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People of the older generation tell us that we rely on our parents at home and friends when we go out.
People are mixed in society, without three or five friends, there is no way to become a big instrument. Multiple friends, multiple roads, whether it is a friend who exchanges benefits, or a friend with a knife in two ribs, there is a companion after all.
Making friends is important, but few people tell you how to make friends. Inexplicably, you are friendly, but others are very cruel to you. The good you give to others is treated like a donkey liver lung.
When you're ostracized, don't blame yourself or turn your face to others. In fact, there is nothing wrong with everyone, but the way to get along is not very pleasant.
Learn the following three ways to please, others will definitely accept you, will also help you open up a new situation.
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First, learn to trouble others.
As a young man, Franklin opened a printing house and acquired a paperworks printing business for the Philadelphia State Legislature.
One congressman hated Franklin so much that he reprimanded him in public.
The clever Franklin, instead of blaming the legislators, found a way to reconcile. He came up with a way to please people—to trouble people.
First, Franklin learned something about the congressman and learned that he had a private library. After that, he wrote a letter saying that he wanted to borrow a book from the MPs, and the desire was very strong.
After reading the book, Franklin carefully wrote a thank-you note.
Because of borrowing and returning books, the congressman changed his attitude toward Franklin, and when they met, they would take the initiative to say hello, and the two became friends.
How to resolve the embarrassing situation? It's important to find a breakthrough. If there is no breakthrough, then create something troublesome, and after a few rounds of interaction, you can build a friendship.
There is a saying on the Internet: women are trouble, men naturally love trouble.
A lot of men, in order to pursue the woman they like, go out of their way to please and have enough patience.
Let's say a man drives to a woman's doorstep and asks her to eat. The woman put on makeup at home, grinding and rubbing for half an hour, and the man never left, but also smiled politely.
If you put the patience of love on social, then all the troubles will become a beautiful picture, and the more troubles, the deeper the feelings.
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Second, learn to compliment others.
"Everyone wants to be appreciated by others, and they are willing to do everything we can to do it, but no one wants to accept hypocrisy and flattery," Carnegie said. ”
Complimenting others is not a casual slap on the wrist, but an appropriate encouragement to others and finding the merits of others.
Let's say you have a holiday with your boss in the workplace. You can first understand what advantages the boss has, and then find an opportunity to take the initiative to consult the boss, so that the boss has the opportunity to show his strengths.
Everyone has something they're good at, and as long as they can be used for you, they can improve relationships.
Why do some units set up a special post for those who have the ability to recruit soldiers and horses? This is where the hero can be useful.
Proper compliments will make others experience the feeling of being valued and satisfy psychological needs.
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Third, learn to share with others.
In the Selected Novels of Ryunosuke Wasagawa, there is a philosophical story.
There was a great thief named Gandhartha who was sent to hell. He was in excruciating pain and struggled to leave.
Shakyamuni was playing by the lotus pond, and through the crevices of the lotus leaves, he saw a different Gandhartha— a spider crawling on the road and almost being stepped on by a passing Gandhara. At the crucial moment, Gandhara said silently, "Although this guy is small, he must be alive." It would be pitiful to let it die at will, no matter what. ”
The ancients said, "Don't be small and do nothing about being good." ” A vicious person, as long as there is a good thought in his heart, is a person who can be saved.
Shakyamuni moved his compassion and lowered a spider silk that extended to Gandhartha's side.
Gandhartha climbed up along the spider silk. At this time, many people who wanted to leave hell found spider silk and grabbed it one by one.
Gandhartha was worried about how such a fine spider silk could bear the weight of so many people. He cried hysterically: You sinners, this spider silk belongs to me, who allowed you to climb up? Roll me down. “”
Suddenly, the spider silk broke in response.
Some people say that selfishness is the source of all evil.
What is the use of a selfish person, even if he goes to the human world? He just enjoys everything and doesn't know how to be grateful and doesn't help others.
Share happiness with others, happiness will double; share flowers with others, you will have the afterscent in your hands; share money with others, you will become richer; share wisdom with others, you can also take back more wisdom.
We used to be in the square, sharing bread with the pigeons, and when the pigeons were flying high, we were happy. But why don't we want to share our happiness with those around us?
Know that all those who are willing to accept sharing are your friends, and you will receive gifts in the dark.
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Conclusion.
If you want to please others, the first step is to get along with yourself. A person who cannot accept himself has no way to accept others.
Get along with your own body and live a healthy life; get along with your own soul and make your heart clean and kind; get along with your soul, integrate your soul into nature, and feel the beauty of everything.
How good you are, how good your impression is on others. Even people who misunderstand you will re-recognize you after a long time and even look at you with surprise.
If you find that others are ostracizing you, and you still insist on your attitude and are unwilling to communicate with people, then there are more and more people with thorns around you - the world is big, but you have no place to live.
Oniguchi said, "If you want to take first, if you want to be the same, you want to be different, and you want to be the first." ”
If you want to get help from others, you always have to give something to others; if you want to be approved, you must first accept the differences of others.
Be a person, stretch with degrees, can flex and stretch.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.