners. "If parents are dissatisfied with their neighbors, are very picky about their children's friends, or do not let their children make friends with them, so that children feel as if they are very different from others, then it will be difficult for these children to grow up with anyone naturally."
30, the child's growth needs a companion, let the child have his own friends, but do not have too messy partners, before the child does not form a mature rationality and judgment, be wary of the child's bad habits of contaminating the companion.
31, let your child establish a healthy aesthetic as soon as possible. Men who are productive will love healthy women. Don't let your child's aesthetic fall into a low-grade, morbid state. Don't think that the small, sick, is good. Don't think that what is strong is all bad. Don't think that little sparrows, little sheep, and puppies are all cute, and don't think that lions, tigers, and wolves are all bad. Do not think that the jackals are all man-eaters, and the jackals only eat weaker than him.
32. "The Catcher in the Rye" contributed a word to the world: Watchman. Education is not a matter of management, nor is it irrelevant. Between the tube and the no matter, there is a word called "watch."
33, tell your children: children who listen carefully to lectures occasionally have good grades, and children who study seriously and self-study will always have good grades!
These 33 classic sentences of family education run through a child's life!