Text/Flying Fish
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In the relationship, if a man wants to win a woman's heart, he must know how to pay, this kind of payment is not selfish, nor is it self-righteous, but knows how to respect each other, consider for each other, think from the perspective of the other party, know how to hurt her, maintain her, care for her, let her feel warm love, so that women will feel that men are worth relying on and entrusting.
Many times, if a woman does not feel love in her feelings, her heart will gradually cool, and when the disappointment is enough, she will choose to leave.
Sometimes, the man's harm to women is not that he is in love with others, but that he invisibly disappoints her in life, and gradually there is no word to say, and he does not feel the existence of the other party, and when she needs it, he does not appear, or even does not care, then the woman will be very disappointed, and thus want to end this relationship.
When a man gets a woman's heart, he must know how to be good to her, the best love, but these two words: heartache.
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A man who truly loves you will hurt you all.
Whether it is your past or the present, he does not mind, but will hurt you more, want to protect you, want to give you his best things, want to help you, give you the best love, let you see his goodness to you.
Men who do not know how to hurt you will only make you call, can't see your efforts in life, and then enjoy, don't understand the pain, won't care about you, and won't care about you, such a man, in fact, doesn't love you.
He is with you, even after marrying you, pushing all the housework for you to do, eating his own food to open his mouth, clothes to stretch out his hands, like treating you as a free babysitter, so that he does not know whether you will be tired.
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Thinking of the life between the second daughter and her husband in "The Lover Who Dated at Three O'clock in the Afternoon on Weekdays", in fact, the woman has been wronged, and even does not respect and care for her husband at all, and the husband will not hurt her at all, even her two daughters are in the eyes, thus helping the second daughter to say that her husband is wrong.
In the eyes of her husband, the second daughter is a housewife, except for the occasional time to take out a vase, the rest is to work as a nanny for this family at home.
The second daughter has to take care of the children, but also to do all the housework, when eating, the husband is not even bothered to pour coffee, and the wife, after eating, will not help clean up, nor do they take her seriously.
Therefore, the second daughter suffered all the grievances in this family and decided to leave.
After marriage, a man does not know how to hurt you, in fact, do not love you at all, you do more, he feels that it is taken for granted, but will not cherish you, in the face of such a man, feel too tired to get along, too unhappy, then let go, do not wronged yourself, learn to please yourself, live for yourself.
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And the man who really loves you will know how to hurt you.
He will see everything you do in his eyes, so that he loves you more, wants to be good to you more, and compensates you twice.
The man who really hurts you will see your troubles and needs, so that he will share and pay for you, will not make you so hard, and will not let you live so tired.
A man who loves you will hurt you.
When he knows that you have a hard time with your children and your body is thin, he will learn to boil soup to supplement your body.
When he knows you're too tired from work, he'll be willing to give you a pat on the back and let you relax.
When he knows that you have grievances in your heart, he will find a way to make you happy and make you quickly recover your good mood.
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In short, a man who loves you will cherish you in his eyes and will hurt you, while a man who does not love you will only ask and demand from you.
Men who love you will have you in their hearts, care about you, be attentive to your affairs, give you dependence and warmth, face you, are smiling, and speak softly to you.
The man who really loves you, hurts you, will also make changes for you, will not always make you pay, he will also pay for you, to help you.
The highest state of love is actually heartache. For you, he is willing to work hard, for you, he is willing to make some changes, for you, you can be open-minded.
In a woman's life, she will actually be very happy to meet a man who is distressed by herself.
Whether a woman is married to the right person is actually to see if she has found a man who knows how to hurt her.
True love is heartache. Will take care of you, give you comfort and dependence, shield you from the wind and rain, and will not let you down.
Many times, what keeps a woman is not how rich you are, or how good a material life you give her, but a man's meticulous care for her.
May you meet the person who poured out your efforts to heartache for the rest of your life, this is happiness!
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