Just saw a post, saying that a mother has a second child, because there is no good communication to choose to follow the mother's surname, causing the in-laws to be angry, saying that the child can not help to bring, the family property can not give the child with the mother's surname inheritance problem. And because the woman's parents are giving birth to daughters, they have no motivation to struggle and save, and they have no family property. If the relationship has not eased, it is likely that the two children will start from a completely different starting point in the future.
There are many replies, and some say that the woman must take advantage of both ends of the cheap, and if she does not take advantage of it, she feels that she will suffer losses. Some people think that the in-laws are too small, the vision is too shallow, and it is normal for two children to have their surnames separated. Some people feel that their husbands are not kind, they do not do a good job of communication between the bridges, they do not want to offend their wives and cannot get their parents, so that the family members turn on their horses.
However, if you want to open some, the children are decided by the parents. As for the property of the previous generation, it is a sentiment to give, it is not wrong not to give, and it is also a voluntary act of the elders to give to whom, and it is not good to force it. Through their own struggles, parents can change the possible unequal treatment of two children!
As for girls, if there is an idea to change the traditional concept, such as sterile dink, such as children to follow the mother's surname, it is best to say clearly before marriage, so that the man's parents can clearly understand that consumption is the best. Can't chew on the old, parents buy houses and cars, but also work hard to help with children, and finally let the son enjoy the treatment of son-in-law, that will indeed produce contradictions.
And from the overall situation, two children with the same surname, more brothers and sisters of identity, but also easy for elders and outsiders to accept. If there is no special reason, I think it is better to have two children with the same surname. As for the same father's surname or the same mother's surname, say well in advance, either marry or recruit a son-in-law, clearly distinguish, everyone has a psychological expectation.
I don't know if you are in favor of the marriage model, did not say it in advance, and let the second treasure follow the mother's surname? Welcome to comment on the message, like and forward, remember to follow me, thank you!