With the opening of the fertility policy, many families have entered the ranks of the second or third child, and a large number of people feel that a child is too lonely, or there is a good companion; there are also many people who think that having only one child is the best choice, after all, life pressure is so big now, one more child is more pressure. What will life be like for one-child families? Do you have any regrets? Perhaps we can find out from the population that chose to have only children 30 years ago.
Aunt Li of Shandong said: At that time, because of policy reasons, I chose to have only one child, and many people around me tried their best to have more children, but I felt that there was nothing wrong with having a child, and I could give him all the best and the best. My wife and I are both regular workers, the family conditions are OK, from the child is the best to eat and wear among the peers, we also attach great importance to his education.
In that cram school was not so popular in the era we signed him up for a variety of cram school interest classes, and he is also a very good child as we expected, now he has a successful career to settle outside, he is our pride, but also let us miss it, my wife and I live alone in our hometown, and the children only see once a year, looking at other people's homes lively, sometimes really regret not having another one.
Aunt Zhang in Hebei said: I am 60 years old this year, I only gave birth to a son and a child that year, we are an ordinary family, the conditions are not too good, last year my wife suddenly had a stroke, and I can only stay at home and do heavy work after I am good. I don't have much culture to go out to work and I can't make much money, and the burden of the family falls on my son alone. Watching him busy every day for his own small family and our old two, my heart is really not a taste, sometimes I think if I have one more child, it will be less stressful, but there is no regret medicine to eat, just bitter my son and daughter-in-law.
For families with only children, children will enjoy more love, parents can also reduce some of the pressure in parenting, if the husband and wife are better after aging, they have certain conditions to support their later life, but the fact that many people cannot reach such an ideal state of life, from the dictation of the two aunts, we can probably summarize the current situation of the family that chose the only child thirty years ago.
Probably everyone will be influenced by a kind of thinking from an early age, especially for people in small places, that is, "study hard, and go to university to work and live in a big city in the future." Many only-child families have all their energy on one child, and naturally the education of children will be more stringent. But once the children grow up and go to work in other cities, and finally get married and have children there, then the remaining two will be very lonely.
Loneliness is also the norm for couples in many one-child families, and they can't see their children several times a year, especially when it's dark when they look at other people's homes noisy and lively.
There is also the fact that for ordinary families, a child may save a lot of financial pressure, but when the husband and wife gradually grow old and gradually decline in health and have no financial resources and savings, a child will appear more stressful. Because he has to bear the responsibility of the family he has formed, but also to bear the pension problems of his parents, all kinds of pressures are pressed on a person to make him breathless, as a parent, he can only look anxious and uncomfortable, but he can't afford to share it for him.
If these two situations are still under the premise of filial piety of children, and they are still lamentable, then the next example makes people feel even more sad and helpless.
I have seen an aunt in her fifties crying helplessly that her son is not filial piety, and his wife has been working outside for many years, and he has wanted his son to help with some things at home, but he has nothing to do. The light in the home was broken, so the son came to change but waited for a week and did not see, can only pedal the stool to change, and then accidentally fell off the stool resulting in a leg fracture, during the hospitalization of the son did not come to visit, can only be alone with crutches action, nurses and people in the same ward often come to help, watching others in front of the bed children replace the service, their hearts are desperate.
It is true that not all the children of the only family are like this, but if they encounter such a situation where one child is not filial piety, then the couple's old age is really not very good, and once they are sick and need to be taken care of, they will regret that if they had one more child, would they not be unattended in front of the bed today?
Thirty years ago, the group of only families now have the deepest understanding, thirty years later there are countless only families on the road, of course, we can not judge the good or bad of the only family, there are a thousand Hamlets in the eyes of a thousand people, the same thousand families also have a thousand ways of living, just hope that everyone must seriously consider before making a choice, educate the child well, be prepared to accept everything, is the most critical.