"Father's love is like a mountain", fathers often give their children a magnificent and thick image. The image of the father in the family style and family rules is essentially a problem of family moral education, children's moral development, and intergenerational inheritance of family style.
However, in real life, we often see that the father image is prone to three prominent problems: lack of image, unstable image, and poor image.
Missing image – Reflects the lack of a father's educational role. For example, some people say that children are falling into the era of lack of paternality, "Chinese-style family = missing father + anxious mother + out-of-control child" Many parents think that the male protagonist is outside and the female protagonist is busy with his own career and does not invest enough in the education of his children.
Unstable image - reflects the problem of a weak foundation of parent-child relationship. As a father, he beats and scolds, but the child cannot listen.
Poor image – reflects the lack of scientific moral education. Some people say, "No matter how good the fork is, it can't scoop the soup", "A good father is equivalent to a passing mother". Some fathers feel that they can't manage and manage their children's education well, and indeed some donkeys are poor.
How can a father do a good job in educating his child's moral conduct and establish a good image in the family style and family rules?
In this lecture, Ren Zhen interpreted the important role of fathers in family life and education from the perspective of fathers, so that fathers can understand and realize that family education and learning cannot be just a matter for children and mothers; they realize that their words and deeds and every move will be an important example for their children; and they realize that the establishment of children's future personality and the formation of world outlook, outlook on life, and values have a great relationship with their own words and deeds.
After the opening of ren dad's class, everyone carried out "self-evaluation" and "other evaluation", viewing and self-examination from the perspective of dad himself, comparing with the same layer from the perspective of mom, capturing and engraving from the perspective of children, thinking rationally from the perspective of teachers, praising dad in the descriptive evaluation of graphic style, encouraging dad in dialogue process evaluation, and helping dad in analytical comprehensive evaluation.
This time, "Dad's School" is not only a learning activity, but also a communication platform for family members and a cooperation opportunity for home-school co-education.
Dads evaluate themselves from an internal perspective.
After the lecture, a number of questionnaires were distributed for dads to fill out.
From the feedback of dads, it can be seen that through this lecture, dads realize the importance of companionship and interaction for their children.
"As fathers, we must first practice what we preach and be consistent with our words and deeds; as fathers, we must have the courage to take responsibility and be good at handling things; as fathers, we must be proactive and effective companions; as fathers, we must respect the old and love the young, and live a harmonious family." A father said.
The children depict the father in their hearts from the picture:
Dad is the one you ride on your shoulder and look at the scenery;
Daddy is the one who rubbed your face with stubble affection;
Dad is the one who paints a happy childhood for you with love,
He watched you grow into his pride,
What you are left with is always the love behind you. “
The teachers also described what they expected the father of the child to look like.
Teacher Han Yanwen said: "Some psychologists have pointed out that before the child is 12 years old, he often regards his father as his idol. In family education, the father is the child's role model, and the father's pattern often determines the height that the child can reach in the future; the child who grows up in the father's love has a strong sense of security, self-confidence and sunshine, dare to try, and often has a higher upper limit. “
Teacher Han hopes that all fathers can walk more into their children's education, establish a close and harmonious parent-child relationship with their children, and correctly guide their children's growth. Only the love of father and mother is equal in family education, and the growth of children is the best.
"Many people have an experience as teenagers, where they come home after crazy play outside and see their father like they do to the police. In fact, the father may not say anything, just do his own thing there, and the child still feels his majesty. This psychological experience shows that father means rules and supervision, authority and trustworthiness, so that the father's place in family education is irreplaceable. >
Teacher Jin Xiaoqin said.
Source: Thoughtful Shanghai