preface:
John. Dunn: "No one in this world is an island. ”
I believe that every adult has such an experience, and there will always be some things in life that we can't solve on our own.
If you ask for help from others, you can solve a problem quickly, but we are always embarrassed to open our mouths.
So I will take the initiative to seek help from others, and then I will suffer all this silently or choose to give up.
In fact, this kind of person is very common in life, and maybe we are like this.
This kind of person often has an avoidant personality psychologically, which in my opinion is a very dangerous personality.
In life, such people often show great inferiority and are more sensitive to things.
Because of the fear of frustration and loss, I never dare to try new challenges.
We need to know that if we want to be close to a person, we must constantly approach each other and not alienate.
Each of us is a social animal, and in society, it is inevitable to deal with the people around us.
Thus generating their own circle of communication and network, you can get help in life.
But there are often some people who have little to do with society and are alone every day.
Because what they are most afraid of is to trouble others, and they only want to live alone in the world.
Such people are actually very unhealthy in their hearts, and they are very indifferent to everyone they treat.
I don't have much interest in the things around me, and I only feel most comfortable in habitually being in my own small circle.
1. Negative interaction with the people around you, unable to achieve true friendship
This effect is very obvious to us personally,
Individuals with leaf-shaped personalities are often in their own world, unwilling to be exposed to new things around them.
In fact, getting along with the people around you will also have a negative state, often holding a kind of distrust psychology and thoughts.
Therefore, if you are not happy in this way, you will also make the people around you feel cold and negative.
In fact, we all know that true friendship is to express your heart directly without pretending.
We can feel it in every action, two parallel lines that can be completely disconnected.
People who like to socialize with people and are solitary are really easy to identify.
This kind of negative fear of troublesome people facing friendship will find themselves without real friends.
2. It is difficult to integrate into society
People with alienated personalities often don't like to trouble others.
There is no way to have a common intersection with the people around you, and you will be out of place with this society.
Usually our society is a huge group, and when we want to stay away, we will have our own opinions to avoid it.
But such a life can also feel very unhappy in our hearts.
All we have is a shell, and we can say that there is no color at all in daily life.
3. The accumulated depression makes you more and more confused
Unwilling to trouble the people around them, they are often more introverted and unable to express their inner emotions.
When they encounter unhappy things, they often do not talk to the people around them and will only put themselves in their hearts to sulk.
Over time, you become very depressed. It will also immerse yourself in this kind of pain for a long time and cannot get out.
Slowly, the heart will become more and more confused and the emotions will become more and more negative.
This will lead to our increasing decadence.
In fact, the management of words and deeds by such people is not limited by subjective consciousness, so it is difficult to express their true inner thoughts.
Long-term negative emotional backlog will cause a vicious squeeze of emotions,
Thus it is easier to concentrate on a flashpoint and then erupt at any time.
Therefore, this kind of person will have a very obvious personality if it does not change in time.
Conclusion:
"Force to rest and bear the burden, words are not light to persuade people" means that we people should do what we can.
Form also needs to be measured.
Although there are many people in life who are embarrassed to reject others. I'm not embarrassed to bother others.
But they have great tolerance for them, so from a psychological point of view it is actually a dangerous personality that we have to be careful of.
Healthy relationships often arise from your comings and goings, and the mutual help between friends.
Therefore, choose to close your emotional needs, and over time you will become lonely and indifferent.
We can try to open our hearts to let the people around us know ourselves, so that we will all become happy in the rest of our lives.
END.
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Is it dangerous to dare not trouble others and reject others?
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References | Journal of personality and social psychology