In life, all kinds of people live a different life.
How well a person lives is not only related to his mentality and cognition, but also inseparable from his level.
The higher the level of people, the more they can do these points, the more wonderful life.
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The higher the level of people, the less face they have.
All along, people firmly believe that "people fight for a breath, Buddhas fight for incense", and even flaunt that face is dignity.
From inviting guests to dinner, to marriage, face has always been a problem that many people can't avoid.
Someone once said: "Face is the most difficult to put down, and it is the most useless thing." ”
People at a high level do not want face, but know when to put their face down.
People at a low level can't put down their faces and can't stand cold eyes, while people at a high level have already learned not to have face.
The lower the level of people, the better the face, the better the face of the people, the worse life.
Maupassant's novel The Necklace tells such a story.
The heroine Mathilde is the wife of an ordinary civil servant, and in order to attend a party, she borrows a necklace from her rich girlfriend to set off her beauty.
Unexpectedly, the necklace was accidentally lost on the way home, and she had to buy a new necklace to return to her friends.
In order to pay off the debt, she began to tighten her clothes and food, and gave others short-term work, and worked hard for 10 years.
It wasn't until the end that she realized that what she had borrowed was nothing more than a fake necklace.
Just for a little facelessness, she lost ten years of her youth.
Folding the inside for the sake of face, ruining the day for the sake of face, and putting up shelves for the sake of showing off, but it is undoubtedly a disaster.
Face is a test of life, too much care about other people's opinions, will lose the opportunity, do not know how to refuse, it is difficult to achieve great things.
Xiang Yu, the king of Western Chu, a generation of tyrants, was defeated, and obviously there was a possibility of a comeback, but he lamented that he had no face to see Jiangdong's father and elder, and finally Wujiang killed himself, which made the world sigh.
People live for a lifetime, can bend and stretch is the big husband, know the advance and know the retreat is the smart person.
Stay in the green mountains, not afraid of no firewood, sometimes, put down the bottom, in order to live more face.
In 498 BC, Wu Wang Fuchai led an army to defeat the Yue kingdom, and the Yue king Gou Jian was escorted to the Wu state as a slave.
After serving King Wu for three years, Fu Cha removed his guard against him and sent him back to the Kingdom of Yue.
Gou Jian did not give up his desire for revenge, he ostensibly obeyed the King of Wu, but secretly trained elite soldiers, strengthened the government and ruled, and waited for the opportunity to counterattack the State of Wu.
He was afraid that he would covet the comfort in front of him and consume the will to avenge the shame.
Therefore, I did not use a mattress to sleep at night, only laid some firewood, and hung a bitter gall in the house, and tasted the taste of bitter bile from time to time, in order not to forget the shame of the past.
Gou Jian was defeated and captured in the war and did not feel ashamed, but put down his dignity, pretended to surrender to the enemy, lay down his salary and tasted courage for twenty years, and finally found the right time to destroy the Wu kingdom, wash away the shame, and became famous in the First World War.
People who can really achieve great things have already quit "face".
Because they all understand that what makes them live with dignity is not "face", but "Lizi".
Someone said, "When you put down your face and make money, it means that you have understood things." When you use money to earn back face, it means that you have succeeded. When you make money with face, it means that you are already a character. ”
When you are still stuck in the so-called face that you don't know how to pretend to understand, it means that you have been like this in your life.
The ancients said: "Like people drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge." ”
Face is for others to see, dispensable, and whether life is good or not, only you know.
Putting down your face and working hard to live is the most important thing to do.
Learn to let go of unnecessary face, life will be much more exciting.
02
The higher the level of people, the larger the pattern, the less they care about the temporary gains and losses.
There was a very clever monkey, and people put it in an iron cage. For two consecutive days, people don't feed monkeys. On the third day, someone brought the monkey a bunch of bananas, placed them far away from the monkeys, and took a long bamboo pole with an iron hook on the top and placed it outside the cage within the monkey's reach.
But the hungry monkey never ate a banana. The reason was that the monkey was too hungry to eat the bunch of bananas, and he wholeheartedly extended his arms to grab the bananas, not noticing that there was a bamboo pole next to him that he could use.
If you care too much about one thing, you tend to make mistakes. When we want to be promoted too much; when we want to succeed and get rich too much, even when we want to fall in love with someone too much, we become trembling.
When we are too concerned about the momentary gains and losses, allowing ourselves to desperately drill into the tip of the bull's horn, or sinking into the mud in a mess, we may as well calm down and think about the monkey. It could have eaten the bunch of bananas.
Some people, a little frustration or feel a little loss, began to be frustrated and chagrin, this is the performance of short-sightedness, the heart is getting more and more dry, the road of life will become narrower and narrower.
And people with big patterns in mind will not be bothered by the problems in front of them. When a person does not care about the immediate gains and losses, he can concentrate on continuing to rush the road and achieve great things.
Not long ago, Fan Zhendong won the World Table Tennis Championship for the first time, a championship that was not easy to come by, stemming from his optimism in the face of temporary setbacks.
In 2017, at the third World Table Tennis Championships, which was his closest to the championship, he fought hard and still lost to Malone, frustrated after the interview.
In 2019, I thought I could regain my confidence on the field. However, in the fourth World Table Tennis Championships, because of the rush to achieve, the mentality is not very good, stopping in the round of 16.
At this point, the entire competition career has reached the bottom, and the inner suffering and frustration can be imagined.
However, he did not falter, but was fully tempered from technology, courage and mentality.
Finally, after two years, he returned to the peak from the bottom of the valley, realized the counterattack of life, and also became the leader of national table tennis.
The two semicircles of gain and loss are like those in life, and only by piecing them together is a complete life.
Life goes up and down, life has gains and losses. No one's life can always be gained, and no one's life will only be blindly lost.
We are often complacent about having, sullen for loss, in fact, when we are in a hurry to complete, the more we care too much about gains and losses, then the great pressure and fear will bind your hands and feet, and you will be farther and farther away from your goals.
Everyone in the world is in the midst of impermanent changes in causes and conditions, and neither obedience nor honor nor disgrace will last long, so we don't have to worry too much about temporary gains and losses.
You may wish to look farther, gain and loss a little, fame and fortune lightly, so that life is full of indifferent tranquility and calmness, you will certainly be able to achieve the realm of "where the water is poor to rise from the clouds, next to the dangerous cliff to find a smooth road".
The higher the level, the more they know how to use causality to look at problems. You don't have to be happy to get what you get, and you don't have to regret what you lose. Temporarily lost, the future may be gained; lost in this regard, or may be gained in other ways.
When we face the misfortunes and changes in life, maintaining inner balance and peace, and finding ways to win the turnaround is the great wisdom of life.
When a person is no longer obsessed with the gains and losses in front of him, but takes a long-term view, the happiness and satisfaction of life will be improved, and the road of life can become wider and wider.
03
The higher the level of people, the more able to adhere to integrity.
Zi Yue: "Man has no faith, and he does not know what he can do." ”
This means that if a person is not trustworthy, he does not know what else he can do.
Honesty is a precious character and the foundation of life.
The Northern Song Dynasty poet Yan Shu was known for his honesty.
When he was fourteen years old, he was recommended to the emperor as a child prodigy. The emperor summoned him and asked him to take the exam at the same time as more than a thousand jinshi. As a result, Yan Shu found that the exam had just been practiced ten days ago, so he truthfully reported to Zhenzong and requested to change the other questions. Emperor Zhenzong of Song greatly appreciated Yan Shu's honesty and gave him the title of "Tongjin Scholar".
When Yan Shu was in office, the world was at peace. Officials of all sizes in the capital often went to the outskirts of the city or held various banquets in the city's restaurants and teahouses. Yan Shu's family was poor and had no money to go out to eat, drink and have fun, so he had to read and write articles at home with his brothers.
One day, Emperor Zhenzong promoted Yan Shu to the position of an eastern palace official who assisted the crown prince in his studies. The ministers were astonished.
Zhenzong said: "Recently, the courtiers often played and feasted, and only Yan Shu studied behind closed doors, so he was so self-respecting and cautious, which was the right person for the Eastern Palace official. ”
Yan Shu Xie En said: "I am actually a person who likes to play and drink, but my family is poor. If I had money, I would have participated in the feast a long time ago. ”
These two events made Yan Shu establish credibility in front of the group of courtiers, and Song Zhenzong trusted him even more.
But there are always some people in the world who are self-righteous, seem to be very smart, they are used to opportunism, get something for nothing, face a set, a set behind the scenes, play a little clever. In fact, in the end, it is difficult for these people to really get the real trust of others, not many people are willing to get along with them, for a long time, most of them move stones and drop their feet, and block their own back roads.
As a person, we must not lose faith in others.
Once you lose your faith, you will lose your heart and good luck.
Sincerity to cultivate morality, faith to stand up.
I have seen the story of Su Shi and the ChaoGu, the intersection of life and death.
Su Shi and his friend Chao Gu befriended young people, and the two were fellow countrymen. When Su Shi was an official, Chaogu retreated and avoided it; after Su Shi was demoted to Huangzhou, Chaogu helped Su Shi cultivate the land and build a house, and became a private school teacher for children on Dongpo.
The friendship of a gentleman, because of the promise of friendship between young friends, lasted a lifetime. When Chaogu learned that Su Shi's brothers were far away from Linghai, although they were 73 years old, they still went from Sichuan to Lingwai and insisted on visiting Su Shi.
On the way back from the north, Su Shi listened to this news and was sad and wept bitterly.
Just as the so-called: honesty to people, people do not deceive me; honesty in things, everything can not be accomplished.
Integrity is the key to doing things, integrity is the premise of success.
In this life, people have no integrity, it is difficult to stand on their feet, they lose their integrity, and it is difficult to move forward.
Only by stressing integrity and keeping good faith can we meet noble people, get help, achieve success, and harvest success.
Only by paying attention to integrity can a person gain the trust of others and bring good connections to himself. Do business, be supported, do business, be able to cooperate, encounter difficulties, and have someone to help.
Honest people, out of the mud and not stained, near the ink is still innocent, good luck naturally finds up.
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