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Psychologist Wei Elket said: "No matter what a person's living environment is, parents need to give their children two things – roots and wings. ”
In a money-first environment, many parents are blinded by money. Whether it is teaching children to read or developing hobbies, it must be linked to making money, otherwise it will lose its direction.
Will make money, seems to be the capital that everyone shows off. Some parents believe that if they cannot become the children of the rich, they will become the ancestors of the rich.
As everyone knows, things other than money abound, and they are even more precious.
Understand that truly far-sighted parents will not force their children to make money desperately, but have the following 4 skills.
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First, the ability to learn for life.
An actor once said, "If you're talented, you have to work 100 percent." ”
Studying hard is the best way to change your destiny.
For a while, the video posted by Nanjing girl Miumiu caught fire on the Internet. Someone said: "In this age of bad news every day, this 6-year-old stole my heart." ”
Clear singing, a person can fiddle with several instruments, good at guitar playing and singing, superior skills, people admire.
In this era when Internet celebrities can be exploded at any time, Miumiu's parents can completely treat her as a cash cow and earn ten thousand yuan a month at every turn. However, the parents did not do this, but said very sincerely: "Music is just a skill." ”
After that, Miumiu's life, as usual, insisted on practicing every day, studying hard, and not being proud of the pursuit of others.
Similarly, Ding Zhen, a Tibetan Internet celebrity, did not float up because of his popularity. After having a job, he frankly said: "Work is to continue to learn, learn Chinese, and write." ”
We always think that if our children have excellent grades in school and go to society in the future, they will be able to make money with peace of mind.
Ma Yun once said: "I have been learning, never stopped, society is the best university." ”
Parents with foresight will definitely let their children continue to learn, cultivate correct values from an early age, and continue to work hard when they grow up, keep up with the development of the times, and be a person who advocates knowledge.
Only those who have great wisdom can find more ways of development and survive the trough of life.
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Second, the ability to network people.
Hu Shi said: "Lions and tigers are always alone, only foxes and dogs are in groups. ”
For the words of the ancestors, it is really impossible to understand one-sidedly.
Solitude is an ability, but not a blind refusal to be gregarious.
Some parents instill in their children the idea of "don't believe anyone" from an early age. Children who go to visit the door, play with friends, and play games with partners are all interfered with by their parents.
Society is sinister, but we must believe it – there are still many good people.
Rely on parents at home, rely on friends when going out. One more friend always has more strength to move forward.
Telling children about social methods is more important than preventing children from participating in social practice. One day, the child will grow up and face everything independently. The protection of parents is not eternal.
First, tell the child to "burn incense in a cold temple." Don't underestimate anyone, including beggars on the street. As the saying goes, "Three days of farewell, when you are impressed." "Who knows, those who are not out of the ordinary now will not be big bosses in the future, masters in the workplace."
Without a sense of difference in making friends, they will take the initiative to help the weak, stimulate the goodness of human nature, form positive social energy, and expand the network invisibly.
Second, tell the child that the heart of harming others must not be there, and the heart of preventing people must not be without. Anyone has two sides and cannot be fooled by his appearance. People should be frank and frank, do not harm anyone, do not blindly trust others, even relatives and friends, should also use a "neutral" attitude to observe and think.
Third, tell the child that the grace of dripping water is repaid by the spring. Human feelings are also "courtesy exchanges". A person who does not understand gratitude will not have a true friend. Remember the goodness of others, do not let the well-wishers chill, and your own heart will become gentle.
Fourth, tell the child, "If you are a threesome, you will have my teacher." To be a humble person is to become a king, like the sea, to accommodate the flow of water in all directions, and thus become majestic.
Entrepreneur Chen Anzhi said: "Successful people, the quality and quantity of accumulated knowledge and contacts. ”
Good connections, like wings, can fly a ride even if you can't take a person to the end. The road of life, that is, a journey after a journey.
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Third, the ability to manage marriage.
The truth that "husband and wife are in the same heart, and their profits are broken" will never change.
Without a good marriage, there is no good ending. No matter how capable you are, as long as the marriage fails, life will collapse in half.
Rich people like Bill Gates, because of divorce, will also bring trouble to life, and wealth will also suffer losses.
Whether the marriage is good or not, from the day they met, there are signs.
A good marriage is more than a wing, not who climbs high. Those who regard marriage as a "cash cow" will be looked down upon; those who rely on beauty to seduce the rich will be rejected when their beauty is lost.
Tell your child how good you are, you will meet the same excellent people; it is better to change each other than to change yourself.
With a lifetime of time, single-mindedly love a person, no matter how difficult the road ahead is, there is always a person around, who is accompanying and cheering. This is the truth that cannot be bought with money.
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Fourth, the ability to inherit the family style.
In the "Zhu Zi Family Training", it is written: "A porridge and a meal are not easy to think about; half a silk and half a wisp, and it is difficult to constantly think of material resources." It is advisable to prepare for the rain and dig a well without thirst. ”
A good family must have a good family style. From a meal and a dish, to reading to earn money, settling down, loyalty and filial piety, all reflect the future of the family.
No matter how strong a generation is, if there is a loser, the whole family will suffer.
No matter who it is, as long as they make money with bad conscience and do illegal things, they are doomed to become poor, or even leave a stink for thousands of years.
It is the duty of parents to pass on good family style to their children, help their children improve their moral quality, and respect laws and regulations. The child's own quality is a huge asset.
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Conclusion.
The pattern of parents, the outcome of the child.
What separates children from each other is not money, but the pattern of parents; what makes children lose at the starting line is not only bad academic performance, but also immoral behavior; children who lose life are not not working hard, but from the beginning, they are in the wrong direction.
The first step a child takes is helped by his parents; the child's first sentence is taught by his parents... Forcing children to fight is not the same as forcing children to make money, but passing on the beauty of the world.
As the philosopher Karl said, "A tree shakes another tree, a cloud pushes another cloud, and a soul awakens another soul." ”
The love of parents is the most precious baton.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.