Jin Yong wrote in the novel "Chivalrous Travel": "The heavens and the earth are rivers and lakes in all directions, and the people of the world are smart and confused. Vanity Fair is full of storms, and winning turns out to be losing. ”
The rivers and lakes are disturbed, some for fame and fortune, some for winning or losing.
But losers don't lose forever, and winners don't always win.
Truly intelligent people are not like temporary wins and losses.
Dashing and casual walking in the world, rare and confused in the face of small things, regardless of gains and losses, in the face of big things, do not panic and do not mess up and take seriously, this is the real smart person.
01
Don't think of yourself as superior
Smart people always have a fast brain, more than the average person will know more, which makes him think that he knows everything.
Smart people firmly believe that "I am born to be useful", they continue to work hard, continue to climb upwards, when they get a little achievement, they feel that they are very strong, they regard themselves as superior. For those around them who do not try to react slowly, they will start to reject them from the heart, disdain and ridicule them.
But there are people outside the people, and there is a sky outside the sky. When you are proud and complacent because of that achievement, think highly of yourself, and pretend to be smart, you become a clown in the eyes of others.
What is rare for people is to recognize themselves and recognize reality.
Is Washu smart? Very clever. But his cleverness was used to gain power and greed for money.
He yan was promoted from an errand official all the way to the hubu waiter and military aircraft minister, and the official to the university scholar of the temple of literature, and was given the title of first class duke.
It can be seen that Hezhen is very talented, of course, offering flattery and greeting is the most talented of Hezhen.
He Yan, who was an official in the dynasty, played with power and treachery, and Qu Yifeng flattered the Qianlong Emperor and became a red man in front of the imperial court. It was by relying on a mouth that Hezhen began to collect money and promote officials.
Shortly after the death of the Qianlong Emperor, Hezhen was imprisoned by the Jiaqing Emperor. The 22 counts were smashed on hezhen's head. The confiscated family property amounted to 800 million taels, which was equal to the income of the imperial court for one year.
The organs calculated too cleverly, but they mistook Qingqing's life. The huge amount of money that was obtained by the clever words of the country and the people was eventually paid into the national treasury.
"A hundred years was originally a dream, thirty years of wasted labor", he was imprisoned and finally understood his great talent of "using power for personal gain" and misunderstood himself, but he deserved it and was not wronged at all.
Franklin said, "A treasure that is misplaced is waste."
What is rare for people is to recognize themselves clearly, not to be clever and self-righteous. Otherwise, even the most intelligent people do not take the right path, and they will become a scourge.
2
Don't go it alone
A particularly intelligent man, he was easily isolated from an early age.
Smart people think fast, it is easy to be impatient with people whose brains are slow, people are grouped, things are clustered, and over time, they only interact with other smart people.
If this is the case in the long run, there will be fewer and fewer friends around you.
Humans, however, live in groups, not in solitude.
No matter how smart people are, you must learn to cooperate with people, not "flying wildly and alone".
When a wise person rejects the experience of others and cannot listen carefully to and accept the opinions of others, the consequences are unpredictable, but in the end, it is isolated and helpless, and it is like a siege of the city, keeping himself in captivity, and it is difficult to jump out.
If smart people want to be smarter, they must learn to listen to the opinions of others and learn to cooperate.
During the Northern Song Dynasty, there was a chancellor named Lü Duan, and there was a minister named Kou Zhun in the same dynasty as him.
Lü Duan never played tricks on insignificant matters, but in major state affairs, he was never confused.
At that time, Lü Duan was the prime minister and was deeply trusted by Song Taizong.
Lü Duan was worried that his high position of power would make Kou Zhun dissatisfied, and if the two lost peace because of this, the government of the dynasty would definitely be affected. Therefore, Lü Duan wrote to the emperor and asked Kou Zhun, who was serving as a counselor and governor, to take turns with him to hold the seal, the foreman to play the work, and the two of them went to the government affairs hall together to discuss things.
Lü Duan's move allowed Kou Zhun to quell his resentment and dissatisfaction with him.
Emperor Taizong of Song had demanded that the University of Korea be handed over to Lü Duan for handling in advance and then reported to him. However, Lü Duan never handled it himself, and when dealing with major matters, Lü Duan would call Kou Zhun to discuss and make decisions together, and never acted arbitrarily.
Lü Duan was very clever, and in order to ensure the stability of the dynasty, he cooperated with Kou Zhun, and the smart people had to be able to cooperate and consult.
Confucius said, "The threesome will have my teacher." ”
No one is perfect, we should learn to self-analyze and listen to the evaluation of others, which to a large extent allows us to improve ourselves and improve our self-quality.
Mature rice will bend over, and the smarter and better people are, the more they should be open to accepting the opinions of others.
No one is perfect, only in the process of continuous acceptance and continuous improvement will we grow step by step.
3
Don't be blindly confident
Smart people have a characteristic, that is, self-confidence, but if blind confidence, it is a disaster.
If you do not have a clear understanding of yourself, it is easy to fall into blind self-confidence and lose your self-positioning and forward direction.
Romain Rolland said, "Believe in yourself before others believe in you." ”
Indeed, in our lives, if we are self-pitying, sighing all day, feeling that we are terrible, and dare not stand up with our chests up and hold our heads high to believe in ourselves, then who will believe us?
But self-confidence is good, but you can't be overconfident.
Li Zicheng occupied Beijing and defeated the decaying And fallen Ming Dynasty, thinking that he was invincible in the world, but he was only emperor for 42 days, and he was defeated. It was his blind self-confidence that made his years of painstaking management burned to the ground.
"Guan Yu carelessly lost Jingzhou", in fact, Guan Yu was a light enemy and overconfident, which eventually led to the collapse of the entire army, and he was also captured, and eventually died with hatred.
During the Warring States period, Zhao Kuo, the son of the famous General Zhao Hao, was familiar with the art of war when he was young, but he never went to the battlefield. Later, in the Battle of Changping between the State of Zhao and the State of Qin, the State of Zhao rebelled against the plot and replaced the veteran general Lian Po with Zhao Kuo. However, Zhao Kuo, who had no combat experience, would only talk on paper and did not know how to change. The blindly confident Zhao Kuo felt that his plan was seamless and would be able to defeat the Qin army, but in the end, Zhao Kuo was besieged in Changping and eventually shot by the Qin army.
Blindly confident people are often reckless. I always feel that I know everything and can do everything, but in the end, I am smart and I am killed by smart.
In life, self-confidence is indispensable, but remember not to be blindly confident.
Don't be overly competitive
Smart people tend to forget the simplest fact: the strong have their own strong hands, and the mountain is higher than the mountain.
There are no perfect people in the world, you are the best in your field, does not mean that you can succeed in other fields.
Smart people should learn to control their desires, not to be led by desire, and not to be overwhelmed by competitiveness.
Competitiveness comes from the competitiveness, strength and weakness of the people around them, and unwillingness, so competitiveness is naturally born.
It is good to have a competitive spirit, but it cannot be exaggerated, and excessive competitiveness will ruin a person.
Huo Yuanjia had been obsessed with martial arts since he was a child, but his father did not want his son to become a martial artist, so he did not let Huo Yuanjia learn martial arts. However, Huo Yuanjia secretly learned the Huo family boxing technique with his playmate Nong Jinsun and also defeated the little bully, and since then Huo Yuanjia's confidence has doubled.
After that, Huo Yuanjia practiced a profound martial art with his understanding and enthusiasm for martial arts, and finally became a well-known martial artist in Tianjin. However, Huo Yuanjia, who was too fierce, became more and more competitive, his personality became impetuous and arrogant, and he was also more and more courageous and fierce.
When the apprentice was seriously injured by a master in Tianjin, Huo Yuanjia broke into the master's birthday feast without asking the reason and forced the master to sign a life and death certificate and beat him up. In the end, Huo Yuanjia won, but he lost the lives of the two people he loved most in his life, his mother and daughter. The big mistake has been made and cannot be recovered.
It was because of Huo Yuanjia's excessive competitiveness that he won the enemy and lost his relatives.
Don't be overly competitive, sometimes, take a step back from the sea and the sky, and consider whether you have the ability to do it, otherwise, the result is likely to be "total annihilation".
4
epilogue
Smart people must be normal and do things with people.
Truly intelligent people do not deliberately show their wisdom, nor do they use their hearts everywhere to seek benefits for themselves, they always choose to treat the world in small things without counting gains and losses, and are unambiguous in big things.
Smart people, rare to be confused!