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There is a cousin, the husband is in business, the business is doing well, she is a full-time wife, at home with their only son.
This is a standard "male outside, female inside" family, the middle class, food and clothing, in the eyes of many people belong to the kind of happiness bubbling.
But I know that their children have broken their hearts in the past few years.
Originally, the little nephew was smart and cute from childhood, how to grow up more and more disobedient, not only the results are getting worse and worse, but also the personality is more and more rebellious, arguing with his mother at every turn, and sometimes even threatening to run away from home.
They often asked me for advice on what was wrong.
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In fact, I know that the roots are still in their family education.
My cousin is at home and the biggest thing is to take the kids.
When the mother is always careful, the child's food, clothing, shelter and transportation are all contracted by her alone, never use the child to intervene, afraid that the child will not do well.
Therefore, children have developed the habit of clothes to reach out and eat from an early age, and what requirements are often met.
Even if the child occasionally has excessive demands and behaviors, the cousin only criticizes a few words on the lips, and it does not take long to start to soften his heart and change the law to compensate the child.
But little child, the more you get used to him, the more he will become more intense, a little unhappy, he will play a small temper, and even speak ill to his mother.
The brother-in-law is a bit macho, has not much time to go home, and completely gives up on the education of his children, and does not care about anything.
To put it mildly, the brother-in-law is only a cash machine role for the child, and there is little emotional communication with the child, let alone understanding the child's inner world.
Now if you want to manage your children, you can't feel like you can start.
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Educating a child is not to help him do things, not to earn money for him, but to accompany him to grow up and put his life on the right track.
And in this process, we can't overstep our bounds, nor can we stand idly by, don't be a mother who does everything, and don't do a father who doesn't care about anything.
Otherwise, we may seem to be working very hard, but we are actually helping our children.
Source: New Parents Online