The difference between Chinese, American and Korean children at the dinner table

Family education should focus on "indoctrination" rather than oral education. The failure of many Chinese family education is not that parents do not "speak", but that parents do not know how to "educate".

Chinese children at the dinner table

Chinese parents behave like waiters at the dinner table, and if there is an elderly person in the family, then the elderly are more like the waiters of the "Haidilao hot pot restaurant". We have seen many such scenes: the old man holds the bowl to the table with trembling hands and calls the child to eat over and over again; the parents chase the child with the bowl; the parents urge the child to eat more at the dinner table over and over again. However, Chinese children rarely have a grateful expression, and some are more impatient, feeling that these things are deserved. Chinese children have taken these things for granted, even insensitively.

Korean children at the dinner table

Korean parents behave like elders at the dinner table. The youngest child in the family, before each meal, must be busy serving rice to the people in the house in the order of old and young, and when it is finished, it must not squint, sit precariously, and respectfully say to the elders at the dinner table: "Thank you for giving me such a rich meal!" "Korean children have a grateful expression when they eat.

American kid at the dinner table

American parents act like friends at the dinner table. When the child can hold the spoon, the parents will no longer feed the child. What children like to eat, American parents only make suggestions, as to whether the child likes meat or vegetables in the end, American parents never care; how much food the child eats, parents are even more reluctant to care. Because in the eyes of American parents, the child has begun to take responsibility for himself, and he knows what he needs. As a result, American children exhibit an independent character when eating.

Family education focuses on "indoctrination", not oral education

The failure of many Chinese family education is not that parents do not "speak", but that parents do not know how to "educate".

Life behaviors such as eating are the most frequent and effective indoctrination of family education, however, many Chinese families are absent in these areas. I don't think Chinese children should eat like Korean or American children, but I would like to say that we must not ignore the indoctrination of life behavior such as the dinner table.

Korean families at the dinner table are educated through the atmosphere, so that children unconsciously understand gratitude; American families also educate children through habits at the dinner table, so that children unconsciously learn to be independent and take responsibility.

What many of our families lack at the dinner table is the "indoctrination" of their children. We only pay attention to whether the child is well fed at the dinner table. It is precisely this "indoctrination" that is sending a false signal to the child: because you are a child, we must serve you unconditionally. As a result, the child thinks it is natural for the parents to do so.

But we ignore that we could have told our children that we care for you, not only because you are a child, but also because we love you. More importantly, the love we give you is to let you know that you have to learn to give back to others, to learn to love others.

As a result, children under this kind of uneducated "indoctrination", when they grow up, in addition to thinking that their parents should do, their eyes are full of their parents' faults: they have not found a good job, it is their parents' fault; they do not have a house to live in, it is their parents' fault; they have not found a daughter-in-law, it is their parents' fault... When they grow up, they think about the various things their parents are not.

Many of us parents, precisely because of many life behaviors such as eating, have not accumulated to educate their children's gratitude, resulting in the seeds of gratitude and responsibility in their children's hearts. When he grows up and dictates to his parents, should we blame him or our unwise education?

No success can make up for the failure to educate children.

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